Would you allow a relative to stay if their dog wasn't house trained?

[Myotherusernameisshy]

Just that really.
I had invited a relative to stay with us for a family wedding. He accepted but then told me his dog isn't housetrained. To be clear, we have dogs and are normally happy to have family bring their pets too but our dogs are all fully trained.
All our carpets are new - less than a month old - and the house is open plan so it's impossible to contain his dog while he is here. I've said he can't bring the dog but it looks like that will mean he misses the wedding so I feel guilty.

No and I'm no Mrs Hinch but animal piss is another level.

You saying the dog can’t stay would not be the reason he couldn’t go to the wedding, him failing to sort out proper arrangements for his dog would be the reason.

No

No, I have two dogs and don’t allow a friend to come to my house with her dog who’s house training is poor.

Is he offering to pay to replace all your carpets at the end of the stay? I bet no, so that would be my answer !

No, not unless it was for a short period of time and I could ensure no damage to my house and carpets.

Why can’t he send it to boarding kennels??
it’s not on you if he misses the wedding.
As someone who has a hard to train dog, I would say no. My dog can be contained and we have hard floors, I would never inflict that on someone else. Your relative is being selfish even suggesting it.

No, definitely not. And with the exception of MIL (because not worth the battle and occasionally every couple years she provides some childcare), no one is allowed to bring their dogs to our house.

We have a dog who is perfectly housetrained. But I would still not ask to bring her to someone else's house or make it an excuse why I couldn't attend a family wedding. I'd hire a dogsitter and leave dog at home or hire a dog friendly airbnb and leave dog crated for a couple hours for the duration of the wedding. Or I'd not go if I couldn't leave my dog unattended. Nothing to do with you.

No, and I own a dog.

You can’t leave an untrained dog in a strange house for a few hours without damage likely to happen.

What type of dog?

There is a vast difference between the amount of waste a chihuahua can produce compared to a Greyhound and the former can wear a nappy inside the house if only for a few hours.

I personally would be okay with small dog if it was wearing diapers but it's your house, your rules. It's not unreasonable to decline guests for any reason.

No, but then I wouldn't have a dog in the house even if the owner siad it was housetrained.

You aren't the one who should be feeling guilty. He was unreasonable to even ask. Even bringing a well-behaved, house trained dog to someone's house is a pretty big ask in terms of the fur, smell and containing them so other pets aren't disturbed.

How long has he had this dog and why hasn't he trained it?

Fuck no !

Of course not. I'm trying to imagine the state of his car by the time he arrives as well.

The dogs wouldn't have been left together - my dogs will go to a friend for the day anyway.
Apparently the dog was a rescue and untrained when he got it but he has had it for years. I don't think it's likely he can train it by the end of the month.
I haven't heard from him today but I'm just going to leave it to him to decide.

I'm sorry? You're going to leave it to the relative to decide whether they bring a dog that isn't house trained to your home???

That would be a HUGE and I mean HUGE mistake by you.

It's your home. Not theirs. They do NOT get to bring a dog that isn't housetrained to your home. Put your foot down now. Don't leave it to someone else who will most likely say "Well as @Myotherusernameisshy didn't object or say no, we're off to visit them Rex" and they bring their dog with them.

Have you ever said no to this relative?

Absolutely this.

No no no and it could set your trained dogs back with scent marks inside.

No way. Not really your problem. He can make other arrangements for his dog.

No way. And what kind of person accepts an invitation to stay and assumes it’s ok to bring their non-housetrained dog?
Why on earth do you feel guilty? It’s his responsibility to find care for his dog if he wants to go out. It’s not normal to expect to stay in someone else’s home with a dog, let alone one that isn’t housetrained. Was he planning to leave the dog in your house all day while you were all at the wedding?

Oh good grief I’ve just seen the update.
“I haven't heard from him today but I'm just going to leave it to him to decide”

What are you thinking? It’s YOUR home, other people don’t get to decide whether to come and who and what they’ll bring. Are you afraid of him? Afraid of saying no to people?

Seriously? You have to ask…. I have a dog, I love dogs. There is no chance I would let a dog use my home as a lavatory.

It’s also very unfair on your dogs.

I also find it incredibly hard to believe this friend lets his dog pee and poop all over his house!

Apparently the dog was a rescue and untrained when he got it but he has had it for years

What sort of person lives for years with a dog fouling in their home? The stench must be unreal. Diry bastard.

I think the op means she is leaving it to him to decide whether to come without the dog or miss the wedding.