Would you allow a relative to stay if their dog wasn't house trained?

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Just that really.
I had invited a relative to stay with us for a family wedding. He accepted but then told me his dog isn't housetrained. To be clear, we have dogs and are normally happy to have family bring their pets too but our dogs are all fully trained.
All our carpets are new - less than a month old - and the house is open plan so it's impossible to contain his dog while he is here. I've said he can't bring the dog but it looks like that will mean he misses the wedding so I feel guilty.

No chance, why would he not house train his dog?? Plus if he hasn’t even managed the most basic training, I bet the dog is an absolute nightmare!

Absolutely not

I had this issue constantly with my partner. Before we moved in together - she had 1 dog, and I had 1 dog. No issue. However, every time she stayed over she insisted on bringing the dog, who was completely untrained. Accidents everywhere, chewing, jumping on furniture, "digging" into the furniture so it's now all scratched, and barks constantly, and ALL night long 😫
Her argument was always "well you have a dog".. So, not recognising the stress and damage, just completely ignorant.
We moved in together, and I am still trying to train this dog !!! It's been an absolute nightmare, and honestly, it's enough to make me not want her living here anymore 😔

Say a definite NO. Trust me. The stress it causes is not worth it.

I have a dog and there is absolutely no way I would put up with this

You need to tell your relative that you're not prepared to have an untrained dog in your house, so if he wants to stay he'll have to make other arrangements for the dog

That is a him problem.

How is this even a question. Hard no. Relative can fuck off if he makes you feel guilty. He needs to pay for a dog sitter at his own house

Thank you

OMG dog crap is the worst thing ever

Absolutely not to stay.

I'd probably consider it for an afternoon visit if they were almost house trained as we can keep it where there's hard floors and can easily deal with an occasional accident.
I wouldn't have any un-house trained dog to stay, carpets or no carpets.

Look the fact that he brought it up suggests to me that he knows it’s pretty unlikely that you’d agree. He’s giving you the chance to say no.

No - absolutely not - and Making why on earth did your GF and her dog move in ? ... I am sure you posted about this situation before you were living together . You must have known it was going to be a nightmare.

Another ‘no’.

Why can’t he get a dog sitter or use kennels, like normal people do?

Why hasn’t he trained the dog?

@Makingamess4212 that stressed me out just reading that!

She's my wife, we lived together before but then had to have separate homes for her job. We were always moving back in together, and once I was pregnant that sped the process up!
I have always pleaded with her to sort the dog out, to pay for training, anything. I don't know if she is just blind to certain things, but to her, those things weren't an issue 🤔

It's become a real issue in our marriage. And now that DS is here, (6 weeks) it's even harder !

It sounds a lot more complicated than it was 😂
But the dog is still a nightmare 😕

No way and you shouldn't feel guilty because he is the one deciding to miss the wedding because of his dog. He could get a dog sitter if he wanted to or pay for separate accommodation.

The onus is on him to sort his dog out, not you.

Do they have doggie diapers?

Dog owner here, and amazed that the brother even thought the dog was invited to the OP's home in the first place.

Even if the dog wasn't a random shitter, the idea of leaving dogs who don't know each other together unsupervised is a potential disaster.

Oh god no and I'm a total animal lover and have had dogs over the years. The cost could be astronomical and it wouldn't even really be the dogs fault

When is the wedding? Has he got time to train the dog? (I don't know how hard it is to house train a dog, I've always had cats which are easy!)

Not a chance.

No, and I say that as someone with dogs

Nope. He needs to arrange a house sitter or jkennels. Can’t believe he even asked really.

Absolutely not