Would you knowingly marry an asexual man

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If you were a sexual being as a woman ?
Would you be happy with hugs and kisses but know he has a repulsed by womens bits .
Even if you love him??
Has anyone had this ?
Where he pretended for a while until he couldn't anymore and she had tried everything to get him to show interest in her sexually.
Could it last?
No babies planned as he doesn't want any and
Doesn't want sex .
Opinions or experience please ?

Only if both partners are asexual or neither want children. But not wanting children is something that can change and does change so no, the overall answer is a definite no

Nope. I like sex and consider that an important part of a romantic relationship. If I really got on with a person and there was no mutual attraction then I’d be friends with them instead. But there is no way on earth I’d be in a relationship with someone who was “repulsed” by me- why would anyone choose that? It would make you feel absolutely rubbish.

Does his name begin with T?

Not in these circumstances, no. Primarily because of the "revulsion" aspect and the fact he hadn't been honest from the outset.

I know a couple of asexual men (and one woman) who have no interest in sex but they don't find genitalia repulsive. I couldn't be with someone who found me disgusting.

Now, in a heartbeat. I am more than happy with no sex and would love cuddles that had no expectations attached. When younger no as I wanted kids and sometimes sex.

No. I like sex and the lying for years would end all trust.

Gently I would add the only men I know who are actually repulsed by female genitalia are either gay or victims of csa.

No, I couldn't do it, knowing how hard I've found it being in an otherwise very happy marriage with a husband with a much lower libido. My self esteem has been battered by sexual rejection, despite him being otherwise physically affectionate and loving. I find it really hard not being desired by my husband. We do have sex occasionally, and when it happens (only ever at his instigation), it's great. But just infrequent.

I know others may not be so fussed about lack of sex, but there's no way I could be with someone who found sex with me repulsive.

One of the things about abusive relationships is they really lower your standards for future relationships. Don't you think you deserve a relationship with someone who loves all of you? Who would not dupe you into a relationship by lying about their sexuality? Is sexual connection important to you? Do you want a sexless life with no prospect of children? Are you so afraid of being alone you would settle for this?

No. I would not be happy with no sex life in a relationship.

No.

No. I would assume he’s gay. Totally different if in 60’s, 70’s sex life died a death. That’d be ok.

No. I wouldn't want to be with someone who lied to me. Sex is very important to me in a relationship. I can cope with fluctuations and dry spells, but not with no sex ever again. And the revulsion would be soul destroying.

I would also want to know why he lied. Why be dishonest to get into a relationship? Was he just looking for a housekeeper and someone to make life easier, rather than a loving partner? Is he gay and just trying to hide it? Just no.

@SinglePonders was your comment really necessary?
Op has posted about something in her relationship and you've jumped right in asking if you can have her man.

What an astoundingly ignorant and insensitive post.

No. No. No.

Unless she wants to have her confidence and self-esteem destroyed.

Why would she?

No of course not. Why would you want that? Are you very desperate not to be single? Why don’t you just call yourself best mates and find a boyfriend so at least you can have sex and think about having kids if you want them (which it sounds like you do, since you’d written it off because ‘he doesn’t want them’).
I’ve met men who aren’t really bothered about sex, they can take it or leave it, mostly as they get older. The only men I know who are repulsed at the idea of having sex with a woman are gay.

That's not what asexuality is. It isn't revulsion. Revulsion indicates there is something psychological going on. A phobia. Maybe a traumatic experience in his past, or shame, or guilt.

Hell no

Of course not.
The woman needs to understand what asexual means. You can't change someone's sexuality and turn on that kind of feelings because they don't have that.

An asexual woman and asexual man would have a possible future.

Pre menopause no
Post menopause, probably 😂

Revulsion of female genitalia suggests he's either gay or has experienced sexual abuse. Leave him and find someone who will love you in every way you need to be loved and give him the opportunity to work out why he's repulsed by women so he can address it, either by finding a man he can love or getting therapy for his trauma.

Can people stop calling him gay when she says he's asexual. FFS. Talk about invalidating someone's sexuality.

Does his name begin with T?

Because there's only one asexual man in Britain?

OP, it doesn't matter what other people think, it only matters what you think. He's not going to change his sexuality and it has nothing to do with you. (I'm asexual and Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and whoever others are attracted to would be a no from me.) If you can't accept it then it's best to end it as it will only drag you down.

There's also nothing wrong with not accepting it. It just means you're not compatible and want different things.

People always come out with that crap. "Not being sexually attracted to women means he's gay". No it doesn't. Not sexually attracted to women means not sexually attracted to women. Being sexually attracted to men = gay.