Hi,
Name changed for this.
So I've been with my husband for 7 years. Married for 2 in July. He's always been the sort of person to lie and I did question ever marrying him to be honest.
I found out last year that he had a credit card with £6k on. I knew he had a credit card but was under the impression it had just been paid off every month.
This weekend I saw him using a card I hadn't seen before to which I later when borrowing his wallet to go to the shop found it was another credit card. I asked him about this and this has another just under £6k on. I'm absolutely livid.
I've just started working full time to help with money and I'm so tired and stressed all the time. We have a 4yo and 1yo. I'm doing side hustles to try and help too. But feel like this has all been thrown onto me and I didn't even know about it.
We booked a holiday but I've told him to cancel it which makes me sad as my daughter was so excited.
He's always been a bit of a liar and not told the truth about things and I'm seriously questioning our marriage.
I've told him to go to his mums for a few days but he doesn't want too.
I could honestly leave him right now I'm so angry. He gets really shouty and annoyed at the kids too as a side note which I hate.
I just don't know what to do. I don't think I'm strong enough to kick him out as I feel bad and what if he did something stupid then it would be my fault.
I'm just looking for opinions as I don't want to talk to my friends about this as I'm embarrassed.
Thanks in advance xx