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Going to a gig by myself?

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Leapintothelightning · 05/05/2023 19:50

My absolute favourite band have announced a tour for next year. Since 2007 I think I have only missed one of their UK tours. None of my friends want to go... would I be mental to go by myself??

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RedToothBrush · 10/05/2023 08:31

InFlagrante · 10/05/2023 08:14

The notion that ‘it’s a bit sad’ to do things solo is honestly one of the most damaging ideas out there in terms of people not feeling enabled to act to do enjoyable things without the ‘alibi’ of company, and to feel that they are not ‘enough’ in themselves. I see so many posters on here who have never gone to the cinema alone, far less on holiday, and it’s clearly very restricting.

I've been to the cinema on my own and travelled to Australia on my own for a year. People said I was crazy and brave for doing that. But that assumes you live in a bubble and you don't meet anyone on the way.

One of the biggest things about being on your own is precisely because it forces you to speak to other people and make new friends.

If you go with one other person the temptation is to become completely wrapped up with that person and not speak to the other person next to you because they are a stranger. It's important to break out of that mindset. It really broadens your horizons.

Ultimately I wouldnt have met so many amazing people, had such a laugh or amazing experiences if I'd sat at home lamenting that I didn't have anyone else to do it with.

Go find someone to do it with! Who wants to do it every bit as much as you.

tigger1001 · 10/05/2023 18:47

InFlagrante · 10/05/2023 08:14

The notion that ‘it’s a bit sad’ to do things solo is honestly one of the most damaging ideas out there in terms of people not feeling enabled to act to do enjoyable things without the ‘alibi’ of company, and to feel that they are not ‘enough’ in themselves. I see so many posters on here who have never gone to the cinema alone, far less on holiday, and it’s clearly very restricting.

I agree.

I am a huge tennis fan and was lucky to get tickets in the ballot a few years ago. My friend tried to insist that I couldn't possibly go on my own, and she would come with me. She doesn't like tennis. Kept saying there was no way I could go on my own as I was pregnant. I didn't want her to come as I knew being with someone who didn't enjoy the sport would spoil my enjoyment. I wanted to go on my own and be a kid in a sweetie shop and see all the sights etc without worrying my companion was bored.

She couldn't grasp that I wouldn't be lonely as she said there was no way she could travel all that way in her own with an overnight stay and a day at the tennis.

Me on the other hand, loved every single second!

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