Going to a gig by myself?

[Leapintothelightning]

My absolute favourite band have announced a tour for next year. Since 2007 I think I have only missed one of their UK tours. None of my friends want to go... would I be mental to go by myself??

Go and enjoy it. I truly believe that life is about the things you do.

Until this week I was going to Glastonbury alone, but my friend has sorted a ticket now so it’s Mum’s week off for both of us.

No, Ive been to two alone

I often do this and love it!!

Do it! You'll have the best time x

@Hobbes8 wish there was a like button 😊

Oh god, just go! My DP and I have a lot of music taste in common, but mine is definitely wider / more eclectic. For gigs at our local venue, if he, or none of my mates fancy it, I've gone on my own. It's a friendly venue and I either see people I know, or make new friends for the night.

Then last year, an obscure, but amazing band* I love were coming to the UK, playing in London. I bit the bullet and bought a ticket, got the train to London and saw them play. It was really liberating and I'd definitely do it again. I'm 46F.

I see you said it's Enter Shikari, I saw them support The Prodigy in 2010. If you are worried about being alone, see if anyone on their Facebook group is arranging pre-gig drinks at a pub nearby, or suggest it yourself.

*The band I went to London for was Mongolian throat-singing metallers The Hu. 🤘🏻 They were awesome.

Definitely do it! I go to a lot of gigs with friends but I've also missed a good few over the years because no-one wanted to go. But I went to one on my own last year and now I love it.

No-one will notice that you're on your own. Being on your own also seems to make others start chatting to you, so it's meant that I've met other people that I probably wouldn't have.

The most important thing I can say here is... a gig is probably around a couple of hours. Life is too short to miss out! Go have the best time!!

Definitely go! Maybe have a look on Reddit ( their fan thread/group will be something like r/entershikari). You can look anonymously but there’s usually likeminded fans on these pages flying solo. Took DD to a show recently and there were lots of people standing in general admission on their own. Similar style of music/fans. With loads of people just chatting. You won’t be out of place. I’d like to see them. Enjoy!

Also the tickets are fairly priced and they’re making a £1 donation per ticket to grass roots venues.

My gig buddy of 20 years and I met at a gig that we'd both gone to on our own. Go for it!

@Hobbes8 Howdy, fellow fannies fan!

Don't be so wet.

I was going to gigs by myself from age 17 because my friends were miserable.

It's so much better than going with someone imho. No one else to worry about and no one to look after.

If you don't go I will haunt you in the afterlife

Op isn't being 'wet' at all.

What a horrible comment.

I think you just need to get up and do something if you really want to do it. If you spend your life looking for the approval of others to do what you love in life, yes thats wet. Just go do it, enjoy it. Stop waiting for someone to hold your hand. Being at a gig by yourself is really common and surprisingly normal.

Why is your DH okay to shit on something you love and want to do? I’m seeing them at download and often go to gigs with my boyfriend or friends but if there’s someone I want to see that no one else likes, I’m going. It’s easier to get a good spot alone and I’ve been to a couple of gigs where you could heard the other person moaning loudly because they weren’t interested in the band so I’d rather go alone to things no one else likes.

I did this once aged 18 to see the red hot chili peppers as I was obsessed but had nobody to come with me...I liked the concert but can't say I enjoyed going alone, there was so much waiting around with nobody to talk to or share the excitement with.But others might feel differently.I was quite insular then, if you're a confident sort of person who can easily get chatting and friendly with strangers I'm sure you'd be fine.

Funny thing was, DH was actually at the same gig! It was years before we met though, so shame we didn't know each other then 😂

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here - I tend to always look for approval from others and a definite people pleaser!
Going to a gig on my own has just never crossed my mind so the thought of it was very out of my comfort zone!

No, not at all.
I talked myself out of doing this exactt thing a few years ago, with a singer I really liked.
He's died since.😭

I wouldn't really say he's shitting on it, I asked what he thought and he told me. He's not really a gig person so it's just his opinion on that, he's wrong but he's entitled to that opinion 🤣

I DID IT!
Thanks everyone for your encouragement! 😁

You KNOW you will love it.

No one else knows you are on your own.

There are lots of people who go on their own. You just don't necessarily ever realise it or notice it.

I've always found, that it encourages you to be friendly and people will generally talk to you at a gig even if don't know them.

You will regret it if you don't.

I know I'm a little harsh on this, but I do think people need a push on this one especially women, because otherwise they miss out. And it frustrates me because there is no reason why they should.

Women are socialised never to do anything for themselves by themselves.

Gigs are pretty safe to go to on your own. When they kick out there are large crowds and people going back to the same parking places.

Do it! Have fun! Be part of the crowd.

YES!!!! Enjoy. Have a wonderful time!

It's liberating.

You think it's 'wet' (that's a term I haven't heard used since I was about 14), for someone to look for validation before doing something outside of their comfort zone?

I think it's ok for people to be human and be uncertain about things and look to hear about other people's experiences before branching out. In fact I think it's pretty normal.

Amazing! You will love it.

Well done, leap, hope you have an amazing time.

I've only ever been to a gig by myself once, when a band came down here who none of my friends wanted to see. It did get pretty lonely I have to admit with no one to dance along with.