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Cleaning up grim mess with DH’s towel?

74 replies

Spermtowel · 04/05/2023 11:44

Name changed for this as it’s embarrassing and grim!

My DH keeps leaving bodily fluid (jizz/sperm/whatever you want to call it!) in the shower so I have started wiping it off with his own towel and hanging it back up for him to use. AIBU?

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Ponoka7 · 04/05/2023 12:12

If this is real then he's doing it deliberately. Is he also complaining about a lack of sex? This disrespect should be a deal breaker.

DollyP88 · 04/05/2023 12:12

But I wouldn’t put one of my towels in it, in answer to your actual question. Unless I wanted to never go near him ever again… He needs a chat.

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 04/05/2023 12:13

@SoupDragon You made me laugh

readbooksdrinktea · 04/05/2023 12:14

WeWereInParis · 04/05/2023 11:53

Why are you the one cleaning this?

This! Tell him to clean up after himself. I'm adding this to the list of reasons never to live with a man. Utterly gross.

DollyP88 · 04/05/2023 12:16

ejbaxa · 04/05/2023 12:03

I don’t understand. Why isn’t it going down the shower drain 😵‍💫 when he’s in the shower

also why would you clean it up with his towel? 😵‍💫 🤮. So that he smears rehydrated crusty jizz on himself when he next gets dry?

this is very bizarre. Why don’t you just tell him to make sure he leaves the shower clean?

‘Crusty’?! 😱🤢🙈 I have to say this reminded me of when Julia’s mum in Motherland complains about her crusty “like drying with Weetabix” towels… But yes, I agree with you. 😂

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Thesharkradar · 04/05/2023 12:18

1-I would designate the shower his territory and never clean or use it myself.

2-I would then photograph it every week and monitor the level of bodily fluid encrustment that it reaches before he does anything about it.

JandalsAlways · 04/05/2023 12:18

Wow he's a special kind of disgusting and lazy if he can't even rinse off in the shower. Ltb. 🤢

Munchyseeds2 · 04/05/2023 12:23

Is he shortsighted??
Just leave it for him to clean

PhillySub · 04/05/2023 12:29

And your relationship is such that you can't just discuss this?

CurlewKate · 04/05/2023 12:31

Why aren't you saying "Hey, gutfeatures- clean the shower!"

Giggorata · 04/05/2023 12:32

If this is real, then consider that of all the places in the house where it is easy to wash away jizz, the shower is the easiest.
All he has to do is rinse and wipe, which you would hope he does anyway after showering. It isn't your job.
Therefore, I can only conclude that this is blatant and intentional disrespect.

I would give him fair warning that this must be cleaned up, now and forever, or else I would clean it with his pillowcase, favourite shirt, etc.
But how could you possibly continue to love someone who does this?

NotAnotherBathBomb · 04/05/2023 12:34

In the dungeon with you.

Narco · 04/05/2023 12:34

I would seek a divorce

HashtagShitShop · 04/05/2023 12:35

DollyP88 · 04/05/2023 12:16

‘Crusty’?! 😱🤢🙈 I have to say this reminded me of when Julia’s mum in Motherland complains about her crusty “like drying with Weetabix” towels… But yes, I agree with you. 😂

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Let's be fair, @DollyP88. This is something Paul and Julia would do too 😂😂

takealettermsjones · 04/05/2023 12:36

I can't be the only one confused about how this is actually happening... Does he stop the water and then ejaculate? Because if the water was running it would wash away, wouldn't it?

Are you sure it's not Jif? 😆

GeraltsBathtub · 04/05/2023 12:36

Obviously he should be cleaning it himself but why on earth would you use a towel and not just rinse it off with the shower water? Confused

Thesharkradar · 04/05/2023 12:37

Leave it until it's so heavily encrusted he can't see out, then invite his parents/friends around and if they go to the bathroom mention quietly to them that the shower looks like that because of his bodily fluids that he never cleans off

NCforthis123456 · 04/05/2023 12:37

How utterly disrespectful of him. I have no aversion to self love and think its natural, however to leave the contents of himself in the shower for the next person is utterly disrespectful to you.

NotAnotherBathBomb · 04/05/2023 12:37

Roll-tay in the ungeon-day

RichardHeed · 04/05/2023 12:39

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 04/05/2023 11:54

How do you know it's that? Some shower gel is like white creamy stuff 🤣

I’ve just bought a cerave face wash, one of those ones with the pumps. I pushed the pump down and got a shock how fast it came out and the consistency… let’s just say it brought back memories 😂

Laurdo · 04/05/2023 12:42

takealettermsjones · 04/05/2023 12:36

I can't be the only one confused about how this is actually happening... Does he stop the water and then ejaculate? Because if the water was running it would wash away, wouldn't it?

Are you sure it's not Jif? 😆

Maybe he's shooting it up high above the level of the shower. 🤣

Laurdo · 04/05/2023 12:43

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/05/2023 11:58

It’s only a body fluid, and presumably one you regularly come into close contact with, just in a different room of the house? I can’t imagine being this embarrassed about jizz around somebody I was having sex with. Just tell him to rinse around the shower properly before he gets out.

Maybe the kids use the same shower.

OrlandointheWilderness · 04/05/2023 12:44

Just speak to him! He is obviously entitled to have a wank in the shower, but needs to make sure it's left clean. Then tell him if he doesn't you'll be using his toothbrush to remove it.

Laurdo · 04/05/2023 12:45

Urgh, this just reminded me of the time I came home from work to find my thankfully now ex husband's jizz all over the computer desk in the livingroom. Apparently he forgot to clean it up. 🤮