Not sure if I am being unreasonable.
DS is 19 currently in a gap year and working and saving for uni.
He is going on mates holiday which we are paying towards.
Dh is taking him to Barcelona for a long weekend for his birthday in a couple of months.
Last year Ds didn't want to come on our main family holiday so stayed at home.
DS comes and goes as he pleases and is generally not involved in family life. Not interested in anyone or anything. Fair enough he's 19.
But here's the rub.
I wanted to take the other 2 dc to Alton towers in half term for a couple of days. 19 year old has announced that he wants to come.
He also wants to come on a 'free' summer holiday with the family. Except its not free. We will be footing the bill.
AIBU to not want him coming.
I looked at Alton towers and the cost for adding 1 extra person is ludicrous it goes from £800 ish to £1400 ish.
Similarly the summer holiday cost goes up hugely because we end up having 2 rooms.
The other DC are 12 ans 9 and having 19 year old there completely changes the dynamic as he and 12 year old ds will probably play in the pool and 9 year old dd will be left out.
9 year old dd annoys 19 year old ds for example he says that she 'airs' him and so he doesn't bother talking to her.
. DH says how can we say no??.