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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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Peppadog · 27/04/2023 13:07

PrettyMaybug · 27/04/2023 10:49

@blueberry23

What a strange thread. I have to agree with quite a few posters on here, there are some ridiculous stereotypes and assumptions on here. Like only boys can get dirty and play outside, boys have fewer emotions, and boys are much closer to their mums than girls!!! (All absolute bollox.)

As a previous poster said, just wait until your son is married. Wait until you're a mother-in-law. There's a strong chance that you'll find that your precious son who is 'so close to his mum' suddenly becomes closer to his wife's mum, and your grandchildren will be a bit closer to his wife's mum as well - and his wife's dad.. Most of the time (not always but most of the time,) the grandchildren are closer to the maternal grandparents... (than the paternal ones.) And your son and his wife will spend more time with HER parents than they will with you. Seen it happen soooo many times.

All this absolute hogwash about 'girls must wear pink,' 'girls can't get dirty,' and 'girls are fluffy and emotional,' is so harmful and stereotypical and ridiculous. It's harmful because it projects an image to girls that there are limits to what they are allowed to do.

I was fuming the other week when I saw boys (blue, and black) t-shirts in a supermarket, with 'be bold, be brave' on them, and other boys t-shirts with pictures of rockets, and planets. Whilst the girls (pink!) t-shirts had 'BE KIND' and 'BE SWEET' emblazoned across them, with pictures of fucking fluffy bunnies and unicorns.

My daughter (late 20s now,) has always absolutely loved video gaming and science/ space/ astronomy etc. And she used to love exploring the woods with her friends (male AND female,) and skateboarding, and climbing trees. My lovely niece (early 20s,) absolutely loves gardening and flowers and nature and hedgehogs and birds, and she loves to play golf too! So neither one fits the silly girly fluffy pink shite image.

There is a very strong sense of 'methinks the lady doth protest too much' on here... Although I'm sure some people are perfectly happy to have boys, when there is gender disappointment, (on these forums and similar ones,) it is almost always when it's a boy.

I don't think I've ever known anybody in real life, who has had a girl, and been disappointed. I know a few people with multiple girls. A few have 3 or 4. Not ONE wishes they had a son. I also know a few people with multiple boys - (between 2 and 5 boys,) and every one of them cried and was very low and depressed for a number of months, when they had 1 or 2 boys already, and they had yet ANOTHER boy.

I don't give a shiny shite if people LOVE having boys/sons, but to make a thread about it is very odd. It's like the 'I just LOVE being single' threads. Seems like they are trying to convince themselves - and everyone else, that they are soooooo happy with their lot! The fact they come to a major chat forum to express how amazingly happy they are to be single (or have only sons and no daughters,) tells a different tale ... As I said 'methinks the lady doth protest too much............. Wink

@PrettyMaybug

You have just slated the OP for stereotypes and then used loads yourself against boys.
The mother in law threads are to be expected, it's a mostly female forum, it doesn't mean most boys lose contact with their parents, utter nonsense, it's not something ive ever experienced in my really close family.

It's actually threads like these that make some people nervous to have girls. This nastiness and 'pile on' attitude, all the sarcastic posts 'lady doth protest nonsense', 'ikkle princes', fake flowers,
This is so typical of Mumsnet, a mostly female forum.
And this is what plays out on the playground with girls. It's quite frankly sickening and I would hope that any daughter of mine wouldn't have to navigate it but they do! I remember it so clearly from school, the school playground bitchiness becomes the Mumsnet forum bitchiness 20 years later, women determined to take each other down in the most personal way possible at the slightest hint that someone might be happy.

It's lovely that OP is excited to have a boy, the fact that so many posters are desperate to tell her all the reasons she should be miserable is just weird. Congratulations OP, I think I'm done with this awful thread.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 27/04/2023 13:19

PrettyMaybug · 27/04/2023 10:49

@blueberry23

What a strange thread. I have to agree with quite a few posters on here, there are some ridiculous stereotypes and assumptions on here. Like only boys can get dirty and play outside, boys have fewer emotions, and boys are much closer to their mums than girls!!! (All absolute bollox.)

As a previous poster said, just wait until your son is married. Wait until you're a mother-in-law. There's a strong chance that you'll find that your precious son who is 'so close to his mum' suddenly becomes closer to his wife's mum, and your grandchildren will be a bit closer to his wife's mum as well - and his wife's dad.. Most of the time (not always but most of the time,) the grandchildren are closer to the maternal grandparents... (than the paternal ones.) And your son and his wife will spend more time with HER parents than they will with you. Seen it happen soooo many times.

All this absolute hogwash about 'girls must wear pink,' 'girls can't get dirty,' and 'girls are fluffy and emotional,' is so harmful and stereotypical and ridiculous. It's harmful because it projects an image to girls that there are limits to what they are allowed to do.

I was fuming the other week when I saw boys (blue, and black) t-shirts in a supermarket, with 'be bold, be brave' on them, and other boys t-shirts with pictures of rockets, and planets. Whilst the girls (pink!) t-shirts had 'BE KIND' and 'BE SWEET' emblazoned across them, with pictures of fucking fluffy bunnies and unicorns.

My daughter (late 20s now,) has always absolutely loved video gaming and science/ space/ astronomy etc. And she used to love exploring the woods with her friends (male AND female,) and skateboarding, and climbing trees. My lovely niece (early 20s,) absolutely loves gardening and flowers and nature and hedgehogs and birds, and she loves to play golf too! So neither one fits the silly girly fluffy pink shite image.

There is a very strong sense of 'methinks the lady doth protest too much' on here... Although I'm sure some people are perfectly happy to have boys, when there is gender disappointment, (on these forums and similar ones,) it is almost always when it's a boy.

I don't think I've ever known anybody in real life, who has had a girl, and been disappointed. I know a few people with multiple girls. A few have 3 or 4. Not ONE wishes they had a son. I also know a few people with multiple boys - (between 2 and 5 boys,) and every one of them cried and was very low and depressed for a number of months, when they had 1 or 2 boys already, and they had yet ANOTHER boy.

I don't give a shiny shite if people LOVE having boys/sons, but to make a thread about it is very odd. It's like the 'I just LOVE being single' threads. Seems like they are trying to convince themselves - and everyone else, that they are soooooo happy with their lot! The fact they come to a major chat forum to express how amazingly happy they are to be single (or have only sons and no daughters,) tells a different tale ... As I said 'methinks the lady doth protest too much............. Wink

What an unpleasant post, full of absolute shite, spite and the same kind of gender stereotyping the OP has been panned for. Take a look at yourself and why you need to post such unpleasantness to a pregnant woman.

DrMeredithGrey2023 · 27/04/2023 13:24

I've got 4 boys - lucky me - it's an awesome ride - no time for how do I look ? / Where's my best coat and shoes - just get out there and enjoy

What? What does this even mean?!

As a mother of girls, am I meant to be making sure I'm in my 'best coat and shoes' before I leave the house? Or is it them?

Why would having girls mean that I have more time to think about how I look? Did I get an extra hour added to my day for every child I birthed that happened to have a vagina?

This post is so odd, and I don't think I've ever seen the flip side of it. I love having children, I can't imagine thinking that I must inform the world of that, let alone reduce it down to sex

Misspacorabanne · 27/04/2023 13:53

@PrettyMaybug how nasty!
my boys are closer to in-laws than my own parents! It’s got nothing to do with always being closer to the wife’s family! What a load of twaddle! Honestly! It’s how close the family are in general. Why you’d say that to any pregnant mum, or mum of any boy is just beyond me!

Lennybenny · 27/04/2023 14:32

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LinMortisanass · 27/04/2023 14:36

Congratulations on a healthy baby, pink or blue.

Oysterbabe · 27/04/2023 14:48

Neither are trans, gay or ND. Perfectly normal young men.

Normal are they? Not like those gays. 😖

Newnamenewname109870 · 27/04/2023 14:51

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Wow lucky you your boys are ‘normal’.

Lennybenny · 27/04/2023 14:51

Oysterbabe · 27/04/2023 14:48

Neither are trans, gay or ND. Perfectly normal young men.

Normal are they? Not like those gays. 😖

You forgot them ND and them trans...

Mumto1boyo · 27/04/2023 15:01

Wow one page in and already seen 'misogynistic' and 'gender sterotypes'.

Mumto1boyo · 27/04/2023 15:03

Bloody hell, can't someone post any good news on here without getting ripped to shit? OP no doubt just wanted to share the good news and didn't intentionally mean to offend anyone.

Scalottia · 27/04/2023 15:03

LinMortisanass · 27/04/2023 14:36

Congratulations on a healthy baby, pink or blue.

Pink or blue? Fuck off.

SittingNextToIt · 27/04/2023 15:04

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

Interesting.

We are currently dealing with 7 year old DS's intensely sensitive nature, his ability feel hurt at the slightest perceived slight (not real slight), and his general demeanor of a feather.

We are also dealing with 3 year old DD - and her constantly muddy clothes, her constant scrapes and bumps from bikes and climbing frames and her absolute inability to sit still and do colouring in.

SittingNextToIt · 27/04/2023 15:05

LinMortisanass · 27/04/2023 14:36

Congratulations on a healthy baby, pink or blue.

WTF did i just read.

GneissGuysFinishLast · 27/04/2023 15:20

Binningtonianrose · 27/04/2023 12:48

I have three boys and they have always been delightful bar the Kevin and Perry puberty years.
Boys are WONDERFUL
Totally agree with you OP

Nobody is saying boys ARENT wonderful. Boys are wonderful.

So are girls.

Mothers of multiple girls or children of mixed genders don’t tend to base their entire personality on their children’s genitals in the way that many mothers of boys only do, though.

GneissGuysFinishLast · 27/04/2023 15:22

LinMortisanass · 27/04/2023 14:36

Congratulations on a healthy baby, pink or blue.

I’m seriously hoping that OPs baby will be pink upon its birth.

Misspacorabanne · 27/04/2023 15:51

@GneissGuysFinishLast vile!

MrsKeats · 27/04/2023 17:06

Pink or blue? Yuck.

Babycakes6 · 27/04/2023 17:12

ChachiChichi · 26/04/2023 22:11

I hope posting this 'lighthearted' thread has made you feel better about your clear sense of bitterness.

Exactly👌
What an awful misogynistic post! I am for one very happy she is not having a daughter

fitzwilliamdarcy · 27/04/2023 17:26

What's wrong with wanting boys? Neither are trans, gay or ND. Perfectly normal young men. No doubt I'll be slated for saying that but it's true.

Wow.

Cam22 · 27/04/2023 17:31

TooOldForThisNonsense · 27/04/2023 13:19

What an unpleasant post, full of absolute shite, spite and the same kind of gender stereotyping the OP has been panned for. Take a look at yourself and why you need to post such unpleasantness to a pregnant woman.

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Agreed.

ily0xx · 27/04/2023 17:39

You seem like a toxic boy mum ngl

pinkpanthapp · 27/04/2023 17:47

I find it really odd that people with boys always say 'boys love their mums' do you not think girls love their mums too? Let's be honest, most girls grow up to be closer to their mums than the boys, the boys meet a wife and have their own families. Odd thing to say.

pinkpanthapp · 27/04/2023 17:48

Also sounds to me like you are trying to convince yourself you don't have gender disappointment ..

dailytalk · 27/04/2023 17:52

Is your baby healthy?