To ask you to share CF in law stories from your weddings?

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Please share your CF in law stories from your weddings. I need to know it's not just me that has one.

I got married on Saturday. We had a micro wedding for multiple reasons. Our daughter, our closest friend each and their partner, and our parents or in my case parental. No siblings or other family.

My Mother in Law is weirdly emeshed with DH's two older siblings and can't cope if they aren't included in everything.

As we were cutting the cake, and having our moment, She shouts out "Make sure you save a piece for BIL, SIL and grandad!" After we'd served everyone she hacked off a huge messy chunk for them, rather than take the finger slices we'd been cutting rendering the rest of the top tier unusable.

It sounds childish but out of all the "petty" moments of the day this one stuck out the most. I think it's because she "stole" my moment.

I'm sure I'll laugh about it in years to come, but it's been four days and amongst the nastier things she did I am beyond angry. So I'm using MN as a form of catharsis, in the hopes that other people have nightmare in laws 😁

Your husband should’ve said something at the time! How dare anyone cut your cake.

At least in future at other events you can announce jokingly ‘MIL step away from the cake because you hack pieces off!!’

My MIL wore a beautiful outfit to our wedding then changed into stained jeans for the evening…. Moaned we’d gone off somewhere for photos to be taken… and why wasn’t she told so she could come. 😂

First wedding : Uncle-in-law brought his own corned beef sandwiches in foil because he didn't fancy the meal provided. In fairness this was great comedy value as I knew in advance but elected not to tell a good friend who was sat on his table, so I could watch her face

Second wedding : BIL and family didn't come from their home country (fine, not a problem) but then FaceTimed into every part of the day like it was some great unavoidable tragedy that had prevented them from coming and they'd do anything to be there with us. They were on holiday in a country further away, booked long after they'd had, and declined, their invite

I had the same. I’ll never get over it. FIL and MIL in the room minutes after I gave birth, holding my baby, I was so out of it I had no say

My second wedding mil rang on the morning to say she wasn't having our dc there to get dressed after all as she had to get her hair done...
Luckily her decision probably saved ds's life. He had very recently had surgery and was out on oral meds. He was lethargic and unable to take his own weight that morning . Rushed to hospital and he was going into septic shock. They let us take him home for the ceremony on iv meds.. He rallied round fine. We never told ils how close it was or she would never have let him out her sight. Ils were way ott with dc.. If she had had him at her house she prob would have assumed he was tired and shoved him in the pram.

My MIL phoned as l was getting ready for our wedding to ask me if me and DH would go to hospital between the service and the reception to visit her ‘friend’, saying that this friend would love to see me in my dress. I’ve never liked being the centre of attention, was stressed about the day anyway so the thought of going round a hospital in full bridal outfit tipped me over into tears. However, everyone seemed to think it was nice thing to do so we agreed. Long story short, the woman wasn’t a friend at, just an old neighbour who DH’s parents had lived next to thirty years earlier (my husband didn’t remember her) and when we got to the ward, she didn’t know who we were and obviously couldn’t have

Sorry, but I'm howling! 😁🤣

My DH's sister was one of the bridesmaids at our wedding many years ago, she was about nineteen at the time.

DH came home one day saying that his parents wanted her boyfriend invited to the wedding. I suggested he came to the evening party but apparently this wasn't good enough.

So as not to upset his sister I agreed even though she would be on the top table with us and wouldn't be spending much time with him for most of the day.
He was included in ALL the photos even though I said it wasn't appropriate but PIL insisted !

Eighteen months later they split up and my first thought was 'that bastard is on all my wedding photos !"

I have since taken great pleasure in getting the wedding album out now and again over the years especially when his side of the family visit.
And there and behold is the Ex boyfriend on every bloody photo !

The look on their faces is always priceless as they squirm when his sisters children ask who everyone is.
Even her DH raises his eyebrows but I am exacting my revenge.

After our tiny wedding, husband’s parents and sisters stayed at our home as we had our one night honeymoon. Came back to a tip and all our wedding gift’s opened. No idea who gifted what. Apparently fine for them to do all that . CFs with a capital C.

More power to your elbow 😁

@Gloriousgardener11 Meh I couldn't get too stressed about that. I'd have found it worse to insist a partner (even of a young relative) wasn't in the photos purely because they might split up in the future.

We're not even a year in and DH's sister has split from the guy she was with at our wedding. He's in all the family pictures but it is what it is, we didn't know they'd split up at the time and it would have been awful to have him stand aside.

Obviously your MIL shouldn’t have shouted out, but I think it’s completely normal for her to be disappointed that your DH’s siblings weren’t invited. It’s irrelevant whether your siblings were invited or not (I wouldn’t blame them if they were upset either).

Getting married is a huge deal and unless you don’t have a good relationship with your siblings, it’s normal for them to be there.

It was your choice who to invite, but that doesn’t mean no one is allowed to feel hurt by your decision.

Blimey! Which one did your parents go to?

I'm obviously in a lot of exBIL wedding pics, group pics, family pics etc all taken by the professional photographer. So I wonder what they say about that. Then exSIL got married and obviously exDH had a new partner who he isn't with now!

So 2 weddings and 2 different partners and they were literally 2 years apart 🤣

There was 1 hour between the service finishing and the wedding breakfast. Not 4 or 5 hours.

Remember our pastor saying that a wedding joined two families, not just two people. However small the wedding, I would therefore expect close family to be invited in preference to friends. I can understand OP‘s Mil being upset that grandpa wasn’t invited. Frankly if our DD had done that at her wedding, I would have been ashamed to have raised such a selfish person.

Why don't you try reading all the OP's posts, not just the first one? All explained if you make the effort. Easy to do if you're on the website. Admittedly, not so easy on the app as you can't filter to see just the OP's posts, but by this time in a long thread it's obvious everything will have moved on from the OP.

I waded through the first 5 pages on my phone. Unfortunately I don’t have the luxury of taking the time to boot up my pc…..
Thank you for taking the time to point out that I missed something without telling me what it was 😂

I posted this on another thread and it's relevant here too...!

Our wedding. When sending the invitations out, BIL had split up from his girlfriend a good while prior after a lot of back and forth - they have 1 child together - and was casually seeing (aka shagging) other women. We were pleased as the now ex-girlfriend was a nasty piece of work, physically violent towards him and lots of mental abuse to boot. So we didn't invite her to the wedding.

As soon as the invitations landed on doormats, MIL kicked off saying that BIL's ex should be invited, and if we didn't, she wouldn't be coming to the wedding either!

Guess who got told to fuck around and find out 😂 and yep... MIL duly came in the end when she realised how utterly ridiculous she sounded. Oh and not that it should matter but they didn't pay a penny towards the ceremony/reception anyway so she couldn't pull the 'I paid for this so I get a say' card.

Grandparents both in homes unable to attend, they are visiting them after the wedding.

Frail, elderly grandparents who would never have been able to attend. Plans in place to visit them as soon as possible after the wedding. That's it in a nutshell.

Why did we get a cake with tiers for a small wedding? Because we paid for the entire wedding and we wanted a cake with tiers.

We were planning on sharing out the cake with in laws anyway. She would have known that as we always give extra that we've baked etc. But she had to be in control and take over.

And it was unusable because the top was way narrower than the bottom and cause she'd cut it wonky it was all crumbling etc.

I dunno why not waiting until we cut the cake, had our moment and had served to the guests was pretty awful from her POV? Maybe because she's ridiculously controlling and entitled?

Cross post with the Walrus! [Yet another sentence I never thought I'd type.]

Haha!!

Not in laws but my actual sister. Didn't speak to me at any point other than to criticise the catering. Even if the bride looks like Lily Savage you make lie and tell her she looks beautiful, but no. Not a thing.

SiL was so angry I didn’t ask her to be bridesmaid she had her own one made! Then announced to everyone at the wedding that her dress cost more than my wedding dress.
She also bought my MiL’s outfit for her without asking her first. MiL wanted blue. The outfit was bright pink with a massive hat! MiL was not even 5ft and hated it! She looked like a mushroom!
FiL refused to stay over at hotel on wedding night because he thought it was too expensive (he was loaded) so we paid it for them. He then got up at 5am and left to go fishing.
I could go on…we’re now divorced! I should have seen the red flags!!! 🤣🤣🤣

It’s a piece of cake just let her take some for her dad and family