To ask you to share CF in law stories from your weddings?

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Please share your CF in law stories from your weddings. I need to know it's not just me that has one.

I got married on Saturday. We had a micro wedding for multiple reasons. Our daughter, our closest friend each and their partner, and our parents or in my case parental. No siblings or other family.

My Mother in Law is weirdly emeshed with DH's two older siblings and can't cope if they aren't included in everything.

As we were cutting the cake, and having our moment, She shouts out "Make sure you save a piece for BIL, SIL and grandad!" After we'd served everyone she hacked off a huge messy chunk for them, rather than take the finger slices we'd been cutting rendering the rest of the top tier unusable.

It sounds childish but out of all the "petty" moments of the day this one stuck out the most. I think it's because she "stole" my moment.

I'm sure I'll laugh about it in years to come, but it's been four days and amongst the nastier things she did I am beyond angry. So I'm using MN as a form of catharsis, in the hopes that other people have nightmare in laws 😁

Mines still in the freezer. It’s only ten years old…. Still edible right? 😂😂😂😂😂

Cf family never mind the mil, didn’t like the dress venue or choice of witness, all left after the ceremony not a single picture with any of them in

Sometimes mums can be a bit obsessively inclusive, I get this.

Not sure what its origin is.

Mine wore white at the wedding. She did ask me before if I minded but told me it wasn't white and was heavily patterned/embroidered. By the time she asked me it was already bought and had been sent for alterations 🙄

Then when I had my first we told them not to come straight away, not only did they get straight in the car (long distance), they also brought SIL and her bf, all to the hospital 1 day after a 2day labour and emcs. Then cried down the phone on the middle of the night because she wasn't getting enough cuddles half way through the visit.

Not the in laws but my own DM.

My DS was doing my hair (she's a hairdresser) and was travelling up with my DM, DF her DH and DD.

Her DH, DD and our DM were supposed to leave my DS, DF and me together, but oh no. She had a button came off her dress that had to be sewn on so I didn't get my hair done cos no cotton matched etc etc drama. My DS and I spent nearly two hours trying to find the right fg cotton colour. They left and we followed 5 mins later. I was 25 minutes late for my own wedding.

Growing up I used to worry I'd be like her, thankfully I'm more like my wonderful DF.

This is hilarious but only as an outsider. It's a strange sort of compliment to you but at the same time, undermining your DH. 😬

At my best friend's wedding she looked completely stunning, scrubbed up really well on top of being naturally very pretty.

Her DH is very overweight although utterly charming, intelligent and amazing in his own right. Literally all day I heard comments about how he was punching above his weight.

I can imagine it was meant lightheartedly but many a true word and all that....

Mind you, I'd rather it that way around than people telling me I was punching above my weight with DH. 🙏

I don't know what the word is for MIL-zilla but mine had her moments.

Mainly the constant mithering about details. In the end, the endless phone calls and requests meant she garnered almost half the guest invites for her side of the family. We had a v small wedding vs our size of family. DH is such a pushover, he was too scared to say no.

My poor mum had only two guests, whilst MIL had 25 out of 60 for her much smaller side. I didn't realise how out of hand it had got until the final week when I looked at the seating plan.

I had to tell my bridesmaids they couldn't bring partners, and all my close friends came to the evening do only.

I had people travelling hundreds of miles for the evening while she insisted distant relatives had to be invited, great aunts and uncles etc. Fortunately many of them didn't come, but it meant it was horrendously rude and imbalanced.

The irony was that MIL was incredibly poor at the time but keeping up appearances, didn't pay anything towards the wedding. My parents paid almost all of it.

Even remembering it all has raised my heckles again. Mind you, it led to me being very careful to keep her at arm's length for the rest of our entire lives, that was 25 years ago.

Just a thought, if you were having such a small wedding why did your cake have tiers? Weren't you planning to set some aside for the close family you hadn't invited? It all sounds pretty mean to me and I can't imagine how your cake was left in such a state as to be unusable. Bit of a drama over nothing on your part. And I'd guess pretty awful from your MiL's POV.

We did the wedding in my country so overseas for people coming from the UK. Husband and I was paying for everything from our own savings (mostly my husband due to exchange rates). We did not ask parents to contribute to anything.

Wedding was great, but I do remember one thing before the wedding.

MiL started feel very depressed about some passed issues with FiL, started create lots of drama at home, saying she need sometime for herself to feel better again, everything was too much on her etc etc (not wedding related topics)... then she miraculously found this eat healthy retreat in a 5 star hotel on a coastal area in my country which was just happening to be the day after our wedding, so great timing but they did not have funds to go there but it was excatly what they (she) needed. In the end it is booked, paid for. I asked DH hiw did they managed to book it since they said they did not have money for it...DH accepted he and his sister decided to jointly send their parents to this retreat (to this day, I am sure it was just my husband covering it but not gonna argue). Later DH told me if it was ok we did not go to honeymoon as we were out of money. I told him it was all good. And we could go somewhere later in the year when we saved some more. It was mostly husbands savings we spent so I did not want to do something we were not 100% happy.

In the end we managed to squeeze a bit more and went to a nice hotel for our honeymoon, but i still laugh how my mother in law really needed that break, and change her lifestyle and eating habbits at the same time we were having our wedding. Then later never changed anything about her lifestyle.

This ! Is absolutely evil. Honestly... this is awful.

I promise this is true.

My husband is an only child. In an attempt to include his mother, I took her to the 1st fitting of my dress.

When we came out of the dressing room she was missing. We eventually found her trying wedding dresses on! She had an ivory, lace, full length dress on. Everyone in the shop was gobsmacked when they found out the truth. She had forgotten to tell them she was there with me.

She didn’t have a ‘proper’ wedding (her words) & wore a suit to hers so decided this was her opportunity to wear a wedding dress.

Now if it was just trying one on I would have been able to over look it. But as you’ve probably guessed she bought the ivory, lace, full length dress she was trying on & wore it to our wedding.

This wasn’t the only time that she was like this but this was her most outrageous stunt.

My parents wedding (so before I was born). My Mum’s family was a mess so Dad’s parents hosted a reception. Mum’s Dad was slighted and felt it was his job to host the reception so threw a RIVAL PARTY which all that side of the family went to instead.

😮😮😮

But as you’ve probably guessed she bought the ivory, lace, full length dress she was trying on & wore it to our wedding.
And you and your DP just say back and let this occur? The mentality of the check fuckers in these stories are one thing but the spinelessness of some of the “victims” is even more baffling.

That’s the sort of thing my late grandmother would have done, unfortunately.

Not my wedding but at my Brothers wedding. He and his now wife left her mother in charge of giving the photographer the list of group shots they wanted, she erased nearly all of the ones of our side of the family as she thought it would take too long...
We mostly took our own but my mother still hasn't fully forgiven her 5 years on

I have a bit of sympathy for this one to be honest. You can get hungry at a wedding when the service is at 12, so you arrive at 11:30 and then food isn’t until 5.

I am so confused by the mothers and MIL wearing wedding dresses, like @NoPaintedPony.

like…surely they’ll realise they look absolutely batshit?

I’m worried people thought I was a cf at my sisters wedding. My fiancé broke up with me a few weeks before her wedding, which was devastating but I tried to be as casual as possible because I didn’t want to throw a downer on their day. But then I dislocated my knee the night before and had to be on crutches and I was so embarrassed because I was worried people would think I was doing it on purpose for attention (I wasn’t, I had surgery on it a few weeks later). I just felt like the sister from hell bringing drama 😫.

Oh and she was dramatically in tears repeatedly through the night. A real charmer.

Hardly your fault you were on crutches! I wouldn’t worry. Unless you dramatically collapsed during the vows or speeches or something or tried to trip the bride up with them.

I think you can get peckish in a wedding due to wait times and small portions. But I think what you said is down to poor planning on the bride and groom’s and guests’ part. If you go for an early ceremony, really you need an early wedding breakfast or perhaps some canapés or something before a later main meal. Which the PP had tbf. But we also have a massive late breakfast before going to a wedding with an early ceremony as we don’t know what time food is served and not every wedding has snacks which is fair enough of course as weddings are costly. But we’d never take a packed lunch to a wedding. 🙈

😂 At all the commenters on this thread who are hard-of-reading. I nominate "AWFUL not to invite grandparents or siblings, and I can't believe you did the cake that way" as the new cancel-the-cheque...