To want 10 minutes to shower alone?

[IsntItTimeForDuggee]

I’m a SAHM to a 2 year old who is very attached to me, wants to be sat on me or be held by me all of the time, won’t do anything without holding my hand, “mama mama mama” all day, always following me around etc and she also still co-sleeps, working hard to stop this but to summarise we are together constantly, she is touching me all day long.

I have a shower every night before her bath and it’s the only time I get to myself all day, all I ask is that DH keeps her entertained whilst I shower and get dry and he keeps her out the bathroom and bedroom but every. single. night she appears in the bathroom at the shower door “ mama mama mama” and DH says he can’t keep her away. Then she’s stood in the bedroom pulling at me whilst I’m trying to get dry. She cries if DH carries her away. If I lock the bathroom my shower is spent with her banging on the door screaming.

All I ask is that he keeps the living room door shut for 10-15 minutes in the evening whilst I get washed. He says I’m being dramatic and she just loves her mum. Every night ends up in a back and forth where I say I just want my 10 minutes alone and he says can’t I just have her in there because otherwise she cries.

I can’t shower after she goes to bed as if I leave the bed she wakes up and cries until I come out (recently I had to go out for 3 hours and she cried the whole time until I came back)

AIBU?

@IsntItTimeForDuggee

Oh I really understand about nursery situation. My son wasn't ready till he was 3 and a bit .

You're doing loads right. She is very lucky to have you.

Just need to work on H to help give you a rest otherwise you're going to be exhausted

Re your last post, you haven't done anything wrong and sound like a great parent. Your dh needs to work really hard (despite feeling rejected - he's the adult) to create a strong bond with your daughter though. And yes he should give you 10 minutes to shower in peace and quiet.

YANBU
You need this 10 minutes. He's being pathetic and needs to learn to cope with his dd

It's not a good thing that a two-year-old is so attached that she has to be physically touching her mother all day and screams when she's left with her father when her mother is out of the room for 10 minutes. That's not a healthy form of attachment.