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Original poster

to be annoyed at some pathetic woman in the supermarket

106 replies

jimbobsmum · 16/02/2008 00:30

I was in the supermarket this morning with my ds (22 months). He was sat in shopping trolley 'reading' a picture book of farm animals. As we went around he was signing animals he knew and grunting animal noises. He enjoys watching something special(cbeebies) and has picked up lots of signs on his own - I don't teach him. One excuse for a human being tapped me on the shoulder and with a disgusted look on her face and disgusted manner in her voice asked if he was deaf. I wanted to slap her across her face and tell her to mind her own f'in business. I didn't of course but I know already I wasn't being unreasonable for wanting to I just need to rant so that I can sleep.

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shelleylou · 16/02/2008 00:35

What sort of question is that?? What happened to how old is he etc. YANBU i would b annoyed too. IMYHO theres nothing wrong with children lerning sign lanuage they learn french etc at school so why not sign?

shelleylou · 16/02/2008 00:35

IMVHO* sorry

madamez · 16/02/2008 00:37

I'd have said, 'why do you ask? Are you stupid? Or just nosy?'

shabster · 16/02/2008 00:37

Not sure what gives joe public the right to ask questions like that.

So what if your child is deaf? So what??????

So what if..............you know what I mean? Instead she could have said 'its lovely to see a little one enjoying a book.

We live in a strange world love, sod the lot of them. You do what feels right in your life and family. Teach a child love, respect, loyalty and good manners - that is all they need.

KerryMum · 16/02/2008 00:39

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ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 16/02/2008 00:45

Then why the digusted look and tone then Kerry?

MAMAZON · 16/02/2008 00:48

if that were the case Kerry maybe she could have said " look how well he is signing" or "hasnt he picked that up well" or whatever.

but i agree, it is an odd question.

KerryMum · 16/02/2008 00:49

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S1ur · 16/02/2008 00:51

is it possible she just has a face like a slapped arse?

and a voice like nails on a blackboard?

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jimbobsmum · 16/02/2008 00:55

He isn't deaf, just bilingual was my reply. It was just her manner that annoyed me. If she had just asked the question normally I would not have been offended at all. It was the way she looked at us like we were dirt on her shoes.

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S1ur · 16/02/2008 00:58

rant away anyway, you don't have to justify a rant

course I stand by idea that she might be the sort that looks at her best mate like that!

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jimbobsmum · 16/02/2008 01:05

Yes maybe that was just her face.

I let him watch something special so that he (hopefully) will grow up to respect the fact that children with different disabilities are socially acceptable, loving, happy,children who he can be friends with and accept them as he would every child he came into contact with.

Maybe I should write to cbeebies to make some kids progamme on how to cope with complete ars@@@@@s within the adult non human sector.

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Neverenough · 16/02/2008 01:08

Poor woman! she will rue the day she crossed your path!

S1ur · 16/02/2008 01:09

god if they do that prog i'll watch!

Something special's great, although mr tumble freaks my youngest out...

S1ur · 16/02/2008 01:12

Neverenough, nah she won't.

she asked is he deaf? op says no, bilingual.

all pretty minor and civil on surface

who knew that a seething bed of disgust and irritation lay ubderneath

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jimbobsmum · 16/02/2008 01:13

poor woman, she was probably early 30's. If it wasn't for the fact that I want ds to grow up to respect others, I would have taught him a couple of signs to show her there and then! . Come to think of it he was actually signing 'pig' when she stopped me

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Neverenough · 16/02/2008 01:13

slur!

Sugarmagnolia · 16/02/2008 08:09

YANBU - I don't know why people can't just mind their own damn business. I would never dream of just randomly approaching some total stranger without a very compelling reason - like maybe if someone looked like they really needed help.

Like the other day when I was out for lunch with my kids and a family came in with 4 children - every single one of whom was decked out from head to toe with 'characters'. They took off their spiderman jackets and their power-rangers backpacks to reveal their lazytown t-shirts and thomas trainers. Personally I thought they all looked a bit ridiculous, but I only thought this very loudly as it was really none of my business.

I know this isn't as bad and I'm sure they only mean well but it really bugs me when people - usually older ladies but not always - stop to talk to my DS(4) and tell him how cute he is and then get annoyed when he won't speak to them. OF course he won't speak to you, he's never seen you before in his life and can we get back to our shopping now please!

hercules1 · 16/02/2008 08:16

I know people wont agree with me but I do think it's a bit sad that people object to strangers conversing with them. Seems quite a sad reflection on our society if we feel so appalled that someone we dont know talks to us or heaven forbid our children.

Perhaps in the OP she had a deaf child herself or knows someone and wasnt sure how to broach it with another parent in a simila situation. I am surprised that such a question would cause such venom towards her.

needmorecoffee · 16/02/2008 08:18

Whats 'something special'?

misdee · 16/02/2008 08:22

something special is a rather fab programme on cbeebies which has Justin in it using makaton signing. dd2 loves it.

needmorecoffee · 16/02/2008 08:28

Oooo, might take a look. I'm sure dd wonders why there's no disabled children in anything. She's only 4 but she needs to see other quadraplegics and those using computers to communicate in poisitve roles.
Signing is a start I suppose. (dd can't sign cos her hands/arms don't work either)

misdee · 16/02/2008 08:29

they feature children with ranges of disabilities on the clips inbetween. its a very good programme.

am not sure if its on atm.

SueW · 16/02/2008 08:35

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belgo · 16/02/2008 08:35

I think you're reading too much into it jimbobsmum.

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