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To think F off it’s my business if I take my kids to…

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 12:40

Walt Disney world florida.

kids will be both under 5, booked our first family to WDW florida and I’m incredibly excited as can’t wait to go and we got a great deal price wise BUT the reaction is not what I’ve been expecting.

in the travel agent on booking, older woman overheard and felt the need to say it’s absolutely silly taking children that young… I was taken aback

then at work chatting about upcoming holidays met with such reactions as ‘fucking idiots’ and selfish and more money than sense . My boss actually had to sort of intervene because the conversation felt quite heated and aggressive… since when did this become a thing? Why are people so against taking young children to Disney?

totally fine if it’s not your scene but it’s mine and kids under 3 are free so you don’t pay, mine have been to euro Disney twice and loved it . I don’t get this attitude

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tattygrl · 24/04/2023 16:48

I mean, it's for you to enjoy, too! Surely you will enjoy seeing your children enjoy themselves in the moment. It's not all about making concrete memories that they will be able to picture in the future - they'll remember the feeling of being happy and excited, even if only in the broader sense of having a fun childhood with exciting trips. People get too caught up on "making memories" as if life is simply about making a mental scrapbook. Experiencing things in the moment is just as worthwhile.

Couldntthinkofausername24 · 24/04/2023 16:48

@Disneydisneydisneydisney we took our just turned 2 year old to Disney last year and it was the best time of our life. My boy had a wonderful time and is disney mad!

Yes he couldn't go on all the rides but before he arrived, me and my husband go every year and we don't care too much for the rides anyway.

10000000% was better without kids but we had a great 4 nights.

Why are people twats and have an opinion on everything. Sad bastards. Fuck em all off and get yourself gone

Ginandtonic1234 · 24/04/2023 16:55

I really dislike the attitude of ‘they aren’t going to remember it so why bother’. By that logic should we just shut children under 5 in a box and do nothing with them because they won’t remember it? They can still have an enriching experience and a lovely, happy time as a family. They can still learn from new experiences. Just because they might not remember it doesn’t mean it will be pointless. Plus, it’s a joy for parents to see their young children experiencing things for the first time.

Tell them to sod off and have a good time.

Bunnybeeee · 24/04/2023 16:57

Do these people just think parents sit in the house and do nothing with thier kids until thier brain develops the ability to retain memories? Should we not take them to the park or out to feed the ducks or go camping? I would just laugh in the faces of haters to see them get even more irate tbh. It's the only way to deal with these kinds of people 🤷‍♀️🤣 I took my 3 year old away last year to Cyprus. Will she remember it? Probably not. But did she have fun? Absolutely 🤷‍♀️ life is short. Take the trip everytime you can 😊

cheddercherry · 24/04/2023 16:57

We took ours when he was 4, he still talks about it and asks to look back at photos. I imagine it comes from jealousy (or people lacking the ability to converse and reminisce with their kids)

evuscha · 24/04/2023 17:00

Ignore them, they’re probably jealous. The kids will have a blast and if it’s something you enjoy then of course you should go!

Happysocks18 · 24/04/2023 17:00

We are in a cost of living crisis and some people are struggling to pay for essentials and can only dream of a holiday like that. I’m guessing it may be causing that reaction from some as they are jealous. Enjoy your holiday.

Dixiechickonhols · 24/04/2023 17:02

There’s something about Disney that prompts that reaction. Most of the rides are for all ages. We took DD several times when she was young. We experienced pleasure of seeing her enjoying it and she enjoyed it. It’s a different experience at each age.
I’d recommend the dibb a British Disney planning forum.

IAmTheWalrus85 · 24/04/2023 17:07

I don’t find it at all strange and wouldn’t feel the need to say anything other than ‘amazing, have fun’. I’ve never been to WDW and likely won’t take my children because it just isn’t our scene but… it’s a well-known, popular attraction that’s largely for children? It’s not like you’re taking them to a burlesque show.

SoCalLiving · 24/04/2023 17:12

Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 12:44

My eldest will be nearly 5, so she’ll probably remember some, we’ll go again when they are around 6/8 and I can still take them out of school without too much being missed education wise. I went for the first time at 4 and I still remember pieces, we went on the cruise too and I thought it was the best thing ever!

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I went to DL Paris when I was 4 nearly 5 and I still remember it!! I loved it sooo much. I apprently begged my mom for a year to take me!

Dixiechickonhols · 24/04/2023 17:15

It’s a very easy holiday as everything is child friendly eg they have baby care centres in the parks, you can push buggy around easily, family friendly restaurants.

NotQuiteUsual · 24/04/2023 17:18

I really am not a fan of Disney and the whole idea of Disney World holidays. But if a friend told me they were taking their young children I'd be thrilled for them, it's a lovely thing to do if you're into it.

I honestly think it's a bit of jealousy and defensiveness. There's this whole idea the Disney World Florida is the ultimate experience for a child and realistically it's out of reach for most people. I can imagine a let of parents carry a bit of guilt that their children won't get to go. Don't let it worry you, just enjoy.

blahblahblah1654 · 24/04/2023 17:25

I'm in awe of all you guys with such early memories. I'm mostly a blank until 8 or 9. I do have a pretty crappy memory in general though! It's nice, as it means my almost 3 year old will hopefully retain some of his earlier memories.

Goodenoughisgoodenough · 24/04/2023 17:31

When your children are this young, it's about quality of family time together, and doing something you all enjoy. If your idea of fun is going to Disneyland with a pair of pre-schoolers, then go for it! At that age, your children will enjoy whatever you present to them. They have no expectations, what they enjoy most is having extended time with relaxed parents, having fun (whatever that means for you). So when mine were that young it was a bucket and spade on a beach in Cornwall or Devon. (And to be honest, I'd enjoy that more than Disneyland.) While they're little - make a decision based on what you and your partner enjoying doing, and then work it out round your young kids. If that's Disneyland, then that's fine...

SchoolTripDrama · 24/04/2023 17:35

Saying “fucking idiots” is unnecessarily harsh & rude. They’re right that it’s more for the parents’ benefit with under 5’s but fucking idiots is just wrong

OrDis · 24/04/2023 18:26

When people say ‘but they won’t remember it’ I just reply with ‘yea but I will’ in a very F off tone of voice 😂

Nordicrain · 24/04/2023 18:28

Up to you. I wouldn't bother due to jet lag and the kids not remembering (and being too young to enjoy it/ go on the rides and generally being hard work at that age). But it's rude to comment negatively - unless you somehow invited the comments.

juless77 · 24/04/2023 18:31

Go and enjoy it ....doesnt matter if the kids dont have memories ....YOU WILL x

fetchacloth · 24/04/2023 18:31

YANBU
I reckon your colleagues and others are jealous OP.
Just ignore the haters and hope you and your family have a lovely time😎

Daidai · 24/04/2023 18:34

Have a wonderful time!
We took went last year with a 9 month old and nearly 3yr old. We had an AMAZING time. The 9 month old loves it, it was wonderful seeing her smiling and having so much fun. The nearly 3yr old had the best time and still talks about it.
We book to go again this year and next year 😁 (we are HUGE disneyworld fans turns out our little people are too)

Lemoncurd · 24/04/2023 18:35

Went to Disneyland Paris with a 13, 16 and 18 year old, when they told someone where we were going they got a "What?!? at your age?". Didn't realise there was such a narrow band of acceptable ages to go at!

And the older ones DID remember going aged 3 - 5.

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 24/04/2023 18:41

People who say things like this usually say it through jealousy. I hope you have an amazing time and enjoy every minute

boobot1 · 24/04/2023 18:48

F Off is the correct answer

Cacklingwitch · 24/04/2023 18:55

We took ours when they were 4 and 1.5. The joy on my baby’s face when he met Mickey Mouse warms my heart on the darkest days.
Although my kids don’t remember (the 4yo can remember a few bits) we had such a lovely time and (as much as the phrase makes me want to poke my eyes out with a rusty spoon) made memories together

lilmadmel · 24/04/2023 18:58

We booked (but didn’t end up going because of covid) for when our LG would’ve been 7 months. We got a lot of negative comments about our decision, questioning our choices ect but they didn’t really know us. We’d thought about everything. How our days would be shorter than we were used to. Which hotel would be best. What we would do when we
couldnt all go on a ride. Which roses she could on. Which hotel would be easiest.
we hadn’t taken the decision lightly but people acted like all the above would just be a huge problem that we hadn’t contemplated. 🙄