Page 24 | Am I the only person who never opens their front door to anyone?

jugglingjugs · 2023-04-17T09:02:32+00:00

I just heard my front door go, so I hid in the kitchen out of sight, no idea who it was but I'm now very curious. I wasn't expecting anyone, if it was family I would have answered because they wouldn't come unannounced. I also never answer my phone if I don't recognise the number. Is this just me or does anyone else do this? I have never really thought about why until now.

RampantIvy · 20/04/2023 08:17

If it's that important they'll leave a voicemail

It has been pointed out several times that the NHS won't do that.

I'm assuming the non answerers aren't undergoing any kind of medical investigation or treatment?

It does seem to me that some mumsnetters get an unreasonable number of unsolicited phone calls though. I get very few.

Perhaps he was avoiding you for a reason? He might think you are very intrusive, watching his movements and actions instead of minding your own business.

Why would he not open the door to the courier then? It makes no sense to order something then not accept delivery of said item.

Nolongera · 20/04/2023 08:43

GanjaDhin · 20/04/2023 07:21

Perhaps he was avoiding you for a reason? He might think you are very intrusive, watching his movements and actions instead of minding your own business.

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I had taken in a parcel for him. He knew I had a parcel for him. I had tried to deliver his parcel for him. Several times. I didn't watch out for him at first, I assumed when all 3 cars were home there was a decent chance one of them would be in.

Eventually I tried to deliver when I knew they were in as I had seen them arrive. I was walking my dog in the street, not lurking in the bushes with binoculars. I saw him go in and I could see him moving round the house yet he still wouldn't answer the door.

What else was I supposed to do?

FWIW they have had the council in recently, all the council houses are getting an upgrade, new kitchens and bathrooms. Every morning there is some kind of standoff with the contractors before they are allowed in. I can see this from where I sit and eat my breakfast, not from lurking in the bushes

Perhaps I should hide in the kitchen?

This thread and it's thread police is hilarious and contains the usual Mumsnet bingo of reasons why weird behaviour is ok and justifiable because of a tiny number of times where it might be.

Not answering your front door is a modern thing and if you don't think it's weird, it's because you are weird.

Nothing wrong with being weird mind.

TheBirdintheCave · 20/04/2023 08:45

@RampantIvy I still don't answer if it's a withheld number (usually the NHS) though they've always left a message. During both of my miscarriages it was written on my notes to email me or call my husband if the EPU needed to make contact.I I'm autistic and have audio processing disorder. Nine times out of ten they chose to ignore my notes which made an already stressful situation even more horrible. I had to complain to PALS in the end.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/04/2023 08:51

Nolongera · 20/04/2023 08:43

I had taken in a parcel for him. He knew I had a parcel for him. I had tried to deliver his parcel for him. Several times. I didn't watch out for him at first, I assumed when all 3 cars were home there was a decent chance one of them would be in.

Eventually I tried to deliver when I knew they were in as I had seen them arrive. I was walking my dog in the street, not lurking in the bushes with binoculars. I saw him go in and I could see him moving round the house yet he still wouldn't answer the door.

What else was I supposed to do?

FWIW they have had the council in recently, all the council houses are getting an upgrade, new kitchens and bathrooms. Every morning there is some kind of standoff with the contractors before they are allowed in. I can see this from where I sit and eat my breakfast, not from lurking in the bushes

Perhaps I should hide in the kitchen?

This thread and it's thread police is hilarious and contains the usual Mumsnet bingo of reasons why weird behaviour is ok and justifiable because of a tiny number of times where it might be.

Not answering your front door is a modern thing and if you don't think it's weird, it's because you are weird.

Nothing wrong with being weird mind.

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I would have left it outside his door, maybe with a note through the letterbox if I was feeling kind. If he won't answer the door to delivery people or neighbours, that's the risk he takes 🤷‍♀️

Nolongera · 20/04/2023 09:11

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/04/2023 08:51

I would have left it outside his door, maybe with a note through the letterbox if I was feeling kind. If he won't answer the door to delivery people or neighbours, that's the risk he takes 🤷‍♀️

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I haven't mentioned it but I had carded him myself incase the first card had been missed for some reason. When I gave it to him he complained that no card had been delivered.

Mind, the family are like something out of the film "Deliverance".

I wouldn't leave it on his step as it seemed valuable, big box, possibly a microwave by its size and weight.

I imagine Amazon Hub is a boon for these definitely not weird people who refuse to answer the door.

nomoredriving · 20/04/2023 09:15

Perhaps he was avoiding you for a reason? He might think you are very intrusive, watching his movements and actions instead of minding your own business.

Well he shouldn't do online shopping then!

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/04/2023 09:22

Nolongera · 20/04/2023 09:11

I haven't mentioned it but I had carded him myself incase the first card had been missed for some reason. When I gave it to him he complained that no card had been delivered.

Mind, the family are like something out of the film "Deliverance".

I wouldn't leave it on his step as it seemed valuable, big box, possibly a microwave by its size and weight.

I imagine Amazon Hub is a boon for these definitely not weird people who refuse to answer the door.

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Yes, they should use that. If they won't answer the door, why not?

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/04/2023 09:23

GanjaDhin · 20/04/2023 07:21

Perhaps he was avoiding you for a reason? He might think you are very intrusive, watching his movements and actions instead of minding your own business.

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Well then he's an idiot, isn't he?

SerafinasGoose · 20/04/2023 09:46

I couldn't tell you what my neighbours were doing at gunpoint, much less know whether they answered their doors or not. Nor could I care less whether they're 'weird' or not, as long as they're not bothering me.

This thread is a case study in FOMO.

SimplyTheGuest · 22/04/2023 08:17

I have a friend like this, I do think it is very weird behaviour!
Personally I couldn't not answer my door/ phone, the curiosity would kill me lol, I also love surprise visitors 😄