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Original poster

Was my OH rude or am I being too sensitive?

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MissisK · 16/04/2023 21:45

My OH normally cooks. He’s so fussy with food and after several failed attempts to cook for him early in our relationship, I just let him cook. I don’t really enjoy cooking so not something I miss. I do cook for me and the kids sometimes and happy to cook if needed.

He has an injury and not feeling great so I cooked tonight. The rice was a bit sticky to be honest. He took one look at the meal, looked disgusted and said ‘that’s disgusting’. Then went upstairs leaving the food on the side. The kids said it was nice!

AIBU about his reaction or am I being over sensitive to think this was really rude? I’m feeling a bit fed up with him being rude and intolerant to me. This just finished me off today.

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ShirleyPhallus · 16/04/2023 21:45

That’s extremely bloody rude

DustyLee123 · 16/04/2023 21:47

I wouldnt bother cooking for him any more.

aSofaNearYou · 16/04/2023 21:47

So incredibly rude, and setting anything else aside I would be livid he did this in front of the kids. What is he trying to teach them?

Randobelia · 16/04/2023 21:47

Sounds awful, does he have any good qualities?

FrumptyMumpty · 16/04/2023 21:48

I would never ever ever cook for him ever ever ever again. Not bothered if he starves.

I’d try more cooking for you and the girls though.

GoodChat · 16/04/2023 21:49

Depends - did you cook him something with mushrooms?

Cheeseandlobster · 16/04/2023 21:49

He is a rude arsehole

TheSingingBean · 16/04/2023 21:49

He sounds vile, I’m so sorry OP.

I'm a better cook than my OH - I wouldn’t dream of saying anything so unpleasant to him , even if he produced something inedible.

GoodChat · 16/04/2023 21:50

I'm just joking.
OH wouldn't dare to say something like that to me as he knows I'd never cook for him again.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 16/04/2023 21:50

GoodChat · 16/04/2023 21:49

Depends - did you cook him something with mushrooms?

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maddy68 · 16/04/2023 21:54

He's a dick

Hankunamatata · 16/04/2023 21:56

I would have poured the bloody thing over his head.

Jenn3112 · 16/04/2023 21:59

It is very rude but if he is unwell and in pain I wouldn't expect him to behaving completely rationally necessarily so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Ponoka7 · 16/04/2023 22:01

It was rude. How is he normally and what is his injury/ any pain meds etc?

underneaththeash · 16/04/2023 22:02

That’s very rude - but what did you make?
I’d eat most things - maybe draw the line at vegan cheese?

Rainbow1901 · 16/04/2023 22:10

YNBU - he is!! The twat!! By all means cook for you and your kids but leave him out next time.
If he wants to be picky about food then he can sort himself out. How does he react if you say you don't particularly like something he cooks but still eat it?

Original poster
MissisK · 16/04/2023 22:12

It was just a curry but it was the rice he was referring to. And honestly, it was over cooked. But I was really hurt by how rude he was. He’s so intolerant (has been for years). I won’t be cooking again for him any time soon!

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MissisK · 16/04/2023 22:14

Ponoka7 · 16/04/2023 22:01

It was rude. How is he normally and what is his injury/ any pain meds etc?

He’s quite intolerant to me generally. If he’s in a good mood things are fine but he can get moody quickly. Never quite know what the day will bring.

I am really sympathetic to him being in pain but I don’t think that’s an excuse for rudeness.

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RampantIvy · 16/04/2023 22:15

He's a pathetic big baby. He can go hungry.

Rainbow1901 · 16/04/2023 22:18

MissisK · 16/04/2023 22:12

It was just a curry but it was the rice he was referring to. And honestly, it was over cooked. But I was really hurt by how rude he was. He’s so intolerant (has been for years). I won’t be cooking again for him any time soon!

Rice is one of the most difficult things to get right. Quite honestly once rice is mixed in with a bit of curry what does it matter about the texture?
I was taught how to do basmati rice by a friend - and have never had an issue since but I had spent years doing dodgy rice in the interim and no-one suffered too much. 🙄
Get the quantities of rice, water and a little salt right and it won't even need draining just fluffing up.

AnImaginaryCat · 16/04/2023 22:21

MissisK · 16/04/2023 22:14

He’s quite intolerant to me generally. If he’s in a good mood things are fine but he can get moody quickly. Never quite know what the day will bring.

I am really sympathetic to him being in pain but I don’t think that’s an excuse for rudeness.

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I was going to suggest it might be possible he has major food issues. But this latest post strongly suggest he's simply an unpleasant person.

jannier · 16/04/2023 22:21

MissisK · 16/04/2023 22:14

He’s quite intolerant to me generally. If he’s in a good mood things are fine but he can get moody quickly. Never quite know what the day will bring.

I am really sympathetic to him being in pain but I don’t think that’s an excuse for rudeness.

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What message does seeing you tip toe around him give your kids?

whynotwhatknot · 16/04/2023 22:22

of course its rude-he cold have just said thanks and mixed it all in or just said rice is prob a bit over but thanks for cooking

ungrateful git

WaltzingWaters · 16/04/2023 22:27

Extremely rude and such a bad example to the kids.

GG1986 · 16/04/2023 22:28

He sounds pathetic! Tell him to f off and cook his own food.