Was my OH rude or am I being too sensitive?

[MissisK]

My OH normally cooks. He’s so fussy with food and after several failed attempts to cook for him early in our relationship, I just let him cook. I don’t really enjoy cooking so not something I miss. I do cook for me and the kids sometimes and happy to cook if needed.

He has an injury and not feeling great so I cooked tonight. The rice was a bit sticky to be honest. He took one look at the meal, looked disgusted and said ‘that’s disgusting’. Then went upstairs leaving the food on the side. The kids said it was nice!

AIBU about his reaction or am I being over sensitive to think this was really rude? I’m feeling a bit fed up with him being rude and intolerant to me. This just finished me off today.

Or just tell him to do his own

A very firm you are NOT being unreasonable. I would be fuming.

To coin a phrase 70’s kids heard a lot - eat it or go without!

YANBU. Your OH sounds like an insufferable arsehole.

It wouldn't have hurt him to eat som less than oerfect ruce for one height. He's rude & horrible. He could have thanked you for the effort!!

I wouldn't put up with him & I wouldn't put up with him being such a rude twat in front if the children. He'd be fending entirely for himself in a grim bed sit by now!

you're worth more than that!!

This is controlling behaviour. Men with that type of personaility target cooking and mothering to undermine and criticise their partners' abilities to make them feel 'less'. I have left someone like this. It is not good to feel disapproved of and walking on egg shells. I bet your cooking is fine, especially if you got the chance to remind yourself how to do it well, with practice. I am now enjoying cooking again. There is a bigger picture here which I feel you are trying to communicate without wanting to acknowledge it yourself. I'm sure many women have to put up with men like this.