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Why is there so much sneering at Americans with European ancestry?

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BrBa · 14/04/2023 15:47

I don’t understand! I identify with all my ancestors whether they came as religious refugees or early colonisers, were already indigenous to the region or brought in as slaves.

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Swiss, German, Native American North, Central and South, Sephardic, Irish, South East African, Scottish, Acadian/French, and English

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RudsyFarmer · 14/04/2023 18:39

Isn’t it just more identity politics? The more you can put in your sack the more interesting you are perceived to be so the more points you earn societally.

DisquietintheRanks · 14/04/2023 18:40

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Theluggage15 · 14/04/2023 18:40

I have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about @belleager You don’t just pick your identity.

belleager · 14/04/2023 18:40

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 14/04/2023 18:38

What civil war did we have in checks calendar 2013??

25 years. Same point. American intervention in the North mattered.

CoalTit · 14/04/2023 18:41

Anonymous48 · 14/04/2023 16:31

"To the rest of the world, saying "I'm Irish" means "I'm Irish"."

Absolutely! I totally get that. That is what I am trying to explain. It has a different meaning in the US

This has irritated me so much that I haven't read the rest of the thread.
Obviously, "I'm Irish" means "I'm American, with Irish ancestors" to other north Americans. The trouble is that Americans will say it on the world wide web, or worse still, say it to actual Irish people, as if they're unaware that not everybody is American, that there are actual Irish people, born and raised in Ireland, whose ancestors didn't emigrate to America. The self-absorption is beyond belief.
It's a form of dishonesty that impedes communication. For example, when the actress in Blade Runner 2 is described as Dutch, I don't know if she's Dutch or just pretentious American.

Labraradabrador · 14/04/2023 18:42

pikkumyy77 · 14/04/2023 18:21

I’m baffled—not really—by all the surprise on this thread that Americans have a different way of thinking and talking about their national identity, their ethnic identity, or their family identity to that offered by an idealized British person. I mean: of course Americans who emigrated from other countries, and who were absorbed into American society at different rates depending on ever changing laws defining desirable and undesirable, white and non white, citizen and non citizen, might have a different way of thinking about family, culture, identity, and homeland than the mumsnetters who have their panties in a twist over Biden identifying as Irish culturally.

American hyphenated identities reflect the painful experience of immigrants who were first asked to assimilate and forget their culture and languages, often punished for their differences, and then sometimes fought back to resurrect or craft novel, hybrid, or fantasy versions of these identities. In the UK this happens too with various sub state nationalisms sometimes valorized (cornish, welsh, scots) and sometimes squelched. The victorian manufacturer of romanticized scots identity also comes to mind.

All this moaning about how other people choose to understand themselves and their personal family histories? The yardstick for measuring what is normal, or silly, or presumptuous doesn’t lie in the UK like Greenwich Mean Time or a universal measure. It is specific to each country and the history of the communities in that country.

The US has quite a complex history because of race based immigration snd marriage laws that, for example, defined Sikh male immigrants as non white and left them free to marry only non white women. This produced a hybrid Sikh-Mexican community that was not accepted as truly South Asian by later immigrants from the subcontinent. My point here is that what this thread sees as bumptious/presumptuous or hyperbolic American style is really just an interesting American historically derived way some communities have chosen to understand the complex forces that brought them to the US, got them citizenship, and nurtured or repressed them.

Thank you, well articulated

ProudToBeANorthener · 14/04/2023 18:42

LindorDoubleChoc · 14/04/2023 15:52

I'm not aware of any sneering.

I was (and probably still am) very angry at the American supporters of the IRA though. They were not living in the midst of a serious terrorist bombing campaign that claimed many innocent lives.

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belleager · 14/04/2023 18:45

Theluggage15 · 14/04/2023 18:40

I have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about @belleager You don’t just pick your identity.

People very very often do.

I accept that some people have connections only to one race, state, nation, ethnicity. I suppose when you are Irish that is an unusual way to view the world, when so many emigrate and when we have such widespread connections.

People identify with different aspects of their heritage. In this way, they choose their identities. Sometimes that's a match for legal citizenship. Sometimes not.

suburbophobe · 14/04/2023 18:48

But America is a child in terms of global history and identity.

The ancestors of Native Americans may have lived on and around the Bering Strait for about 10,000 years before streaming into the Americas

There, fixed that for you.

You do know don't you that what we are taught in school as children only relates to one country's history?

Non stop Henry VIII anyone? "Divorced, beheaded, died, divorced, beheaded, survived"....

belleager · 14/04/2023 18:48

ProudToBeANorthener · 14/04/2023 18:42

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That is reasonable. As an Irish person I would feel the same way.

Of course, many of my countrypeople also supported this terrorism from a distance.

I don't see this as a reflection on the majority of Irish (or Irish-American) people though, any more than I see British war crimes in the North as a reflection on the majority of British people.

greenlychee · 14/04/2023 18:50

i feel like American modern history isn't really that old and so they want to feel like they come from somewhere with more history and roots.

Theluggage15 · 14/04/2023 18:51

Nope @belleager My dad is English, my mum was Welsh. I don’t say I’m Welsh as I was born and brought up in England and have an English accent. I would look a complete twat if I told a Welsh person born and bred that I was Welsh. You don’t pick the bit of your ancestry that you fancy.

UrsulaBelle · 14/04/2023 18:51

My parents were Welsh, born in Wales. They moved to England and had me and my siblings. We are English. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Yes, we could play for Wales, but we’re still English. Many of my cousins are Welsh, born and brought up in Wales. They have moved all over the place but consider themselves Welsh and their DC English/Australian/Welsh etc depending on where their children were born or brought up. The non Welsh ones may have a hankering for bara brith and can say Llanfairpwchgwyngyllgogerychwyndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch but that’s as Welsh as they get!

Hardbackwriter · 14/04/2023 18:51

Pallisers · 14/04/2023 16:39

America is a country of immigrants. There is a lot of pain in that fact. It wasn't all "america looks nice, lets move there and be americans" For many many people in the past they left family, friends, traditions, cultures and never saw them again. They were economic immigrants or fleeing pogroms or famines or war etc. It is any surprise that those immigrants would try to remember and honour their traditions?

Yeah, americans say "I'm italian" they don't actually mean they are Italian. They mean "we follow some Italian traditions, do the seven fishes on xmas eve, have pasta at every big occasion, will some day plan a trip to Italy to see where our great grandparents came from' They know they are american. They don't need brits to tell them that (despite apparently being just teenagers trying to keep up with the big older real adult countries in the world ffs)

I think Joe Biden gave the perfect opportunity for people to sneer at the Irish and at Americans - win/win. usually they have to chose.

And all that Irish americanism in politics has had a real benefit for Ireland - and for the UK. Thanks in part to american and irish american intervention, 10 years ago a civil war in the UK - that the UK seemed unable to stop and that caused untold suffering to UK subjects - ended

Aside from the quite hilarious fact that you wrote that long and pompous post without knowing when the GFA was - celt-splaining indeed! - I think an objective observer would have to agree that the role of Americans believing they're Irish was at best a mixed blessing for the Troubles, what with all the funding the IRA.

emptythelitterbox · 14/04/2023 18:53

Americans being sneery?

But other countries seems to judge Americans harshly for anything.

Mendholeai · 14/04/2023 18:54

It makes. Sense to Americans and brings them a sense of kinship, culture and belonging. It’s a newish country and there is a definite sense of lack- missing that rich history that most countries have. Saying they are Irish or Scottish makes them feel they belong.

Getting involved in complex political situations and accidentally offending nations is taking kinship a bit too far.

Those of us with a rich cultural history forged by centuries of warfare have learned the subtle art if shutting up, remaining neutral, and realising that we don’t know enough to say anything. This is probably why we talk
about the weather

StephanieSuperpowers · 14/04/2023 18:55

ProudToBeANorthener · 14/04/2023 18:42

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Oh dear. Probably better then not to watch on as people get burned out of their homes or civil rights protesters get shot in the streets. It makes people feel sad enough to try to do something about it. Not the government in charge of ensuring it doesn't happen, obviously. Or the electorate who think they have it coming. People who actually care.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 14/04/2023 18:57

Biden managed to mix up the Black & Tans with the All Blacks ruby team

So I've just been reading; I'd laugh except it's not funny

Somebody really should get this guy out of public view ...

happyumwelt · 14/04/2023 19:01

It's daft if it is generations back - most people have mixed heritage of this sort in the UK too, but the majority will either say British, or identify with one of the four UK nations. I probably have a similar percentage of Irish as Biden (5%) but didn't know the great great grandparent who provided me with that smidge of Irish and would never claim to be Irish.

belleager · 14/04/2023 19:02

Theluggage15 · 14/04/2023 18:51

Nope @belleager My dad is English, my mum was Welsh. I don’t say I’m Welsh as I was born and brought up in England and have an English accent. I would look a complete twat if I told a Welsh person born and bred that I was Welsh. You don’t pick the bit of your ancestry that you fancy.

Interesting, and thanks for answering. But what you and @UrsulaBelle are talking about in your posts are subjective standards, probably roughly a match with the wider cultural consensus in the UK.

And even there, in your relatively straightforward situations, there is nuance. There's no universal rule about identity. Born and bred? Accent? Rugby rules? You have a right to identify as English, and your upbringings seem to have encouraged that, but there are choices there.

Isanyoneup · 14/04/2023 19:07

I agree with the posters who say it seems to be tinged with racism when they say it. I remember there was a bit of a fracas across the internet over the idea of Rishi Sunak being English. A lot of Americans couldn't grasp that idea that to us he's English, because he is. They saw his race and ethnic heritage first nationality second, we tend to do it the other way round here. British Asian rather than African American. It's a subtle but noticeable difference.

belleager · 14/04/2023 19:08

Mendholeai · 14/04/2023 18:54

It makes. Sense to Americans and brings them a sense of kinship, culture and belonging. It’s a newish country and there is a definite sense of lack- missing that rich history that most countries have. Saying they are Irish or Scottish makes them feel they belong.

Getting involved in complex political situations and accidentally offending nations is taking kinship a bit too far.

Those of us with a rich cultural history forged by centuries of warfare have learned the subtle art if shutting up, remaining neutral, and realising that we don’t know enough to say anything. This is probably why we talk
about the weather

I find patronising Americans for being a young nation (if we are only counting from 1492. Or 1776. Though people were there before that) a bit much.

People in Europe don't go around drawing on centuries of wisdom every time they open their mouths. Most of them know very little history.

It's more relevant to the European connection that if you are a white American, your ancestors arrived some time after the introduction of print, and probably within the period of shipping lists and parish registers, and even quite likely after introduction of a census. They came from somewhere. You can usually find out where. Or your family may never have forgotten.

It's an outward looking history.

Whereas if I have Vikings among my ancestors, chances of me finding that shipping list or immigration record are fairly slim.

Isanyoneup · 14/04/2023 19:09

suburbophobe · 14/04/2023 18:48

But America is a child in terms of global history and identity.

The ancestors of Native Americans may have lived on and around the Bering Strait for about 10,000 years before streaming into the Americas

There, fixed that for you.

You do know don't you that what we are taught in school as children only relates to one country's history?

Non stop Henry VIII anyone? "Divorced, beheaded, died, divorced, beheaded, survived"....

I don't know what type of school you went to but my history lessons were varied and included a wide scope of global history.

Endlesssummer2022 · 14/04/2023 19:12

Of course Biden swerved the UK and who can blame him. Why would he want to be knocking about and taking photos with lunatics like Suella Braverman?

MooseBreath · 14/04/2023 19:13

WhiplashGirlchild · 14/04/2023 18:38

I wonder why Americans never seem to go around claiming "I'm Chinese", "I'm Nigerian"? It turns out that not all nationalities and cultures are fair game for people to claim. They'll say "I'm part Chinese" or "I have Nigerian heritage" like the rest of the English speaking world. The wholesale hijack of European identities is somewhere between cringe and plain rude.

Except they do claim it. My ancestry is from Russian Ashkenazi Jew and Irish Catholic immigrants. Both marginalized communities. When both sides arrived in North America, their surnames were spelled incorrectly due to disdain. It's important for me to celebrate my heritage, and it's not "cringe" or "rude" for me to do so. Am I supposed to just forget that I had relatives in Auschwitz or suffering from the Potato Famine just because they were European and I am North American? I don't claim to have experienced it, but I certainly have their cultures as part of my own.