to hate the way my DD speaks?

[suwoo]

DD who is nearly 6 is developing a real Manchester accent. I know I live in Manchester, but I speak 'naicely' and would prefer her to do so too. Every time she calls me 'Mumm-eh' its like fingers down a blackboard and I always say 'its mumm-ee', well actually I normally hiss it. DH hates the fact I correct her and says that as we live in Manchester, that is her accent and I should get used to it. AIBU?

YABU. Stop correcting her, it's rude.

What accent would you like her to have?

I guess you'll have to get used to it though I do understand - ds lived most of his life in West London and I cringe to think what kind of 'street youth' accent he might have picked up, though I think how things are spoken at home have quite a strong influence - for example, he speaks nicely and sounds like me iyswim

YABU entirely unreasonable. Leave her alone, or she'll end up with a terrible complex.

Leave her be. So she has an accent, so what. What will probably happen is that she becomes, as she gets older, "bilingual". I have a different accent when I talk to my mother and father to that I use when out and about or used when at school.

Yes you are BU. silly woman.

mind you, having said that, dh grew up in Notts and has a mum with E Midlands accent and Scottish accented dad and speaks quite neutrally, only a few northernish words.

Oh Lord, I can relate to this - and I know and am ashamed that it makes me a snob My dd (3) has developed a delightful glottal stop. I suppose it serves me right for sending her to nursery.

Still, at least she doesn't spend enough time with the in-laws to pick up their dreadful Lancashire accent, i'n't'it?

I can sympathise as I am waiting with teeth clenched for my DD to develop a 'local' accent - once she goes to school its inevitable I think.

When I was 5 I moved from Leeds to Devon and felt totally at a loss surrounded by the West Country accent. I was still saying oop and book with a long oooo while all the kids around me seemed to be spekaing a different language (far too many rrrrs ). As time went on I deliberately aquired an accent just to fit in.

When I was a teenager however I rapidly decided the accent was uncool and did everything I could to lose it!

If the kids she mixes with day after day speak like that she will want to do the same in order to fit in. Its natural. I'm not sure you could stop that if you wanted to

Overwhelmingly unreasonable so far then....

sorry, can't stick to one post - I wouldn't correct her btw - leave it and try to bear it.

YABU, but I would move. Problem solved!

I grew up (oop) with a lovely brummie accent which my mum was always correcting to the piont I just became self concious and shy. Let her express herself.

So whereabouts does she move to then? Which area of the country has a 'naice' regional accent?

Your dh is right, I'm afraid. Sometimes they are.

Whether you're being unreasonable or not, I don't think there's anything you can do about it....other than move.

Actually, suwoo, you are not correcting her! She is speaking correctly for the region she lives in .

scattyspice - yeah I'm sure I've read somewhere that if you're worrying too much about how you are speaking you will be less vebally creative. A bit like handwriting... I have appalling handwriting and choose to believe its because my brain is just so super quick and creative my hand can't keep up

I think brummie accents are lovely.

My children are trilingual. Kentish at school, posh with me and bradford with pil and cousins.

They need protective colouration - let them develop it!

Yes. There is nothing you can do about it anyway.

Move down the road to Liverpool, then she wil have a nice singy songy accent like mine.

YANBU

and anyone who ever herd the gutteral tones of a manc acent whould know this

you need to move to oldham

Be thankfull you don't live in Dudley like me !