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AIBU?

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Original poster

to hate the way my DD speaks?

224 replies

suwoo · 14/02/2008 14:42

DD who is nearly 6 is developing a real Manchester accent. I know I live in Manchester, but I speak 'naicely' and would prefer her to do so too. Every time she calls me 'Mumm-eh' its like fingers down a blackboard and I always say 'its mumm-ee', well actually I normally hiss it. DH hates the fact I correct her and says that as we live in Manchester, that is her accent and I should get used to it. AIBU?

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 16:19

Oh yes, I really do, I know its shallow and pathetic, I just really hate the 'mumm-eh' as I keep saying.

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oliviaelanasmum · 14/02/2008 16:20

My kids have a mixed up accent they were born her in norfolk but dp is from essex and i dont really have an accent as my mum is from london and my dad from norwich.

collision · 14/02/2008 16:20

we have half term next week and DH is taking the boys away! without me!!

They can all practise their Italian in a southern accent and impress the inlaws!!

soopermum1 · 14/02/2008 16:22

i'm scottish and DH is australia. DS's accent is pure london, have bigger things to worry about, like the day he requests an england strip joke!

collision · 14/02/2008 16:22

I can totally relate to hating 'Mumm-eh'.

Friends 'up north' have children called Sarah, Katie and Mary. The way they pronounce these names is awful.

Murry, Surr-ah and Keh-ti totally ruins the names.

I am sorry.....but it does.

unknownrebelbang · 14/02/2008 16:22

Hmm, trip to the outlaws (in Italy I presume?) versus a week of peace.

Hmm, tough decision, lol.

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 16:23

You see, I don't have anything more important to worry about than how my image is projected via my daughters accent

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collision · 14/02/2008 16:24

yep. twas tough.

thought of sleeping, eating and TV and MNet whenever I like is bliss.

No early mornings. cinema if I feel like it.Pyjamas all day.

BLISS!!

tissy · 14/02/2008 16:26

I remember an American TV show(St Elsewhere's, I think), where some American person told Lynn Regdgrave that they loved her accent....she said, "My dear, YOU are the one with the accent" . Just how I feel up here!

princessosyth · 14/02/2008 16:29

Ds (3.6) has developed a real south east drawl and drops all his t's and h's. I don't know where he gets it from.

MrsMattie · 14/02/2008 16:31

I get absolutely slaughtered for my 'cockney' accent when i go to visit my dad in Ireland. They just call me 'London' in his local pub, and piss themselves at everything I say.

totalmisfit · 14/02/2008 16:31

let her speak in her regional accent. i was constantly corrected about my speech as a child and now i'm terribly self conscious about how i sound and dont' even have a proper accent. sometimes i'm cockney but mostly i'm not. it's really damaging to the confidence to be corrected constantly especially on something as intrinsic to the identity as accent.

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 16:34

Noted...total misfit, thanks.

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branflake81 · 14/02/2008 16:36

As a child, I can remember picking up the word "ta" from the dinner ladies at nursery. My parents were mortified. Now that's snobbish.

needmorecoffee · 14/02/2008 16:40

who cares how they speak as long as they do. My dd can't.

3andnomore · 14/02/2008 16:41

YABVU...and you will give your poor child a complex

princessosyth · 14/02/2008 16:42

Very good point needmorecoffee . I immediately thought that after I posted.

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 16:43

I already apologised if I offended anyone with a non verbal DC, so I repeat, I am sorry if I offended you needmorecoffee and princess.

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2bulletsformyvalentine · 14/02/2008 16:55

suwoo I am sure you didn't mean to offend. just hard when you have been waiting so long to hear your child speak.

needmorecoffee · 14/02/2008 16:59

didn't realise you'd apologised. Maybe I was a bit snappy but dd went into a 2 hour seizure this morning and I thought that this time she was going to die. And I would never have heard her voice. She's in hospital right now with dh.
Sorry for being snappy.

2bulletsformyvalentine · 14/02/2008 17:02

nmc

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 17:07

God, don't be silly nmc, I know I am being shallow and it is of course somewhat tongue in cheek. I would rather DD spoke with an accent of course than any of the other terrible things that people go through. 2bullets, sorry to hear about your childs situation too and again apologies.

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suwoo · 14/02/2008 17:08

Also meant to specify very sorry to hear about the awful thing thats happened to your family today, NMC. Hope she gets better soon x

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Peachy · 14/02/2008 17:13

had to pmsl at MP's post

I have an extreme Zumerzet accent. I do eman extreme, I can talk pure dialect should I choose. It's especially obvious now I live in Wales. However, i also am able to switch immediately to received pronunciation- hence the amount of teming I have done in 'naice' offices and in receptionist pots over the years. far from being a negative, the ability to fit into either grouping has always beena positive; I don't particualrly want to alienate potential zumerzet mates by being too posh 9and it has happened that i have been seen like that), neitehr do i want to limit my career prospects with an accent that is sadly and incorrectly often regaded as being somewhat evident of a certain dimness.

The boys will no doubt acquire a Welsh lilt as time apsses and if we stay here; not a problem. Actually (and in line with what 2shoes so wisely pointed out further down), I shall do nothing but celebrate should ds3's language ever reach a level where an accent is possible.

needmorecoffee · 14/02/2008 17:13

and I should rain on people's threads either. It just popped out and was unnecassary.
For thr record, my older 3 kids have Malvern accents (can't pronounce 'th'), mine is an irsh/west country mix and dh is London. We now live in bristol and after a few listens to the Wurzels can't help saying 'alright moi luvver'