Is my husband right to be embarrassed when I serve soup for lunch to guests

[MusicLass]

This is a bit of a long-running joke in our house, but underpinned by genuine feelings…

i like making soups from scratch (E.g vegetable, lentil, minestrone) and try to make them tasty, nutritious and filling. For some visitors I make soups for lunch or dinner, for the same reasons above, plus I can make them in advance and just reheat giving me more time to be attentive to guests. I also either bake or buy nice bread and butter to go with the soup. Something for pudding would be offered too.

DH gets embarrassed when I serve soup to guests, saying it’s not proper food and it’s not being hospitable. He would expect a pasta or rice dish round someone’s house, or meat.

He happily eats soup when it’s just us as a family.

AIBU to serve soup to guests? Or is he right? Generally he is more sensitive about social etiquette than me. He’s also from a Mediterranean culture, which could be a factor here.

Thanks for reading and helping us to settle this!

Sounds fine to me! What's embarrassing about it? Is it blue soup? Are you fully dressed and sober when serving it up? He's being silly and demeaning and should darn well get in the kitchen with you if he wants to lay on a feast whenever people come round

😂

As a guest, you eat what you are given, & act grateful for it.
Even if you would have preferred something else, or would do things differently in your own house.

You are visiting somebody's HOME, not a restaurant.

Fr lunch, with bread and butter - lovely!

I love soup.

For an evening meal it would have to be a broth, though, with dumplings.

He’s also from a Mediterranean culture, which could be a factor here.

All my male med. chums can cook up a storm.
Why is yours such a lazy, critical tool?

Same. I’d be massively disappointed if I was invited to someone’s house for lunch or dinner and got served soup and bread.

@notacooldad

lol why?

Soup and bread light lunch only. Evening meal, only suitable as a starter.

I love a homemade soup, perfect for lunch but I’d expect something more substantial if I was invited for dinner.

Fine for lunch as long as served with sandwiches or alongside some cheese and meat.

If you are serving it for dinner as the main event, then I'm with your husband that's pretty embarrassing.

I agree with the majority of posters - yes for lunch, no for dinner.

I used to have regular dinners with a small group of friends where we took it in turns to host. One friend went through a phase of serving chicken and veg soup that was nice but very watery and not at all filling. The rest of us would go home absolutely starving! We were very relieved when she moved on from the soup stage to something more substantial.

@Rainbowshit

why do you need sandwiches with the soup?? Op has said she serves it with nice bread and butter. No need for cheese and meat too.

I went to a boarding school where once every term they held a (purely voluntary but everyone did it) “austerity day”, where we’d be fed nothing but bread and soup, and the money saved was donated to Shelter and/or Amnesty International, the school’s chosen charities.

So while I’m a big fan of bread and soup, it always reminds me of AUSTERITY. I might serve it to someone for a light lunch but not a main meal.

I would be so disappointed if I was invited to someone’s house for lunch and was given reheated soup and bread.
Who wants to drink their lunch. It’s a lazy, preprepared starter trying to be passed off as a main course.
Your husband however should cook himself if he wants people to have a decent lunch. It should not be always your responsibility. I can understand his embarrassment but it’s his own fault he does not take action and cook something better for the guests.

@LuckySantangelo35 because it wouldn't be a satisfying lunch for me. Soup and bread is a very light meal.

If he's so embarrassed he can get off his backside and cook

I just realised you serve reheated soup for dinner aswell, God no. How on earth can you invite people for dinner and offer them a bowl of reheated soup you made earlier in the day with a bit of bread?
Your husband need to do something about his mortification and cook something substantial instead of sitting there absolutely mortified with his spoon in hand drinking his dinner.
Pair of yis in in. Both unreasonable. Massively.

I'm not a fan of soup, although as a guest would be appreciative of the host's efforts and grateful.

Whenever I have mentioned to people that I don't like soup, they always tell me that theirs tastes amazing. It never is (although I would be far too polite to tell them that).

@Rainbowshit

what would you deem to be a satisfying lunch?

Personly I would find it awful.
@notacooldad

lol why?
Because i dont like a bowl of wet food
I've never liked soup from being a child.

@LuckySantangelo35 not sure why you're picking on me when plenty of other in the thread have similar opinions.

If I was out for lunch I would only pick soup and bread if I was not feeling particularly hungry.

I'd probably pick a pasta dish or maybe eggs Benedict.

Absolutely agog at folks posting pictures of soup. One of the most ubiquitous meals around. Like folks don’t know the different types of soup. It’s bonkers 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

irs also not just about how filling it is. Christ you can fill folks up with egg and oven chips.

personally I think a lovely home made soup and some nice bread is a fine lunch. Although I’d not just do that. I’d add meats or cheeses.

id never invite people to my house to dinner and give them just soup and bread. No matter how many pictures of soup folks post. Or how filling ir was.

Who wants to DRINK their lunch? What soups have YOU been eating?

@Nottodayicant Or rather... what soups have you been DRINKING?

Soup is a great starter.

I have. I make good ones myself, with lots of lentils etc. I can’t stand lumpy soup though - only ones blitzed smooth.
I can only eat a smallish bowl before I get bored with it so I’m not full. I don’t want more soup to fill me up, I want something else.