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To be in tears over noisy next door neighbours?

128 replies

TinaTeaspoons · 07/04/2023 18:11

The grandkids in particular are aged about 4 and 7 but screech and scream like toddlers when out in the garden. They are incapable of speaking in normal voices but then one of the aunts is gobby as anything too so the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. This can go on for hours and one of the kids usually ends up hurt which then results in loud crying. The aunts and uncles rile them up and encourage them to yell and scream. It's pretty much every Saturday and Sunday afternoon and all through the holidays. What's worse is that they have installed a hot tub right by our window which I can only imagine will make the situation a million times worse.
DH doesn't want to cause issues and will not say anything and will not let me. I cannot take anymore and think it's going to be a hellish spring and summer. Spent most of today cursing the noise and now in tears.

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TheHoover · 07/04/2023 18:13

Bad luck. Sounds awful. But don’t complain - it sounds like nothing more than their normal living

MattDamon · 07/04/2023 18:16

Put some speakers next to the hot tub and enjoy your favourite German death metal when the mood strikes you.

pilates · 07/04/2023 18:18

Move if you can 🥴
I know you shouldn’t have to

Busybody2022 · 07/04/2023 18:18

If its during the day it's just normal life noise. Irritating but you can't complain about kids playing or crying because they've hurt themselves

youshouldnthaveasked · 07/04/2023 18:19

I think some of your favourite music played rather loud should drown them out.

Thesharkradar · 07/04/2023 18:19

It sounds extremely upsetting and I am very sorry for you OP

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TinaTeaspoons · 07/04/2023 18:20

This is top of their lungs shouting and screaming. Not general life noise.

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notangelinajolie · 07/04/2023 18:20

Move

BabaBooPuffinsRock · 07/04/2023 18:22

I'm sorry you're experiencing noise related stress but what they are doing doesn't sound like it would bother a reasonable person, sorry. They're just enjoying their garden with their family. If I were you (and I've been in a situation where my NDNs caused a noise nuisance) I'd get some earplugs and maybe a white noise machine.

Thesharkradar · 07/04/2023 18:22

Inconsiderate people are very difficult to deal with...due to thier lack of consideration!
complaining tends to be water off a ducks back, or invites retaliation

Irritateandunreasonable · 07/04/2023 18:22

It’s THIER general life noise though, I get that yours is different but I’m not sure you can expect the kids to accommodate you and the adults don’t have a problem with it so I don’t think they’ll attempt to fix what they don’t think is a problem.

FrenchandSaunders · 07/04/2023 18:23

Sounds stressful but I’m not sure it would be classed as unreasonable noise during the day.

Hamsterrace · 07/04/2023 18:24

Sorry op 😔 I also have noisy upstairs neighbours. Kids screaming, banging, loud sex, shit music, etc. The dc woke me up at 6:30 this morning playing with what sounded like a bowling ball right above my head. There's not much you can do really. Ask them nicely to keep it down. If they don't then the next best option is to move.

Thesharkradar · 07/04/2023 18:25

I used to have a 'bad' family across the road, they conducted thier lives outdoors all summer, furniture in the garden, whole family out there.... noise noise noise
and then one day they'd all gone

Potplant19 · 07/04/2023 18:27

Sounds like our old neighbours before they moved. They had a hot tub and a noisy family, and a general air of being entitled to make as much noise as they wanted. They also had an outdoor sound system but only two CDs, one of pan pipes, one of Tina Turner. It was truly awful. We never said anything and just left on the days it was particularly bad, but summer was horrid as a result. They left about two years after we moved in, and the relief in the whole street was immense!

Easterfunbun · 07/04/2023 18:28

What about evening and night time? Personally I can put up with noise in the day.

TheWonderfulThingAboutTiggers · 07/04/2023 18:29

We have super noisy neighbours who seem to shriek and scream and I'd never really known anything like it. If line had started to get that loud I'd have brought them on but the neighbours seem to have got used to it as their normal.

It is hell. I completely emphasise as it has ruined the garden for us. Even if we shut all the windows/doors we hear it. Those saying it's "normal kids noises" haven't a clue. I've got a couple of friends who say this as if I'm antisocial but I've lived in a variety of places and
It's the first time I've had this problem!

I would so love to move.

Gymnopedie · 07/04/2023 18:29

But for the hot tub I'd say you don't live far from me. Saturdays and Sundays and the holidays. Constantly. Fortunately for me they don't live right next door but I always feel extremely sorry for their NDNs. The DGCs also can't communicate in anything but loud screeches and screams.

I get it, and it's not normal living noise. Playing, laughing, occasionally shouting is normal. This isn't.

I can't offer you anything but sympathy but fwiw you have it.

TheWonderfulThingAboutTiggers · 07/04/2023 18:30

I don't tend to want to go in my garden when it's dark...(to the poster asking about daytime/nighttime noise!)

TheWonderfulThingAboutTiggers · 07/04/2023 18:30

I've had a sort of neighbour a fair way across from us ask how we manage it. It's not "normal" kids playing noise.

MrsDoylesDoily · 07/04/2023 18:33

Ask your husband who he thinks he is, 'not letting' you have an adult conversation with your neighbours.

Then go round and speak to them.

BMW6 · 07/04/2023 18:34

I'd scream along with them! But I like the idea of playing really loud music too.

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TinaTeaspoons · 07/04/2023 18:34

Believe me, this is NOT normal living noise where kids are chatting, laughing etc. I had the TV on earlier to drown the noise out and could still hear them above it. Can't have the windows open either as the noise is too much. It's the screaming and shrieking that gets me. The youngest girl in particular is awful for it and has such a grating shrieky voice. I have never known anything like it. If we did the same to them, they would be straight round, that's what really irritates me. One rule for them. One for us.

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fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/04/2023 18:35

Ignore all the comments you’ll get saying this is normal kid noise - they either have no idea or they’re also nightmare neighbours.

I’ve been in this position and there’s a reason why incessant uncontrollable noise is considered torture. The only option is to move and hope to God you don’t move next to another family like it. Really sorry OP.

Sunbird24 · 07/04/2023 18:36

Sympathies OP. I moved away from a house like this as I was only able to sit out in my own garden for maybe 2 weekends each summer when they went away, even noise-cancelling headphones couldn’t drown them out. The couple who lived the other side of them moved out too.