This "mother's" action seem cruel, that poor little girl

[Mylittlefanny]

I do believe that kids need firm boundaries. But refusing to let a grieving toddler into your bed at night after her dad died! Those poor kids look so unhappy. There is being firm and being cruel. 😭 That bit honestly made me so upset. I agree about chores, cooking and cleaning. But gloating to your kid and leave him shivering without a camping bag! Sorry 😐 that's not on. I wonder what her kids will feel like when they are older! And yes I do read the daily mail as despite some of the celeb shit they publish. They also occasionally do interesting stories and cover issues many other newspapers don't.

I'm such a strict mother, a parent reported me to social services mol.im/a/11942993 via https://dailym.ai/android

My parents were unnecessarily strict. I don’t have resilience. I feel heartbroken for my child self, still feel really miserable about my childhood and a sense of injustice about it all. If anything I’m weaker than my friends who had warm and loving parents and also have a couple of MH issues that directly come from my parents behaviour. It’s false that strictness creates resilience. Often just pain.

My parents were unnecessarily strict. I don’t have resilience. I feel heartbroken for my child self, still feel really miserable about my childhood and a sense of injustice about it all. If anything I’m weaker than my friends who had warm and loving parents and also have a couple of MH issues that directly come from my parents behaviour. It’s false that strictness creates resilience. Often just pain.

I totally agree. As I said in my earlier post I’m in my 60s where the spare the rod and spoil the child was very much a desirable parenting and teaching model. There is a definite difference between the people I know who had a harsh and punitive upbringing and those who grew up in warm and more emotionally sensitive environment. There are exceptions but I’ve not heard anyone come out with the ‘It never did me any harm’ cliche.

My late DM was riddled with terrible anxiety, non existent self - esteem and married a replica of her father as it was her norm to be around an emotionally illiterate and punitive man. I replicated my parents marriage and my DD mine. The effects of a childhood where needs go unrecognised and there is tough love can ripple down the generations causing great misery. It’s nothing to be proud of.

To those who are analysing the photographs: do bear in mind that it will have taken ages and countless pictures to get the children in the 'right' poses, with the 'right' miserable expressions. They will have taken literally scores of pictures. They'll also have spent ages making sure the mum looks like a sour old boot. They're not going to publish the ones where the children are laughing and fooling around and their mum is looking nice and kind!

Oh, yes, I see those. Where she conveniently forgets that he'd left in the first place. Because a poor widow sounds so much better than 'woman required to get job when ex dies and maintenance payments stop'.

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With this approach the "mother" is inviting mh problems for her children. They'll grow up to be abused or abuse cos that's normal to them. They'll go to whomever shows an interest and love even if fake, cos they'll be hungry for a cuddle and some kindness. You're a horrible woman if you're reading this. All abusers who read your article are applauding and salivating with their actions legitimised.

You've not read it right. They divorced when child was a toddler and that's when she wouldn't co sleep, the Dad died 5 years later.

But she sounds a right twat and the Scouts would have had a spare bag anyway so not sure why she was happy that he would potentially freeze