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to think I have messed up massively

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moonmoon123 · 05/04/2023 11:01

periods 3 days late, felt pregnant partner thought I was pregnant.
took early test last week negative, took one yesterday FAINT line..was over excited and told partner then we told my mum I’m pregnant… this morning I took two tests negative……… shit, have I just announced I’m pregnant when I’m not.

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hannonle · 05/04/2023 11:04

Yes, 3 days late and neg tests then a faint line it's ridiculous you announced. You'll have to say you read the test wrong or something. And next time wait until you're sure and have multiple positives. 🙄🙄🙄

SisSuffragette · 05/04/2023 11:05

I'm sure I've read before that false positives are much rarer than false negatives. Give it a few days and test again. Good luck

Dontbelieveaword · 05/04/2023 11:07

hannonle · 05/04/2023 11:04

Yes, 3 days late and neg tests then a faint line it's ridiculous you announced. You'll have to say you read the test wrong or something. And next time wait until you're sure and have multiple positives. 🙄🙄🙄

Why so nasty and dismissive?

Smartiepants79 · 05/04/2023 11:08

Have you actually started your period?
Wait a few more days and test again if not.
It was very optimistic and over enthusiastic of you to start telling other people until you’re sure.

cpphelp · 05/04/2023 11:09

She's your Mum. She will understand your excitement, and help you through any disappointment you may(?) feel.

Unfortunately though, she now also knows you're trying 😂

ThirtyEight38 · 05/04/2023 11:09

Wow, not sure what’s wrong with the previous poster?

You are more likely to have a false negative on a pregnancy test than a false positive. I have only ever taken one pregnancy test, and didn’t feel the need to take multiples to be sure I was pregnant as suggested by the previous poster.

Currently you have had a positive pregnancy test and a late period, so I would assume you were pregnant. If you wanted confirmation I would wait a few days, and then test with first urine of the day.

Congratulations!

Isheabastard · 05/04/2023 11:09

If it’s only your mum and partner you shouldn’t worry.

Life is always a learning curve and I thought pregnancy tests were reliable, but your post has told me different.

I hope you get what you want soon. Best of luck x

PinkSyCo · 05/04/2023 11:09

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mummymeister · 05/04/2023 11:09

Is it just your mum that knows or will she tell others? have you told anyone else? Honestly I get that you were excited but really this is why the majority of people wait to spread the news beyond themselves and their partners. ring your mum, tell her what has happened and ask her to keep quiet until you are 100% sure.

MrNook · 05/04/2023 11:11

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Do most people wait until 12 weeks to tell their own mum?! I told mine straight away

MrNook · 05/04/2023 11:12

If your period is late then there's still a chance you're pregnant, what tests were you using? Was it the same each time?

Don't feel bad about telling your mum, you were excited! I'm sure she'll understand if it's a false positive

BrutusMcDogface · 05/04/2023 11:12

It’s not over until you get your period. Good luck 👍

noimaginationforausername · 05/04/2023 11:13

Jesus Christ some people love to kick a person when they're down, why the need for such nasty responses some of you?

Op as others have said a false positive it actually quite rare, give it a few days and test again if your period hasn't turned up.

You haven't messed up at all, it's just excitement which some people on here clearly don't experience.

🤞🤞 for you.

TheCentreSlide · 05/04/2023 11:14

No idea why some posters are being nasty about this?!

Don't worry, it’s understandable you’ve told your mum and your partner. See what happens - good luck.

Theimpossiblegirl · 05/04/2023 11:15

I completely understand your excitement. And telling your mum is understandable. Wait a few days and test again. Fingers crossed for you.

The not telling people for 12 weeks is standard, but I told my mum as soon as I knew, it's different to telling the world.

pinkpotatoez · 05/04/2023 11:17

@MrNook me too, sent her a picture of the test right away. Hopefully she's not told anyone if you said you had one positive pregnancy test, but seriously not that big a deal imo maybe I'm just very close to my family?

MoongazyHare · 05/04/2023 11:17

Isheabastard · 05/04/2023 11:09

If it’s only your mum and partner you shouldn’t worry.

Life is always a learning curve and I thought pregnancy tests were reliable, but your post has told me different.

I hope you get what you want soon. Best of luck x

Pregnancy tests are usually very reliable, but I see posts on here time and time again by people who interpret anything and nothing as a second line, so they aren’t actually positive tests in the true sense; they’ve just been read incorrectly, often due to wishful thinking.

ShadowPuppets · 05/04/2023 11:21

I'm firmly in the 'not telling anyone until 12 weeks' camp but parents/siblings/best friends are different to posting on social media/telling work/telling acquaintances. I 'announced' after the 12 week scan but took the view that if I had a miscarriage I'd want the support of my sister, parents and best friend, so told them. DH told his mum and his best mate for the same reason. Nothing wrong with telling people immediately if that's what you want to do.

OP, I hope you get the result you want - agree that if your period hasn't arrived yet, give it a couple of days and test again :)

Isheabastard · 05/04/2023 11:35

I’m older so I remember when there weren’t any at home pregnancy tests.

You had to go to the doctors and give a urine sample and wait for it to come back from the lab, and wait for the doctor to tell you.

I can’t remember how long after a missed period you had to wait before a doctor would take the urine test, but even back then I think you had to be quite a few weeks pregnant before the hormones were detectable in the urine.

so I think that’s where the 12 week wait originated from. It would be nearly that by the time you actually got confirmation.

Dontbelieveaword · 05/04/2023 11:36

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It's her mum ffs, she didn't take an advert out in local rag or put it all over SM. And I think you'll find that the tradition to wait 12 weeks is because that's when you're most at risk of miscarriage, not because you might have had a false positibe . Silly you

Itsbytheby · 05/04/2023 11:37

Just chill. Surely if you turn out to not be pregant you just tell your mum that either it was a chemical preganancy or a false positive. I can't imagine your mum would be annoyed about that. In fact hopefully she'll be comforting.

MrsMischiefOnTour · 05/04/2023 11:38

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Anotherdayanotherdollar · 05/04/2023 11:42

Hope all goes well for you!

barefootgoddess · 05/04/2023 11:50

It's possible its a chemical. I had a similar thing. Late, took a test, positive but not a strong line (not a squinter though), couple of days later started bleeding.

fantasyhomesbythesea · 05/04/2023 12:24

You haven't messed up but it is too early to tell if you're pregnant. Fingers crossed for you OP