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to think I have messed up massively

129 replies

moonmoon123 · 05/04/2023 11:01

periods 3 days late, felt pregnant partner thought I was pregnant.
took early test last week negative, took one yesterday FAINT line..was over excited and told partner then we told my mum I’m pregnant… this morning I took two tests negative……… shit, have I just announced I’m pregnant when I’m not.

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YellowHatt · 05/04/2023 12:55

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What a nasty post. I can’t believe you thought that would be a good thing to say to another human being.

OP of course it’s ok you told them about the positive tests. You can talk to them about the negatives ones too - tell them you’re confused and upset. Family can help you through situations like these.

Some people wait until 12 weeks because chemical pregnancies and miscarriages are taboo. But in terms of your mental health if something terrible happens those people risk suffering alone and in secret.

fairgame84 · 05/04/2023 12:59

It might have been an early positive or an indent or evap line.
Some tests are more reliable than others.

Can you post a picture of the test?

MaryJean87 · 05/04/2023 13:00

If there was a faint line there's a chance you are or at least, were pregnant. I had this happen to me a couple of times. My period was late following unprotected sex when it is never normally late, before heavy bleeding. One time I tested and got a very faint line, the other time I was 11 days late and waiting to test when I began to bleed. I can only assume they were chemical pregnancies that never developed.

Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 05/04/2023 13:08

You could possibly be having a chemical pregnancy where you test positive but it doesn't progress and then you get your period. So a loss before 5 weeks.

I would recommend jumping on to the pregnancy pages as there are lots of similar stories of positives then negatives. Or tests that are unclear.

Hopefully all will be ok. Would recommend getting a First Response test as they are the most accurate and testing in 48 hours from last test with First morning wee. Good luck x

mondaytosunday · 05/04/2023 13:21

I told my partner straight away, but I waited til I was two weeks late and took a couple tests. I told my parents once it had been confirmed by the doctor at six weeks.

MeinKraft · 05/04/2023 13:28

I've done that!! Felt like a right twat lol.

Throwaway0323 · 05/04/2023 13:39

If it makes you feel any better I will share this story with you.

I have very irregular periods. I hadn't come on in about 14 weeks. I did test after test and all negative so went to the doctors for some blood tests.

Results come in and I am pregnant, going from my last period I am about 14 weeks. Doctor refers me for a scan.

I tell everyone about the pregnancy, off I trot about a week later for my scan.

The sonographer asks me am I pregnant, there is no baby. She confirms a yolk sack but she can't see anything baby like in there. Come back in 4 weeks.

So I have to tell everyone I am pregnant but only about 4 weeks!

Longest pregnancy in the world after that!! All was well and baby was fine, I was just MUCH earlier on that I thought.

Wedoronron · 05/04/2023 13:41

@hannonle are you this pleasant in RL? Do you not have many people liking you?

MatildaTheCat · 05/04/2023 13:46

You haven’t messed up at all. Just text or call your mum and say, well this is confusing, the test is negative this morning. I’ll test again in a few days and keep our fingers crossed for good news. Probably just a bit over-excited yesterday.

Good luck.

GreyGoose1980 · 05/04/2023 13:48

False positives are really rare OP. If there was actually a line you may still be pregnant but the subsequent negative tests were not as strong or your urine wasn’t as concentrated.

DontLikeMenthols · 05/04/2023 13:53

Why is everyone being so sensitive on this thread, it’s posted in AIBU? Maybe OP should have posted in pregnancy to target a different kind of response.

PPs are just sharing their thoughts and views when OP asked AIBU to have told people I’m pregnant when XYZ.

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 05/04/2023 13:57

I also didn't tell anyone but only did 1 test for each pregnancy!

AllOfThemWitches · 05/04/2023 14:00

Somewhat missing the point but good lord, this early testing obsession is ridiculous.

ConcordeOoter · 05/04/2023 14:04

moonmoon123 · 05/04/2023 11:01

periods 3 days late, felt pregnant partner thought I was pregnant.
took early test last week negative, took one yesterday FAINT line..was over excited and told partner then we told my mum I’m pregnant… this morning I took two tests negative……… shit, have I just announced I’m pregnant when I’m not.

You haven't messed up massively. You've seen a faint line and might have got ahead of yourself. It's fine, tell mum that and test in a few weeks.

321user123 · 05/04/2023 14:17

AllOfThemWitches · 05/04/2023 14:00

Somewhat missing the point but good lord, this early testing obsession is ridiculous.

If her period is late it is not early testing.
Early testing is when you test before your period is due. She tested after.

Wouldyouaccept · 05/04/2023 14:18

hannonle · 05/04/2023 11:04

Yes, 3 days late and neg tests then a faint line it's ridiculous you announced. You'll have to say you read the test wrong or something. And next time wait until you're sure and have multiple positives. 🙄🙄🙄

Ignore this comment it’s unkind and idiotic. Why even bother to be like this ? What does it actually achieve ? Would you say this to someone in rl? What an idiot.

OP - it sounds like a chemical pregnancy perhaps and I’m really sorry you’ve experienced this. I’m sure your mum will understand and I hope things work out for you soon x

Wouldyouaccept · 05/04/2023 14:22

DontLikeMenthols · 05/04/2023 13:53

Why is everyone being so sensitive on this thread, it’s posted in AIBU? Maybe OP should have posted in pregnancy to target a different kind of response.

PPs are just sharing their thoughts and views when OP asked AIBU to have told people I’m pregnant when XYZ.

Last time I checked ‘Am I being unreasonable’ didn’t also mean ‘talk to me like I’m shit, ridicule me and here’s a free pass to be a total bitch’

Its perfectly possible to get your point across sensitively if you do think the OP is being unreasonable…… seems that AIBU is now just an outlet for frustrated arseholes to freely bully anyone for anything

Mariposa26 · 05/04/2023 14:23

Wouldyouaccept · 05/04/2023 14:22

Last time I checked ‘Am I being unreasonable’ didn’t also mean ‘talk to me like I’m shit, ridicule me and here’s a free pass to be a total bitch’

Its perfectly possible to get your point across sensitively if you do think the OP is being unreasonable…… seems that AIBU is now just an outlet for frustrated arseholes to freely bully anyone for anything

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100% this. People seem to think it’s an excuse to be vile.

MeMyBooksAndMyCats · 05/04/2023 14:24

We all make mistakes, just make a joke out of it you'll be fine.

Wednesdaysotherchild · 05/04/2023 14:27

Bit overly optimistic! I’ve had 13 separate BFPS now (each testing positive for several days or weeks). No baby though.

I would bide your time and wait until 12 weeks to announce in future. Early pregnancy can be a minefield. 1 BFP does not a baby make!

Myneighbourskia · 05/04/2023 14:27

Don't worry OP. Sounds like a chemical pregnancy. It's happened to me before. Next time just wait a bit. I think I'd wait til about 8 weeks before telling anyone.

Wednesdaysotherchild · 05/04/2023 14:28

If you look at the stats, chemical pregnancies are very common. It prevents or at least reduces heartache to know this in advance. Best of luck.

sweetdreamstenasee · 05/04/2023 14:29

sorry about the nasty responses!

Here’s my story

Took an early test, one of the ones that tell you early, it was just leftover in the house. Very faint line!

Told partner who rushed out to buy more tests. He bought digital ones which said ‘not pregnant’

A few days later, they all read pregnant :)

So if I were you I’d test with the early tests and see the line get stronger everyday.
Congratulations as glass positives are very rare. Good luck :)

CockSpadget · 05/04/2023 14:29

hannonle · 05/04/2023 11:04

Yes, 3 days late and neg tests then a faint line it's ridiculous you announced. You'll have to say you read the test wrong or something. And next time wait until you're sure and have multiple positives. 🙄🙄🙄

Do you get a kick out of being so unnecessarily offhand, nasty get.
You just got a bit overexcited op, it happens. You haven’t got your period yet, so it’s still a possibility. Fingers crossed for you.

DancingWithYouInTheSummerRain · 05/04/2023 14:30

It happened to me, got a faint positive, told DH, and then negatives for the next 2 days....my negative is sitting playing lego as I type!

Fingers crossed for you, don't give up hope yet!