"Stepfathers" in the media for all the wrong reasons

JoanThursday1972 · 2023-04-04T13:37:11+00:00

[[https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11937439/Mother-monster-boyfriend-guilty-death-two-year-old-girl.html#reader-comments https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11937439/Mother-monster-boyfriend-guilty-death-two-year-old-girl.html#reader-comments]] This story made my blood boil. What also makes my blood boil is the reference to him being "stepfather". It's a random the woman met on Facebook, moved him in after a few DAYS and then 16 WEEKS LATER the child is dead. I absolutely HATE the media calling these creatures stepfathers.

Spanglemum · 04/04/2023 14:43

I agree. Another child murdered by mum's useless, violent partner. Not a step father.

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 15:13

Hmmmm the difficulty is loads of women make bad decisions when moving in a man and are on here calling themselves and partners ‘step parents’ after short amounts of time. I really think you are getting angry at the wrong thing. Besides which children are at risk from step fathers and it’s important more women are aware of that. It’s not saying all step fathers are going to callously kill your child.

Temporaryname158 · 04/04/2023 15:16

The short time that people
introduce their partners to their children and in this case moved them in never ceases to amaze me.

poor child. Her mother is as much to blame as she literally did nothing to protect her

TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl · 04/04/2023 15:36

Temporaryname158 · 04/04/2023 15:16

The short time that people
introduce their partners to their children and in this case moved them in never ceases to amaze me.

poor child. Her mother is as much to blame as she literally did nothing to protect her

This.

I don’t believe for a moment she didn’t know it was going on. Some people shouldn’t get a sniff of children around them!

Also, this is partly to blame with lockdown - maybe services would have picked up their relationship had there not been a knee jerk decision to put our most vulnerable at risk

roarfeckingroarr · 04/04/2023 15:43

Why the f*ck would any women introduce a man they hadn't known for at least, the very least, a year to their children?! Even then, why move them in? It's pure weakness and it's neglectfulS

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JoanThursday1972 · 04/04/2023 15:50

roarfeckingroarr · 04/04/2023 15:43

Why the f*ck would any women introduce a man they hadn't known for at least, the very least, a year to their children?! Even then, why move them in? It's pure weakness and it's neglectfulS

She met him on FACEBOOK and he moved in after about four days.

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RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 16:05

JoanThursday1972 · 04/04/2023 15:50

She met him on FACEBOOK and he moved in after about four days.

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One day.

One. Day.

Everything I see in that article, every photo adds up.....

JMSA · 04/04/2023 16:06

I'm not going to read the story, but I'd bet my life on mum being thick as shit and totally ineffective. When a woman brings a man like that into her child's life, she has just as much blood on her hands too.

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 16:12

No, she doesn’t. The mother was neglectful. That doesn’t mean it’s her fault the child was killed. Stop blaming women for male violence. The OP wants to separate the man here out from step fathers because she doesn’t want all step fathers tarred with the same brush. But step fathers are a problem and we see that time and time again. Women across the board need to be extremely careful who they allow in to their children’s lives. Would a mentally healthy woman move a man in after one date when she has a child? No. The problem here is male violence and that includes preying on female vulnerability. The mother’s stupidity and/or neglect and/or vulnerability didn’t cause this man to beat a child to death. He caused that.

howdoesatoastermaketoast · 04/04/2023 16:15

headline should read cocklodger convicted of murder after beating two year old to death.

RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 16:39

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 16:12

No, she doesn’t. The mother was neglectful. That doesn’t mean it’s her fault the child was killed. Stop blaming women for male violence. The OP wants to separate the man here out from step fathers because she doesn’t want all step fathers tarred with the same brush. But step fathers are a problem and we see that time and time again. Women across the board need to be extremely careful who they allow in to their children’s lives. Would a mentally healthy woman move a man in after one date when she has a child? No. The problem here is male violence and that includes preying on female vulnerability. The mother’s stupidity and/or neglect and/or vulnerability didn’t cause this man to beat a child to death. He caused that.

She let him move into her home with her two year old daughter after ONE DAY
She knew he was violent
She knew he'd caused the child harm
She returned to him

She is absolutely to blame

AllOfThemWitches · 04/04/2023 16:54

This sort of story should be far more shocking but honestly, it's a wonder more kids aren't murdered because of their shitty, incompetent parents.

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 16:54

RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 16:39

She let him move into her home with her two year old daughter after ONE DAY
She knew he was violent
She knew he'd caused the child harm
She returned to him

She is absolutely to blame

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She is to blame for her neglect. He is to blame for his violence.

Antiquiteas · 04/04/2023 16:55

RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 16:39

She let him move into her home with her two year old daughter after ONE DAY
She knew he was violent
She knew he'd caused the child harm
She returned to him

She is absolutely to blame

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Oh she absolutely is to blame in part for this little girl’s death. She made shit decisions, neglected her daughter and turned a blind eye. But the blood is on his hands. He killed her.

girlfriend44 · 04/04/2023 16:59

It's time mum and dad stayed together and raised their children together.

Nearly all the time it's mum and partner or dad and partner.

Society is awful. Sick of hearing this.
Why do people want a make a choice like this, be hated, go to prison. It's hard to fathom. Why choose this Path.

RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 17:02

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 16:54

She is to blame for her neglect. He is to blame for his violence.

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She allowed a violent man access to her daughter. Do not absolve her of anything - he killed her, she allowed him to do so

FluffyPinkSocks · 04/04/2023 17:02

She is just as guilty as him. No excuses. She ‘slept through’ that little girl’s last few hours on earth as he assaulted her and ultimately killed her. That ‘mother’ should be sterilised, chances are at some point she’ll go on to get pregnant again, as for him, I hope he gets his comeuppance in jail.

Eyerollcentral · 04/04/2023 17:03

RiktheButler · 04/04/2023 17:02

She allowed a violent man access to her daughter. Do not absolve her of anything - he killed her, she allowed him to do so

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I’m not. She is guilty of neglect. The man is guilty of killing the child. Her neglect didn’t cause him to kill the child. He decided to do that himself.

Fairyliz · 04/04/2023 17:06

It’s cases like this that make me think we should bring back hanging.
What use are either of them to society? They will be out in a few years probably having more children and everyone else will be picking up the pieces.
I’m old and cynical now but I don’t honestly believe people like them can ever be rehabilitated.

shieldmaiden7 · 04/04/2023 17:08

Temporaryname158 · 04/04/2023 15:16

The short time that people
introduce their partners to their children and in this case moved them in never ceases to amaze me.

poor child. Her mother is as much to blame as she literally did nothing to protect her

This!

My exdh moved his new gf in the day she met my kids for the second time. I now have full custody due to her being abusive. I just don't understand how parents could bring strangers in around their children with no concerns.

DanteThunderstone · 04/04/2023 17:09

It's mentioned that she had a domestic violence worker, so she clearly had a history of bad relationships. I don't know what the answer is but Christ, what a sad story. The murderer looks rough as fuck for his young age - you can see all his drug use on his face.

Busybody2022 · 04/04/2023 17:09

My children's father was highly abusive. I broke free when my youngest was 10 weeks, oldest was just turned 2. I did all the courses and therapy I could get my hands on to try and avoid repeating it.

Realistically I know me, I know my sense of judgement and ability to stand up for myself. I vowed that I had already done it once and I don't trust myself to get it right next time so I plan to stay single until the children are of an age they are better able to protect themselves, if for whatever reason I don't. I also have quite a strong resolve no one will be introduced to my kids until at least a year and certainly not moved in for many years.

I know it sounds extreme but as a mother you have a responsibility for child first, own interests second.

DanteThunderstone · 04/04/2023 17:11

That's really laudable @Busybody2022

Hubblebubble · 04/04/2023 17:16

I have no plans to date until my child is an adult. I was an abused step child. I have a duty of care to my own child and my life is full in other ways. Romance will still be there when my child's grown up, but I've only got one shot at giving him a safe and happy childhood.

girlfriend44 · 04/04/2023 17:17

God look at the state of it. Child stood no chance, why wasn't she removed from the home.