Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

No. Ick.

Not for a million quid. The only threads I've ever seen on here where women say they are happy with this they sound deeply miserable and trapped. It comes across as entrenched misogyny in a narcissistic person who is unable to control a fetish. Which is so far from relationship material for me, never mind the nauseating idea of what they usually mean by dressing 'as a woman'. Bleughhhh.

I might but depends on many factors. Does he wear woman's clothes outside?

How often? What clothes ? Where?

In the late 90s I had a close friend whose relationship with a newish boyfriend seemed to be going well until he started casually wearing her clothes at home at the weekends in an 'Oh, I forgot to bring a sweater, I'll wear yours — and for a laugh I'll put on some of your lipstick' sort of way. A few months later he was revealed his wardrobe of woman's clothing, lots of pink and lace and mini-skirts, kept at his home. It was the 90s, Eddie Izzard was at his peak — in fact all three of us went to see his Dressed to Kill tour. She tried to be cool about it.

Not long after that the BF was brought home in the early hours by the police for having spooked a woman who called 999. He was 6'4" and dressed like a hooker in heels under a modest coat. Tina Turner-style big wig. He'd followed a young woman on her way home from the bar where she worked and tried to talk to her women-to-woman.

All downhill from there. Major personality change: everything was about him and his desire to be a woman and my friend ceased to matter to him. He hated lesbians because they looked at him disapprovingly. He went to the Charing Cross hospital clinic, took oestrogen, had the op and went out on the Soho scene looking for a sugar daddy who'd pay for a gorgeous babe like him. He was toweringly tall and thin with pronounced male-pattern baldness. Massive chin. He thought he was gorgeous — much more attractive than me and his girlfriend. This paraphilia gets hold of people (mainly men) and becomes their life. They get sucked so deeply into the fantasy that there's no escape. Don't even think about it.

No

No , I wouldn't. In my experience, they'll
Wait until your a few years in, then it'll escalate.

No
Not for all the tea in fuckin China

No.

No bloody way. Not a chance. Not even half a chance.

It would depend what else they were like, but it wouldn't be an automatic no for me.

No. It would absolutely kill my attraction, I’m afraid.

If he could carry it off like Tim Curry.

No. I don’t understand why any heterosexual woman would want their man to look like/ dress like someone or something that is the opposite of what they are attracted to.

Massive turn off. I like my men to look like men.

No.
I dated a man in my 20s who some way into the relationship revealed that he was a transvestite, as it was then called. Gave me the ick straight away but I was too 'be kind' to end the relationship until other issues arose.
Twenty years on he is now a transwoman.

I do believe in gendered clothes, as far as the opposite-sex attraction goes.
I do believe in some gender-roles and norms (some so called gender-roles are actually defined by our biological sex).

I find masculinity attractive.
I ain't ashamed, or phobe of any kind, just dead-straight and living my own truth, so stunning, so brave 😂

Yes. Absolutely. Not a deal breaker for me.

That reminds. I once saw a man walking down my road in a kilt. I said as I passed 'I love a man in a kilt.'

'So do I' he replied. We laughed.

No, same as I wouldn't date them if they were into "watersports" or other bodily functions. Something I find fundamentally unattractive and they enjoy, would mean we're incompatible.

Put another way, if I "should" accept them for who they are and "allow" them to express themselves how they want, why shouldn't they accept me for who I am and agree never to express themselves in that way? The obvious answer is that people have different preferences and aren't right or wrong for having them, it just means they are not compatible with one another.

*hetro

No.

The ever escalating drug use to try and instigate this type of sex was damaging
are we talking 'chem sex' @Sandyshores2024 or do you mean viagra type things?

No, because the thing that makes men attractive for me is their masculinity, it's the difference between the sexes that makes for attraction. I'm not talking hairy and muscular, just tall, lean and strong. A man's forearms in a rolled up shirt, yes, a man's arms in something frilly, no, just no

Oh bog off with the transphobia. Most cross dressers are utterly cis.

'Cis' being a political identity term, that many women find highly offensive to have thrust upon them without regard for how they choose to identify, and not used by those not part of the gender ideology belief system.