Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

No

Absolutely not.

I can't visualise this, and google hasn't helped. Are they dressing as female Spurs players? What make this cross dressing? Is it just this club that they 'dress up' as? Are they just wearing the kit or are they trying to look like specific players? Is it sexual? So many questions

I think that for many men who cross dress, they are aroused because they see women as less powerful. It's absolutely rooted in misogyny.

We don't have to be kind about this kink.

If a white man had a kink for putting on blackface would any of us be kind about that

Perfectly articulated!

No

My stomach lurches at the thought. That would turn me off not on.

Not in a billion years, it’s an instant and complete turn off.

No.

Just gross.

Absolutely not. A total dealbreaker.

No.

Laughing a lot at this.

I think I'd be more likely to stay with someone who 'revealed' this later into a relationship rather than start something new with someone who was upfront from the start.
If I'd had 2 dates and I thought, this looks promising, then he hit me with that, I'm not sure. If everything else looked good I'd return his honestly and say I'm unsure how I feel. Let me come round Weds and see you 'dressed up'. If I did that and wasn't 'icked off' next step would be to go out together.
Ultimately it's what sits right, not about judgement. If my OH grew a beard and had face tattoo I'd probably find him physically unattractive. You feel as you do but this isn't something mostvof her have to deliberate. I've certainly never been there.
I'd also need to know how he's defining cross- dressing. I'd feel more comfortable with an outgoing 'drag queen' than a Caitly Jenner lookalike. Or does he want to wear a wig and silky knickers when you have sex? Is it a sexual thing? How often? Who knows? Do you call him Betty when he's in character?

Start off with seeing him dressed up and take it from there.

Growing a beard and getting a face tattoo is not comparable in anyway.

Am decidedly certain that if the guy is mentioning cross dressing at the outset, it is a huge part of his life and sexuality.

Exactly.

They see it as being a soft, gentle, vulnerable, submissive, sex object "sissy".

No.

I once read a dating manual that said re clothing & presentation "try to look unlike a man" as a general rule. Men appreciate a bit of "femininity".

Not sure why men like this seek out heterosexual women (or any women) and do t appreciate the opposite is true too.

We don't really want to date or fuck men who are trying to look like women. )A cliche of women anyway).

No definitely not.

Back in the day Eddie Izzard asked me out. I wasn't interested anyway because I'm really shallow and go for looks. Then a while later he said he was a heterosexual transvestite I was urrrggg yuck.

Fuck, NO. A gigantic turn off

because part of the pleasure is in getting women to indulging his fetish, getting them to serve his needs etc?

Nope.

Be still my beating heart 😍 He was perfection.

Maybe.

I don't know.

I historically have only been attracted to a small number of people, lots of first dates I never followed up etc. I wouldn't pass on someone I liked, whose company I enjoyed and who I had chemistry with based on clothing or probably gender.

But then I'm probably not as straight as I present I guess as I'd probably date a woman if all other boxes were ticked so maybe thats a factor.b

Yeah also a no for me on those specifics

Would really depend on the person. Wouldn't mind a Grayson Perry for example. Rather this than a big old macho blokes bloke, if he was an arsehole then no 😉