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To think my friends aren’t coming?

549 replies

UnluckyCoil · 01/04/2023 17:16

Arranged earlier in the week for a catch up round mine which is a rarity as my DH is away- both friends agreed to come.
This morning at 9am, put a message in the group chat asking what time they were coming so I can make sure my house is tidy, make sure baby is asleep etc and neither have them have replied or even opened the message.
They are the kind of people who have theirs phones with them 24/7 so can’t imagine they’ve not looked at their phones for 8hrs.
I don’t mind but I guess I just want to know either way.. and I’ve bought drinks and snacks. I’d feel embarrassed to put a chase message in the group chat.
They aren’t coming are they?

OP posts:
murasaki · 01/04/2023 18:29

I'd expect them around 7, which is not yet. No need to worry for a bit.

Pubesofsoberness · 01/04/2023 18:30

I would assume they are coming . It would be shitty of them to have not let you know by now. Unless they have form for it

Yerroblemom1923 · 01/04/2023 18:31

@MrsDoylesDoily most people use email at work. I only phone to book taxi or speak to my mum (she doesn't have a mobile or computer or email).
No one phones these days.

mynameiscalypso · 01/04/2023 18:32

I get very angsty about arriving (even with friends) and I'd find your invitation quite difficult to interpret as to when you actually wanted me. In reality, I'd probably turn up about 7.30

worried4698643 · 01/04/2023 18:32

I would expect them after 7.

If I was unsure I would message them.

Dying to find out what happens. If they don't show they are shitty friends.

Yoyooo · 01/04/2023 18:33

Place marking to see if they turn up!

I hope so OP 🤞

MultipleVeganPies · 01/04/2023 18:34

They will come after 7, as they’ll presume you’ll be busy with the baby until then

And nobody actually really cares about “meeting” a baby (for more than 1 minute) 😁

SunshineAndFizz · 01/04/2023 18:35

BakedTattie · 01/04/2023 18:01

If one of my pals phoned me, I’d assume someone had died.

Me too.

The only person who phones me instead of sending a message is my brother. But he's also the sort of person who uses voice notes instead of actual texts, so you get the gist.

Dominoeffecter · 01/04/2023 18:36

Daftasyoulike · 01/04/2023 17:33

I almost had an argument with my DD about this recently, I'm really beginning to think that people have forgotten how to talk to each other. If someone misses a text or message, just call them, it's called COMMUNICATION ffs!

Often people don’t ‘miss’ messages, they simply ignore and don’t open because they are going to bail pretending they forgot, hence OPs reluctance to chase. It’s called PRIDE

Dominoeffecter · 01/04/2023 18:36

gettingolderbutcooler · 01/04/2023 17:47

Just message and say 'hey my queens, looking forward to seeing you all later'.

I’d definitely pull out if I got that message 🤣

Trixielo · 01/04/2023 18:37

bussteward · 01/04/2023 18:04

“Howdy hepcats, can’t wait to get our groove on after sevenoroonee on the clockette”

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😂😂

Hoolihan · 01/04/2023 18:37

Why do people on these threads always bang on about phoning? If her friends haven't read the message she's sent what makes you think they're going to answer the phone? I really don't get that.

OP I hope they turn up but it sounds like they're not going to tbh...

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/04/2023 18:38

Wow I talk on the phone all the time. I FT dd all the time to ask her to come downstairs for dinner or to ask her a question etc.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/04/2023 18:38

Oops posted too soon. I do hope they turn up!

Mutabiliss · 01/04/2023 18:39

MrsDoylesDoily · 01/04/2023 18:23

I can't believe how many people on this thread would rather sit and wonder, than phone their friends??

How do you all manage your telephone aversions at work? 😳

No-one has phoned me at work for years. It's not even on my email signature anymore, I'd rather they emailed so I have a trail of what was said. In-house we use Teams (had it since pre-Covid).

That's said, I would phone or at least send a clarifying message and then phone in this situation.

Missingpop · 01/04/2023 18:39

Ring them if they bail You’ve got time to sort something else out

MrsXx4 · 01/04/2023 18:40

I reckon you made it awkward by saying about the time thing, from 7 unless you want to see the baby.

maybe they don’t want to see the baby but weren’t sure how to politely tell you so are waiting til nearer 7 to be in contact about coming over. They may just want an adult evening.

SunshineAndFizz · 01/04/2023 18:40

I'd honestly rather send a relevant GIF than actually phone someone.

GalileoHumpkins · 01/04/2023 18:41

If any of my friends messaged me with the opener 'hey my queens' I'd presume they'd had a serious bonk on the head.

SunshineAndFizz · 01/04/2023 18:41

MrsDoylesDoily · 01/04/2023 18:23

I can't believe how many people on this thread would rather sit and wonder, than phone their friends??

How do you all manage your telephone aversions at work? 😳

No one phones anymore. We don't even have desk phones or mobiles. All through Teams and 80% of people message you on there/email rather than call.

704703hey · 01/04/2023 18:43

GalileoHumpkins · 01/04/2023 18:41

If any of my friends messaged me with the opener 'hey my queens' I'd presume they'd had a serious bonk on the head.

I think it's quite cute, sorry! Going to try that next time one of them phones :)

berksandbeyond · 01/04/2023 18:43

Ahh I really hope they turn up OP!

(another one who never phones friends, in fact when my best friend called me I nearly shat myself thinking something was seriously wrong)

SofieM0 · 01/04/2023 18:44

I don’t think they’re coming. They would have messaged by now if they were. I’d have checked a few days after organising/before the actual date. Might have still dropped out but maybe they’d have felt better giving you more notice? Cancelling on the morning of the meet-up is more awkward hence the silence.
this happens in my group all the time unfortunately…hope you enjoy the snacks, that would be the silver lining for me.

mammaofmany · 01/04/2023 18:46

I'd also assume they're not coming and think it's very rude.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 01/04/2023 18:46

I don't think they would be coming because they haven't replied but I don't understand why you can't just call them? Weird for them both not to come too though.