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Wedding Seating

104 replies

AliceAliceHatter · 01/04/2023 15:38

I've name changed because it's pretty outing.

I'm attending a wedding this year and have just been told that my DS is being seated at the 'kids table' during the wedding breakfast.

The issue is my DS will be 11 months at the wedding and I think this is too young to be apart from me when eating. I told the bride that I wouldn't be comfortable with this and she responded that I'm being too wary and he'll be fine.

Would you be happy with your 11m child being at a different table to you? Currently, he's able to eat some finger foods (picking them up) but he can't use utensils - he's 9 months old but I still can't imagine him being able to eat independently in 2 months without any adult present.

Additionally, I'm worried about a choking risk.. I'd never let him eat by himself (or with a group of children) without an adult present as he does still gag when eating and he's so young?!

Further info, they haven't done the seating plan yet with regards to location of tables so I don't know where he'll be in comparison to me.

I'm about to say that I won't attend but genuinely want opinions on if I'm being unreasonable.

OP posts:
MyLudicrouslyCapaciousBag · 21/06/2023 13:05

that’s absolutely stupid. good on you for declining. they are a baby not a child!

MrsMikeDrop · 21/06/2023 13:07

Standbyguest · 01/04/2023 16:15

Tbh I think even 3/4 year olds won't sit on their own and eat without making a fuss. 6+ maybe.

2 year olds would be fine, I've seen it at nursery but 11 months is pushing it!

Cakeorchocolate · 21/06/2023 13:15

Oh this made me lol at the expectation for an 11 month old to be able to sit and feed / look after themselves.

Sorry your friend couldn't see that she was being ridiculous.

Iloveacurry · 21/06/2023 13:21

If and when the bride has kids, she’ll look at this differently!

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