To judge the woman on the bus

[IDoughnutKnow]

She was on the bus this afternoon with two children - aged around 3 and 6. The 6yo was jumping around, doing the whole 'look at meeee' thing, standing up, messing around. The younger child had been bribed into submission with a massive doughnut. The mother (and I know she was the mother, as the older child kept addressing her as Mum) spent the entire 30 minute journey on her phone. I could see Facebook, then Instagram, then she was just scrolling around watching videos. Every now and then she would get pissed off and tell the child to sit down and behave and stop bothering the other passengers - when it was evident to anyone with half a brain that she needed to get off her bloody phone and talk to the child.

WABU to judge her hard?

No come on, the mum would have had to spend £10 on scratch cards from the newsies first wouldn’t she, to try and get money to pay for the MacDonalds.

I was diagonally behind her, so sort of over her right shoulder.

Photo of the doughnut or it didn't happen 😄

Were they all wearing their PJs too?

I’d have judged a custard doughnut…

Yup. I would add that I didn't judge the child at all. She was just being a lively and ignored six-year-old (well, ignored until she was snapped at, but then ignored again).

YANBU but you will hear the usual comments of how you just saw a snapshot etc etc She sounds fairly useless. Imagine what home life is like. Not good.

So would I...on their good taste.
Custard doughnuts are the best.

Given there is a crisis of sedentary children, a kid jumping up and down is a good sight to see, as long as he was safe.

Noooo- jam or iced!!

You could have started a game of eye spy

No, thats not performance parenting....thats just parenting.

It makes other lazier parents feel bad, so thats why they try to do it down.

Again - I wasn't judging the child. I was judging the mum ignoring her until she randomly got pissed off with her, then ignoring her again. The child was being a perfectly normal 6yo who needed her mum to talk to her or at least interact a bit with her.

The worse part of this thread is the stick up their arse posters agreeing with the OP.

Very true.

Please tell me you were on your way to The Grip Emporium. 😄

Me too.

I thought doughnuts were all a standard size. I'm off to Google giant doughnut shops now!

OMG I am doing keto and all I can think about is a custard donut. I wouldn't break my diet for a jam one, but custard ... 😋

If she'd have spent the half hour talking to her about mundane crap you'd have complained about that too.

I could. Unfortunately it was a bit packed. But I was very tempted to tap the mum on the shoulder and tell her to get off her bloody phone (though she also looked scary, so that thought stayed safely in my mind).

I only really like those donuts you get by the seaside or at funfairs, you know, gooey molten lumps of fatty dough rolled in sugar 🤤

Glorious. Many thanks for that!

I believe Doughnut Time do giant dough nuts.

I absolutely wouldn't. I would have thought she was doing a good job of entertaining a very lively child. In short, doing what she should have been doing.

Ohhhh they're the best doughnuts