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Waters broke 14 weeks is there any hope?

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user1469032438 · 26/03/2023 19:26

I think my waters broke and I'm only 14 weeks along, i was stood in the kitchen and all of a sudden there was a load of bloody liquid like wee but I wasn't weeing. Maternity unit wouldn't see me because I was less than 18 weeks and EPU is shut so they told me to ring 111 who said go to A&E so now I'm sat in A&E.

There is no hope for the baby though right? :( I have had 3 miscarriages and when this one got to 12 weeks and everything looked OK I stupidly began to relax.

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ReformedWaywardTeen · 27/03/2023 08:41

This is what annoys me with NHS care when it comes to women. It's just so lacking in care and empathy in many cases and I know there is funding and staffing issues but would it hurt to be gentle in their approach?

I hope you can be seen today OP, and I wish you luck and a good outcome, but please raise the way you've been treated as its really unacceptable.

Blossomtoes · 27/03/2023 08:47

I hope you’re already at the hospital waiting for the unit to open. And that you’re as
OK as you can be.

Wheresthebeach · 27/03/2023 08:59

Sending love and best thoughts.

fyn · 27/03/2023 09:04

A private scan clinic will just send you to hospital anyway. If they haven’t done a swab test, I’d ask for one. It will tell you if the fluid is your waters or just discharge!

WombatChocolate · 27/03/2023 09:09

Just seen your update. So sorry OP.
I hope you are being seen as I write. Sending hugs xx

Figgygal · 27/03/2023 09:09

Sorry you're going through this op and the fact you are being pushed from pillar to post is terrible

Plock · 27/03/2023 09:12

ReformedWaywardTeen · 27/03/2023 08:41

This is what annoys me with NHS care when it comes to women. It's just so lacking in care and empathy in many cases and I know there is funding and staffing issues but would it hurt to be gentle in their approach?

I hope you can be seen today OP, and I wish you luck and a good outcome, but please raise the way you've been treated as its really unacceptable.

Agreed. The lack of funding is not an excuse for the lack of empathy and compassion.

Minfilia · 27/03/2023 09:12

I hope it’s not as bad as you think OP. How cruel you are going through this at 14 weeks when you should be able to relax and be happy.

Best of luck for your scan today.

Scurryfunging · 27/03/2023 09:17

Oh OP... I hope you're there right now and telling them they need to see you urgently. Sending love and strength. I lost so much blood around 12 weeks with my youngest (now 11 years). It was a placenta bleed but based on the blood I lost I thought it couldn't possibly carry on. Hope you get some answers very soon x

WhatAmIDoingWrong123 · 27/03/2023 09:20

❤️🌼 x

wlv12 · 27/03/2023 09:27

I’ve been following this and wishing you all the best OP.

I’m an NHS community midwife and this gap in care frustrates me so much. Without doubt women are always bleeding or needing EPAU support ‘out of hours’ and it’s unthinkable that we haven’t moved on and made this a 24 hour service.

💐

MangoPi · 27/03/2023 09:36

In both my successful pregnancies I had some bleeding. No idea why - there was nothing on my scans to suggest what was causing it. just 'one of those things'

Agreed about the way women (especially pregnant) are treated though - I was made to feel hysterical both times with the bleeding, when I went into premature labor and had my son early I was also treated as such and was told I just had a urine infection.

It's vile - I hope you are seen today. I would be demanding it, it's your body and your baby. They may feel sad and sorry for you for a bit today but it's you who has to cope and live with whatever may be and you who is being forced to live in this awful limbo.

ign0re · 27/03/2023 09:39

Sending lots of love. The waiting must be unbearable, hope they manage to see you today xxx

blebbleb · 27/03/2023 09:39

@wlv12 I agree. I started bleeding at 4am one day when I miscarried. I was unable to contact any early pregnancy units until after 9am. It would have been even worse for me if it happened in the evening. The wait feels eternal when you're desperate to know what's happening. I also called my supposed 24 hour pregnancy advice line but no one answered. I couldn't bear to go to a&e and wait an unknown amount of hours and I know some areas don't even have early pregnancy unit. Great people once I was seen but the wait is awful.

Laiste · 27/03/2023 09:39

I had a massive bleed at 15 weeks. Blood all down my legs, in my shoes and across the floor size bleed. No waters mind you.

I went to A&E and they were very nice ect gave me a bed to lay on checked cervix (ok) and went all round the houses to avoid saying the obvious - there wasn't much they could do. If i was going to lose it i was going to lose it :(

They kept me in overnight (only because i was feeling faint) and scanned me in the morning. Baby was wiggling. I didn't lose it! DD is 9 Smile

Hang in there OP Flowers

Itsbytheby · 27/03/2023 09:40

user1469032438 · 27/03/2023 07:26

Hello everyone, thank you for your kind thoughts.

Have woken up this morning to a lot more bleeding but bright red not watery like yesterday. Rang the ward i was seen on last night which they told me to i had any changes or problems and they said "the emergency gynae ward opens at 9 if you ring them then they will probably see you today" honestly I don't know whether to laugh or cry I understand I might not be an emergency to them but it's an emergency to me :(

I live quite rurally and the only place that offer private scans near me is only open on Wednesdays unfortunately so I can't even do that.

I'm really sorry. Prenatal care in early pregnancy is dreadful, there seems to be little concern for the outcome or for the impact on the woman.

I hope everything will be ok for you.

Crazyshihtzulady · 27/03/2023 09:45

Thinking of you OP. Hugs and a handhold.

😘Xx

Beautiful3 · 27/03/2023 10:04

Oh no. I'm so sorry. You're going through a traumatic time right now. I honestly don't think the hospital offer enough support, when experiencing bleeding/no movement.

tissuepaper · 27/03/2023 10:04

user1469032438 · 27/03/2023 07:26

Hello everyone, thank you for your kind thoughts.

Have woken up this morning to a lot more bleeding but bright red not watery like yesterday. Rang the ward i was seen on last night which they told me to i had any changes or problems and they said "the emergency gynae ward opens at 9 if you ring them then they will probably see you today" honestly I don't know whether to laugh or cry I understand I might not be an emergency to them but it's an emergency to me :(

I live quite rurally and the only place that offer private scans near me is only open on Wednesdays unfortunately so I can't even do that.

Thinking of you OP.

That was awful communication - but what they meant is that it would be an emergency if you were losing so much blood that you needed transfusion etc (usually if going through one pad per hour) but that although it is of course vital to you to know what is happening, actually having a scan today or tomorrow won't change things as there won't be anything that can be done -it's the medical rather than personal view of an emergency - but I agree that the communication was terrible and sounds like it showed not one tiny scrap of empathy

geraldine32 · 27/03/2023 10:12

Stay strong. I had a heavy bleed during my pregnancy, it lasted for a few weeks and I was convinced the pregnancy would not last. He's now playing away at my feet at 11 months old. Keep the faith ❤️ lots of rest!

babybrainfart · 27/03/2023 10:32

Sending positive thoughts your way. I hope you get some answers soon.

Smineusername · 27/03/2023 10:40

That is truly awful God bless you

Sending love your way x

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 27/03/2023 10:43

I am so sorry you have been treated with so little compassion when you are so scared and upset. I hope you are at gynae A and E now and they are treating you better. I also pray the news is good for you and your husband x

LemonInaMug · 27/03/2023 10:44

Aw I hope you’re okay and get the care you need today x

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user1469032438 · 27/03/2023 10:55

Thank you everyone I really can't explain how much this thread has helped me feel not alone so thank you for every who has taken time to respond and share experiences.

Update: I have a scan at 11.15, just waiting for my husband to park the car and we are going in. Will update when I can. Hoping for the best expecting the worst.

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