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Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

504 replies

Orcubed · 24/03/2023 11:35

Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

OP posts:
Emotionalsupportviper · 24/03/2023 13:28

None of her business.

Get another lodger.

femfemlicious · 24/03/2023 13:29

Is she African?

CremeEggQueen · 24/03/2023 13:29

Yeah, you need to threaten to eat her if she doesn't shut her face 😁

Maray1967 · 24/03/2023 13:31

billy1966 · 24/03/2023 11:39

Give her notice.

She needs to find a house to live in, where the owner will appreciate her unasked for opinions.

This.
The only response you needed to make to her comments was ‘Do you actually want to carry on living here?’

SeaDee · 24/03/2023 13:32

Clymene · 24/03/2023 11:37

I can't be bothered to read what you eat, nor is it relevant. Kick her out. You don't need people negging you in your own home.

This x 1000

TheClitterati · 24/03/2023 13:32

as I see it you have 3 options:

  1. tell her to go fuck herself and MHOB,
  2. evict her,
  3. eat her.

seriously though - how rude!

Lemonyfuckit · 24/03/2023 13:32

A) that seems a pretty healthy diet to me, plenty of vegetables, balanced, everything in moderation including a little bit of what you fancy. Sounds a completely normal amount to me, definitely not too much.
B) you're a healthy weight and you say she's bigger than you?! And
C) how fucking rude even if A and B weren't the case!

Tell her to mind her own business and not be so rude.

Couldyounot · 24/03/2023 13:33

"No, I don't eat too much. But I'm starting to think that you live in my house too much."

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 24/03/2023 13:34

She’s not Scandi or Dutch, is she? They have a reputation for being very ‘direct’, aka bloody rude.

Seeingadistance · 24/03/2023 13:37

Clymene · 24/03/2023 11:37

I can't be bothered to read what you eat, nor is it relevant. Kick her out. You don't need people negging you in your own home.

Exactly this.

CaveatmTOR · 24/03/2023 13:38

This would have been a perfect moment to say, "Did you mean to be so rude?"

EllaBella41 · 24/03/2023 13:39

Sounds like your lodger talks too much!

Iwantmyoldnameback · 24/03/2023 13:39

I think you should explain to her that her comments could be considered rude by English people, it's only fair. And will make you feel much better.

2bazookas · 24/03/2023 13:40

Suggest you need to drastically reduce the lodger.

WilsonMilson · 24/03/2023 13:41

I eat more than that and I’m a middle aged 5’4” woman who is a size 8.

You definitely don’t eat too much and your lodger sounds like a right bitch. I would take massive offence to someone telling me I eat too much. Absolute cow. Tell her that her breath absolutely stinks!!

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 24/03/2023 13:44

I didn't read your food list either because it is totally irrelevant. Your lodger has a bloody nerve speaking to you like that.
Choc rice cakes, never heard of those but must look out for them.😋

Ahsoka2001 · 24/03/2023 13:45

Wow, most people ask lodgers to move out when they're doing drugs, bringing dodgy men/women home or not paying rent! But no, Mumsnet wants you to kick this one out over one comment...

willow236 · 24/03/2023 13:48

Ha, I bet I know where is she from most likely.

No filter whatsoever, unmannered and just plain rude.

Not all foreigners are like this.

Lots of them have a manners and good social knowledge what is okay to say and what is not.

In this case, she probably just lacking basic social manners, or doesn't care.

Still very rude.

butterfliedtwo · 24/03/2023 13:48

Ahsoka2001 · 24/03/2023 13:45

Wow, most people ask lodgers to move out when they're doing drugs, bringing dodgy men/women home or not paying rent! But no, Mumsnet wants you to kick this one out over one comment...

Because she's completely overstepping, making OP doubt herself in her own home with unasked-for opinions. It's rude as fuck.

CremeEggQueen · 24/03/2023 13:49

Or do a Joey
"I'M CURVY AND I LIKE IT!!!" 😁

ImpossibleDrear · 24/03/2023 13:50

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 24/03/2023 13:44

I didn't read your food list either because it is totally irrelevant. Your lodger has a bloody nerve speaking to you like that.
Choc rice cakes, never heard of those but must look out for them.😋

Agree. How dare she.

Chocolate rice cakes: itsu do nice dark chocolate snack pack size ones 😁

Ragwort · 24/03/2023 13:57

That's so rude and inappropriate. Like others I didn't even read your list because unless you have a food disorder and are under medical supervision NO ONE should comment on your diet.

I am overweight and eat an unhealthy diet but that is my choice as an adult, I don't want or expect anyone to comment on my food ... even if from 'a place of kindness'. People love to be judgemental. Even some of the comments on this thread are being a bit passive aggressive about the OP's diet.

PelvicFlora · 24/03/2023 13:59

Whether you eat too much or not, it's none of her fucking business.

I also feel like it's not irrelevant that she's larger than you.

TheShellBeach · 24/03/2023 14:01

Anonymouseposter · 24/03/2023 12:53

It doesn’t matter what you eat. If you had fish and chips followed by sponge pudding and a full packet of biscuits it would be none of her business. You didn’t ask for her opinion.

That made me laugh.
I could almost see myself actually eating that if I was in the mood.

Deathraystare · 24/03/2023 14:08

@SunnySideDownBriefly

I was thinking Eastern European. They can be brutal too! My ex hairdressers certainly were!