To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

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Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

That’s great advice thank you 😊 , I didn’t realise about the AIBU, just noted the covid topic.

@JenniferBooth

an 11 year old isn’t a little girl , they are almost a teenager

i cant help noticing that the concern about some of us living in smaller places so couldnt self isolate have not yet developed into a campaign about people being allowed to live in bigger homes where they can self isolate more easily. e,g the bedroom tax still stands. Its funny how certain people didnt/dont want to follow up their faux concern with more room for social housing tenants to self isolate. We could start with a new campaign to end bedroom tax for good. I wonder how many of the middle class who loved lockdown but denigrate SH tenants would put their money where their mouths are for this!!!

Do you genuinely think less people would have been impacted if there were no government intervention during covid?

How would all those businesses survive when 20%,50%, 75% of their customers stopped visiting/booking work due to their own worries over catching covid?

How would they cope when 10%,15%,20% of their workforce went off sick due catching the virus and then a further X% were impacted because hospitals couldn't cope so other ailments/injuries went untreated?

How would they replenish their stock when virtually every other country in the world locked down and reduced their output?

It's so unbelievably simplistic to say "covid was just a cold, no need for lockdowns"and shows you up as someone with very little ability to join the dots.

It's like going back to 2020. I'm wondering if some of the posters on this thread are the arseholes who were abusing people back then but now under a different name.

They were idiots then and theyre idiots now. If anything they got stupider.

We don't have to gloss over their stupidity.

I mean, they are still wittering on about it being "little more than a cold"...a virus that killed 15 million people, according to the WHO.

So anyone who disagrees with you is an idiot? Were you one of the posters berating others for buying chocolate, going out more than once a day?

I know many people experienced real trauma during covid, I know many people developed serious mental health problems during the covid, I know many people didn’t have a horrific time but found it hard and life changing. Honestly, OP, you’re not coming across that way. You’re coming across as goady, quite self centred and as if you’re just spoiling for a fight.

Funnily enough, I was talking about it with my grandparents today. They said it was such a strange time to look back on - when we walked past their window so they could wave at the children they used to cuddle and kiss and how they definitely saw a decline in their mobility due to covid restrictions. They managed not to sound whiny and self righteous even though I know they feel the restrictions were harsh.

No, as already stated, it's not disagreeing with me that makes them (you?) idiots. IT's just being idiots. It's refusing to wear a mask at your kids school, making life harder not just for the staff, but your own child, because you're just that arrogant. It's wittering about it being "just a cold" and how old people would have died anyway.

I'm not eben in the UK, I live somewhere with a sensible goverment who had a sensible and measured response to covid that the vast majority were happy with. You had a bunch of chumps who couldn't have organised a pissup in a brewery (but organised many of them in Number 10). But that doesn't excuse the like of OP from their twattishness.

I can't believe there are still morons blithering on about masks not working and covid not being that bad and how lockdowns did nothing. Change the fuckign record, at least, maybe join the flat earth people. That's about your IQ level.

Exactly and whilst wearing a mask didn’t affect businesses, not wearing a mask outside should NOT have affected the OP’s children. It’s the ridiculous school in the wrong here

I think that poster was referring to the likes of you. Considering you’re the one name calling and having pretend concern for children you don’t know

Do people not remember to huge spike in infections after the Wembley Euros final?!? Of course it's possible to get infected outside

Please stop making statistics up, it’s embarrassing.

Seriously book yourself some meditation before you give yourself a coronary. Your delusions and exaggerations, whilst entertaining, are giving me so much second hand embarrassment

It may indeed have been the school being ridiculous about masks - although I do seem to remember some rule in Scotland about wearing one at the school gates for a while - but it's unlikely to have been the teachers in the DDs class.

By all means write to the head and board of governors, whinge about it on mumsnet or start a FB petition, but making life harder for your own DD and her teachers seems entirely the wrong way to go about it.

And by the way I was firmly anti extended lockdown and fairly ambivalent about masks.

Yanbu. The lockdowns and mask wearing were a hysterical over reaction. Most people who had covid barely noticed it. It is very sad for those who suffered/died, but we don't throw the same effort into fighting cancer as we did for covid.

I feel for you OP.

I don’t understand what you’d have lost by wearing a mask to school. You made life difficult for yourself and others. I totally sympathise with your business issues and mental health issues caused by lockdowns etc. But a lot of your headaches are self inflicted. Where was the need to publicly voice your opinions at such a sensitive time, when everyone was trying to cope?

I didn't love Covid. I worked from home throughout. I have never baked banana or any other bread in my life.

It was far from the best time of my life too but I did what we were asked to do in the interests of myself, my family, friends and community.

"Reflecting back" - we didn't have that luxury in 2020.

Yep.

And while OP might be on a wind up, I don't think the people replying to her all are. The fact that acquiescing to this nonsense to make people who are by definition in the wrong feel better is being presented as a virtue, that's actually awful. It's problematising people having reasonable, correct boundaries and it doesn't actually help the people whose anxiety has led them to believe masks outdoors is a reasonable expectation of others either.

It's one thing doing things you knew were stupid for an easier life in what was a very stressful time. I completely get that. Pretty much all of us must have done it to an extent. I did, and I decided lockdown didn't apply to me pretty early on. But the idea that it's some positive example to be followed? Fucking hell.

No that will be from the other activities surrounding the event: packed train journeys there, packed bars before the match, busy toilets. This is well known I thought.

Added to which, that was a population level spike and most people didn't go anywhere near the game in person. What they did do is gather together in pubs and houses.

And Glastonbury. But very very different from a school pick up, where, presumably people were social distancing. And there were far fewer people. And a stadium is enclosed. A playground or the street outside is not.

11 is a preteen - still not a little girl.

I must admit that I am curious about the level, depth and competence of the training the OP undertook to equip herself for her lucrative new career.