To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

she contracted covid from this group and brought it back onto the ward You CANNOT possibly know this! Hospitals were major drivers of transmission and outdoors negligable. Ridiculous to be so blind to reality three years on.

This was me. I was sympathetic in parts - everyone had a shit time - but that was just unnecessarily being stubborn

"Oh and my little girl was only 6 at the time and she used to laugh at people wearing masks outside and when they put their ridiculous biohazard tape in the playground she went round pulling it off. And i didn't stop her. She is almost 9 now and a strong clever feisty girl who takes absolutely no shit. I wish could say same for one of my older ones who is a mess"

Lovely little vandal you have there, OP.

My children were also effected by Covid and the rules but we went along with them because, as others have repeatedly pointed out and you have refused to listen, it was a NEW virus and people were dying in droves (I work at a hospital and saw first hand the devastation it had on patients and their families).

You seem to like the drama you caused on FB - if you don't like something, you don't have to say anything.

You let your daughter run around ripping off peoples protective wear during a pandemic? Wow that's absolutely appalling. You whinge about your mental health but give no shits about your daughter bullying other kids whoare probably wearing that tape due to anxiety about catching covid? It's only you that is allowed to struggle and be a victim clearly. What a horrible thing to do.

"What kind of parent prefers making a stand over wearing a mask for 5 minutes to picking up their child?"

The kind of parent who wants to ensure her child doesn't live under tyrannical rules that are made up on the hoof by I'm a Celebrity guest MPs.

Any sympathy I had for you just evaporated. This shows you are not here to seek support for how you are still impacted by what you went through, you've just posted to be goady and to wind up people who suffered a lot worse, losing friends and relatives to Covid. Shame on you.

This.

you should have worn a mask.
you mouthed off on fb and alerted bullies to you being a denier, you wouldn't have been targeted if you'd kept quiet on social media and neither would your son.

im sorry your kids didn't cope and I hope they get the treatment they need

@OnlyFannys - I think you may have misread. OP let her daughter rip off the biohazard tape from the playground and would laugh at people in masks. Sounds like a little bully to me!

The number of people who think you were to blame for the headteachers actions is hilarious. If a person thought they had the right to decide what others wore outside in a public space, with no legal basis whatsoever, the only fault there is with them.

*using not wearing. Obviously you dont wear tape

YANBU.
It must have been in the South East OP.

The same righteousness maniacs down South are the ones "transing" the kids. Glad I moved my family away.

Yeah I mashed the 2 things together in my reply because i was so annoyed 😂

I haven't RTFT but I agree with you OP.

Just wait for the next one!!

I don't blame you :) OP is obviously loving winding people up on this thread!

Wearing masks outside was utterly pointless! We know this now. I watched a video of a couple in the USA, in the middle of a national park, having a to wear them, even with no one else in sight.

I'm sorry to break this to you because it might spoil your fun, but I doubt anyone will actually be annoyed by the fact that you're not responding to them. Most will just take it as a tacit admission that you don't really have a valid response.

The fact that you wouldn’t just wear a mask (when you were able to) to enable your child not to have to be dropped off and picked up late, and the tone of your OP tells me everything I need to know really.

Many things about the covid pandemic were handled badly. When we were all in the thick of it, the govt had to make decisions based on something none of us had experienced before so it was difficult. BUT I’m most unhappy with the impact this had on children. They missed so much education , weren’t allowed to see friends- all for something that affected the vast majority of them very mildly. Their normal lives were effectively sacrificed for everybody else. It even became acceptable to suggest that passing on covid to elderly grandparents meant responsibility for their death. This was an absolutely appalling mindset to allow for the youngest in our society. Out of the whole mess, this is what makes me angry.

Ahh bless. Not even sure the OP is real or this is a wind-up.

Seriously though you are really damaging your children with your attitude. Rejoicing in your 6 year old pulling up the school tape and having special rules for your younger child so you didn’t have to have a mask on for a few minutes? My medically vulnerable child showed real bravery just going into school. And she had to then deal with idiots like you.

I think your older child’s problems will be a direct result of your antagonism, your selfishness and your lack of empathy. Hopefully your children have someone in their life who can model better behaviour - laugh your socks off.

I agree with PP if you are laughing at the posts where people have had detailed loved ones dying you are in need of serious mental health support.

Mmmm. I do wonder at "challenging authority/sticking it to the man".

If this only translates to squabbling on SM with total strangers and deliberately going against the grain (no mask at pick up) to draw a line when all that results is your child is disadvantaged, it's not exactly inspiring activism is it?

twat

@ifyougochasingrabbits YANBU. What we all went through was like what you'd see in a horror film, and now we are meant to go back to normal like nothing happened.

Haven't read the full thread but il be another voice of sympathy. The mask thing was fucking ridiculous. I only wore mine to ante natal appointments out of solidarity to the NHS staff who had to wear them all day long and I didn't want to cause hassle for them.

Didn't wear them in supermarkets I had a massive bump so no one challenged me.

And here we see how things like nazi Germany happened. I'm a granddaughter of a holocaust survivors before you jump on me for that comment. Just do what you're told and don't question it is a terrifying way to live and you can sleepwalk into terrible things

This is such a bonkers argument. It depends on the reason, doesn't it.

The Nazi government wanted to control people for the purpose of committing genocide.

Our government wanted people to social distance and wear masks to try to prevent a brand new, lethal virus from spreading until they could get a handle on the science.

To weigh up the advice of the government during covid - which was based on the scant available facts at the time - and to decide that, on balance, it's probably sensible to wear a mask and avoid people as much as possible until we know more about the virus, is not remotely the same thing as colluding with Nazisim. And from one granddaughter of a holocaust survivor to another, I'm horrified at the comparison.

This thread is proof of how this shit government governs and how they handled the pandemic. They were incapable of proper leadership and governance, so they encouraged people to turn on each other and tear each other apart, to try and cloak their inadequacies. They've done it since 2015 and they continue to do it