To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

You weren’t unable to wear masks, you chose not to - so some of your Covid problems were partly self inflicted

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'I did wear masks

But not outside

I drew the line at that'
@ifyougochasingrabbits

You drew the line at that, at the expense of picking your five year old daughter up? YABU.

I hear you OP and I feel for you.

Sorry, there are parts of your post that I might have had sympathy with, but you completely lost me at the point at which you said that you made your little girl suffer because you did not want to wear a mask for school pick ups. It's clear from your post that you could have worn one, as you have said that you have no problem wearing one inside, so you simply chose not to, regardless of the impact that this had on your child.

Oh I won't and this is why I'm not responding to them on this thread

I'm laughing actually cos it will annoy them I'm not individually replying 😆

You don't think encouraging a 6 year old to openly laugh at and ridicule someone for wearing a mask is bullying?

You refusing to wear masks at pick up, your son posting anti mask stuff on Facebook and your daughter running round pulling off biohazard tape.

It's no mystery why people stopped using your cleaning services.

I'm so sorry

Wearing a mask is really no big deal to avoid situations like this, OP.

Did you take a mortgage holiday though? That would have helped Im sure. It did for me and our income was certainly fk all in comparison to yours.

Not wearing a mask outside for 2 minutes so your daughter was able to start and finish with her peers is cunt behaviour. You were arguing with people on Facebook, refusing masks outside whether ridiculous or not it a different story, conveniently your 11 Yr old was unable to wear masks and your 'feisty' dd was removing tape and laughing at people. You sound like a lovely family 🙄

True 🙄

It turned out that mask wearing outdoors wasn’t necessary but did we know that at the beginning? I can’t remember tbh

But I’d have gone along with it to get my child into school at the right time

I didn't and still don't agree with masks being worn outside however I did "comply" so to speak so I could have what limited freedom I could get and I did to ensure my DCs could still have school, outdoor activities etc

Bloody good on you.

I am so so so sorry for your loss.

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Wow! Reading this thread is like going back in time. Some of the replies are just downright nasty - why wouldn't OP struggle on half her household income FFS? We dropped down to one income as DH couldn't work and I had to take a pay cut as well (not furloughed). Of course it was tight.

No doubt some of the posters on this thread were the ones screaming we should all 'stay the fuck at home' ('the fuck' being an important addition to the phrase) and that anyone who left their home was a stupid granny killer.

I feel for you OP, and even more so after reading some of the replies on here.

Ah, so rather than posting because you 'arent over' what you seemed to think only affected you during covid, this reveals the real reason you are here - to poke the bear and try to get emotive responses from people. Pathetic.

People not agreeing with you does not make them bullies.

There were countries where lockdown was unbelievably harsh, I have people living in China and HK. They really suffered and it was draconian.

To choose not to wear a mask on the school run because you didn’t believe in it when it would not have actually harmed you was what caused a lot of your issues.

My friend had survived cancer but her immune system was wrecked, she caught covid and died in July 2020 in her mid thirties. She was a gifted young teacher who taught in an inner city comprehensive. It had been a miracle she survived cancer.

Are you getting help for your mental health issues now OP?

Honestly, the best way to deal with the headteacher complaining about masks outside would've been to remind them that they didn't get to decide who wore what on public roads and paths, and in the unlikely event that any of my neighbours had shopped me I'd have ensured they regretted it. That's the best way to handle this kind of thing.

We lost two relatives during the pandemic, one to covid.

The relative who died of covid was admitted to hospital with an unrelated illness. A patient on her ward refused to wear a mask outside the hospital because she said it was outside and she didn't need to. The rules were silly and for other people. Everyday she went outside and mingled with other like minded people. She contracted covid from this group and brought it back onto the ward. Our relative who was bed bound contracted covid from this person and died. She had spent 18 months shielding at home during the pandemic because she was literally terrified of contracting it.

As she was dying, only her son was allowed to see her, no one else because she had covid. We have to live with that memory of her dying scared and alone in hospital because someone refused to wear a mask outside.

What kind of parent prefers making a stand over wearing a mask for 5 minutes to picking up their child?

Lots of cleaners got cancelled in lockdowns. They got brought back as soon as possible. You didn't, because your clients didn't want you in their homes.

Almost all of your problems were caused by yourself.

Don’t you think a lot of us disagreed with the rules ? Of course we did but we also saw people around us either die ( two in my family within a week ) or be very ill and have long covid . The point was to try and minimise risk and the WHO were making most of the recommendations. In other countries they were enforcing with police with guns so we did not have it as bad as that . But we just carried on the best we could . A lot broke the rules ( seen on lots of threads on here ) and a lot didn’t . That’s human nature .
I think a lot of us have changed since lockdown and suffered in a lot of ways . But really we have to let it go . And try and move on .

Lourdes12 What you've experienced is utterly horrific to read. I hope that one day soon your health is back on track.

Your title is inaccurate. Very few of these things happened to you. You weren't a victim. You made personal choices and these events were the results of your choices. You engineered your own life and the events that happened. Now playing weak victim and boo hoo people are so mean is pretty pathetic.

Making a statement about your personal views over things that weren't even important (masks outside etc) was more important to you than your children's mental health or education. That is your choice and now you get to see the results of that choice. You'll get sympathy fro others who go through life as victims who take no responsiblity for their own decisions and choices in life and the impact of those in themslves and their families. You can all have your pity party and self centered venting session together on here.