To not want to give up Narnia?

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When DD was a toddler I created a Narnia in her room. Basically there was an adjoining room from her bedroom, I removed the door, put a wardrobe on either side, and made the other room into Narnia. It has snowy woodland painted on all the walls, a bookcase, cushions on the floor and is basically a “snug”. DD adores in still and is always in there.

DH now wants to get rid of Narnia and turn it into a storeroom for DDs stuff. This is totally unnecessary as we have 3 other spare bedrooms as well as a cellar.

DD wants to keep Narnia. DH thinks it’s babyish and a waste of space as her bedroom is already a big room.

His issue is that his kids don’t have stuff like this at their mum’s house but that’s not mine or DDs fault is it?!

What do you think?

You’re never too old for Narnia!

op your dh hasn’t got a leg to stand on, none of his arguments are valid. if his dcs rarely come to visit am pretty sure they would be of an age that wouldn’t particularly want a Narnia room anyway.
I suspect this is just a way of him exerting his control over you.

Do not under any circumstances let him take Narnia away.

What a lovely mum you are! What a fantastic thing to do for your child. No wonder she doesn't want to give it up. I want a Narnia - and I'm ancient.

DD wants to keep Narnia.

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we have 3 other spare bedrooms as well as a cellar

Your DH is being v unreasonable.

Feed him nothing but Turkish Delight until he improves his attitude.

Keep Narnia! And level up rather than level down. If DH feels his older children will be feeling like the poor relations because they are living in a Narnia-free zone, why not, if you've got the space, make some changes to your home that would make it feel more welcoming for them when they visit? It's not too late, even if they didn't get those customised bedrooms when younger, to include them in redecoration plans of 'their' rooms. What size is the cellar? Could it be a teen chill pad?

Please don’t change a thing, I certainly wouldn’t do it. It sounds wonderful. Your daughter can use it as a study. It’s on your husband to decorate the bedrooms for his children. I wish I had a room like that!

If she still wants it that way let her keep it. It's attached to her room so wouldn't it be invading her privacy to use for storage?

If everyone can't have it then no one can have it!

God I hate that attitude.

It sounds lovely. Stick to your guns, YANBU!

I want a Narnia room now!!
Keep it.

My dd has an annoyingly large 1m X11's bulkhead cupboard in her room that doesn't work as a wardrobe as it's too high off the ground to easily step into and it's deep, but I've installed some pullout steps and am turning it into a music booth for her to sit and play/compose/record. It certainly beats its current use as a 'cupboard of doom' and I have my studio shed at the bottom of the garden - we all need a special space to just be, if we can.

Your dd is very lucky.

^^this

I'm in my late twenties and want this. Nothing to do with "DH is usually wrong", it sounds amazing.

Keep Narnia, get rid of arsehole DH.

It sounds beautiful can we see a picture

If she’s had it all this time why does it now make a difference?

OP. Ever thought about taking up interior decorating professionally?

I'm in my 40s and I want a Narnia, complete with wardrobe and snowy wintery treescape walls!
He is being utterly U. It doesn't matter how old she is, she is using it.

I don't like the books or the films but my God I'd love a Narnia room.

Why get rid of something that brings a little magic to her life, whatever her age?

Your 'D'H sounds like a joyless arse.

This is the best idea I've ever seen

Bliddy heck - so would I!!!

😍😍😍

His other kids aren't your responsibility. They don't have their dad living in their home, either, so is he going to move out of your house and into the shed?

of course you shouldn't get rid of it. not until she wants to. it would be cruel and totally unnecessary. Your DH is being a dick, wanting to destroy something good that one child has just because another child (who wouldn't want it anyway) didn't get the same from their own mum.

Tell DH hands off! That sounds amazing. Don’t hasten away the magic.

It’s actually even worse than it.

It’s that the OP is willing to do things for her (their?) daughter and that makes him look bad because he can’t even be arsed getting a decorator into paint rooms for his kids.

So he pretends it’s about ‘fairness’ but, actually, it’s that he’s an arse.

OP tell him he needs to sell his car because it's unfair that DD doesn't have one.

I'm actually jealous of your daughter. I want a Narnia room!

Extra suggestion - convert your cellar into Mordor and tell your husband he can be a miserable Orc down there tenuous link based on CS Lewis and Tolkien being friends