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AIBU?

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a question about pizza which is representative of deeper isses

81 replies

pizzaz · 12/02/2008 10:32

Regular poster, have name changed for less bias...

I am on may home from another mumsnetter's house in dp's work van that I've borrowed for the day in order to transport a large item. My friend is looking after the dc and I've promised pizza tea for us all when we get back. Will be pizza on a tight budget.

Anyway, all day was a rush, so after lots of lovely texts from dp throghout the day (we have been rather on/off lately so this was a nice surprise and he was quite apologetic in several of his texts) I call and tell him on my way home but wold he mind going online to order the pizza so we don't have to wait when I get in as is now quite late. I tell him I have a budget of about 7 quid and that there is a bOGOF which comes to about 6 quid or so. He seems surprised but I say have a look online.

Anyway he orders pizza and when I get home announces that it is just over £15 quid in total. I look surprised and then say "what am I going to do?" We argue and he flings me 20 quid out of the work till and tells me to go away as I am taking the piss.

Now, I owe him money but it is complicated and he knows I am doing all that I can to pay him back and also that it was partly his 'situtaion' with ex wife that caused the debt in the first place.

However, I am a lone parent trying to get back to work and with no residual income, I gettaken out by him all the time since socialising isn't even part of my life as I don't have the spare cash for it. He tells me he is ok with this so wjhy is he being unreasonable about the pizza money??

AIBU?

OP posts:
DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:33

god i dont uget it

too long.

TrinityRhino · 12/02/2008 10:35

why didn't he get the right bogof thingy
and if it wasn't available then not get pizza or decide to be fine about paying the extra

MrsMattie · 12/02/2008 10:35

I don't understand? Who is pissed off, here - you or him?

pukkapatch · 12/02/2008 10:35

err, how does it work out htat you owe him money for the pizza?
he ordered teh pizza that was abovet he budget you gave him. so hee needs to pay the extra. you dont owe him any money at all
ignore him. he is being a twat

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:36

is ti inmportant enough for me to re read

JeremyVile · 12/02/2008 10:36

Pay him back the money....quicker. and tell him to naff orf. and stop borrowing money from people.

Lulumama · 12/02/2008 10:37

so, you reckoned 2 pizzas would be #6. It comes to #15, DP gives you the money but is cross, as it is a lot more than you thought.... what is the point/ problem? if this was a dominos pizza, then am not surprised it was #15.

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:37

he was right ot be pissed off
you borrowed hsi van too

hwy do pizza fgs

Lulumama · 12/02/2008 10:39

you could have stopped at tesco where you can get two pizzas for #6 ... or asda, or lidl etc... take out pizza is more expensive

Tortington · 12/02/2008 10:42

i read her post to say that se had told dp to order a specific pizza costing £6

he didn't becuase hes a twat and bought one costing £15

then got the hump and shoutied " you're taking the piss" becuase he was lending her MORE money.

i think you ae lonley and desperate if you want to hang on t a shitbag who "loans" you money

what is it with loaning money within a relationship

either you buy someone sommat or you dont

if i was you - i would tell HIM to fuck off

and stop being so desperate.

even if you didnt tell him to fuck off - which you should- you should have some PRIDE and tell him that his money is no good.

you will go out when you can afford to pa your own way. if money is seperate - it is all seperate and therefore you now where the boundaries are.

funnypeculiar · 12/02/2008 10:43

Clearly there are bigger issues at work here, as on the face of it, yes, YABU.

So, what did you want him to do? Presumably he couldn't find the deal (perhaps he went to the wrong site?) I guess the ideal would be that he'd call you to tell you, but what would you have done then? Not ordered pizza?

PuppyMonkey · 12/02/2008 10:44

Did anyone else get q. intrigued about the title of this thread...

...only to find out it was indeed just a question about pizza prices.

Bit disappointed personally..

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:44

i odnt hink he really cared nad if oyu wnat to do it properly do it yourself

lazarou · 12/02/2008 10:47

Pizza from dominoes to feed a family for under £7?

pukkapatch · 12/02/2008 10:47

cod, yo uare being rude. she is obviouslyupset, anddoesnt need aggravation from you or anyone else.
listn to custiy's wise words. he chose to order a more expensive pizza. therefore he pays for it. end off. yo dont owe him anything.
you dont need to soxialise with him. or do anything with him. he doesnt sound worht wasting breath on.

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:47

shudder at twakaway.

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:48

ill say what i want pukka patch thankyouverymuch

tis hardly issue of a lifetime is it

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:48

oh god HE is int he wrong?
afetr he lent you a van all day and you are pikcing over £8?

wirte it off as a bad debt and bin the bloke

WallOfSilence · 12/02/2008 10:56

Good god.

Why did you name change? It's obvious who you are anyway.

Same whinges all the time.

About nothing.

Grow up will you?

And find a man who will love you for who you are... not someone who is renting you a place & needs you in his back pocket.

It would have been handier & cheaper to make beans on toast.

[Yeah so he ordered a more ecpensive pizza.. he should have known you ust had £7 when you told him therefore the rest was up to him to pay] God.. is this really that important in the grand scheme of things?

Is your relationship all about arguments? I'd be seriously fucked off with all the fighting.

DualCycloneCod · 12/02/2008 10:56

is it obvious?
oh god i am so out ofit

WallOfSilence · 12/02/2008 10:57

cod is in the wrong?

Oh well, looks like she'll have company now in the naughty corner.

mellowma · 12/02/2008 10:58

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WallOfSilence · 12/02/2008 10:59

Yes, it is obvious.

But of course you are more interested in skirts & tan & tights to be bothered reading trivial threads.....

mellowma · 12/02/2008 11:00

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mellowma · 12/02/2008 11:01

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