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To be so drained and fed up of constant electronic forms and passwords and apps?

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Bananabreadandcupofcoffeethanks · 17/03/2023 21:10

Hate it so much I can't express it. Nothing works right for me, you need a fairly recent smartphone for apps to work for example.

Then with electronic forms. Fuck me. I'm trying to fill in a whole complicated form for an appointment and cannot get the 'electronically fillable' form to work. So now I have to print it, and hope the printer works, and then take a photo and scan or something.

I don't have the energy to do this now. It is now a whole multi step process with lots of little bits to get the task done.

I just fucking hate it all when it comes to appointments and job applications and whatnot, and then everything needing an app, or an account with a password that needs xyz to meet criteria.

God needed to get that off my chest.

OP posts:
TigerDroveAgain · 17/03/2023 22:18

Oh come off it : most of the tech is quick and straightforward and saves loads of time, what a bunch of whingers!

RedEyeBaby · 17/03/2023 22:18

Today:
Paypal - your password is wrong
Phone - here is your PayPal password
Paypal - your password is wrong. Shall we send you a code
Me - yes
Paypal - ok.
Me - enters code
Paypal - thanks. Now tick that you aren't a robot.
Now click every square with an invisible money tree in it.
Me - ok
Paypal - now click every square with a unicorn in it
Me - ok
Paypal - would you like to reset your password?
Me - go on then
Paypal - we've sent an email to you
Me - clicks link
Phone - would you like me to remember your new password?
Me- yes
Phone - enter your password for password manager.
Me - I don't remember it.
Paypal - please enter your password and also we've sent another code, and then also click on every adult female in the image
Me - ok
Paypal - enter digit one and digit six of the code we haven't told you about
Phone - shall I remember this password?
Me - no
Paypal - your password is wrong
Me - I just changed it!
Paypal- your account is locked.

Phone - you have received an email
Me - looks at email
Email - paypal: you have just made a recurring payment to password manager.com

Appalonia · 17/03/2023 22:19

Agree. Although it's supposed to make our lives easier, I do feel all the gripes stated upthread are all for the companies' benefit, not ours. And how many people's jobs has it obliterated?

MultipleVeganPies · 17/03/2023 22:20

I like parking apps, but only when they work. If there is no mobile coverage, like many parts of our local town, you end up running into random streets pointing your phone at the sky, then when finally you have coverage….. in the 5 minutes this took you will have gotten a parking ticket…. Happened to me three times already…. Then you appeal it. Takes 6 weeks for a response, who needs this shit!

funnily I work in software and am currently designing an app 😬

Appalonia · 17/03/2023 22:21

RedEyeBaby yes!😂😫😥🤒

the80sweregreat · 17/03/2023 22:23

Parking apps are just there to make people have fines or a mental breakdown. Or both
Evil things.

crackofdoom · 17/03/2023 22:27

I will take parking on the street half a mile away and walking over using a parking app Every. Single. Time. It's good for my health, too 😊

Blackandwhitehorse · 17/03/2023 22:31

cadburyegg · 17/03/2023 21:39

YES. I agree so much. You have to sign in to the bbc now just to load the news and weather apps. I just wanna know if it's going to rain 😭😭

I’ve abandoned the BBC now due to this. Use the met office app instead

Sarahcoggles · 17/03/2023 22:32

BernadetteIsMySister · 17/03/2023 21:27

Also hate making an account every time I shop or buy tickets for something.

Me too - and if it’s a website you rarely use, you can’t remember your password when you next use it. So you have to go through the whole “forgotten password” rigmarole

lipstickwoman · 17/03/2023 22:32

TigerDroveAgain · 17/03/2023 22:18

Oh come off it : most of the tech is quick and straightforward and saves loads of time, what a bunch of whingers!

Oh come off it. Some might be; loads is just a total pain in the arse.

Pixiedust1234 · 17/03/2023 22:34

I hate having to have an account if I want a click/collect to a physical store. Pre covid Argos used to let you order but pay at the store but now you have to pre pay. To do so requires an Argos account, then you have the shitty two step banking authorisation which doesn't alway work on the phone. Just why??

Spectre8 · 17/03/2023 22:35

Bananabreadandcupofcoffeethanks · 17/03/2023 21:20

And also, I just don't WANT a parking app on my phone to pay for town centre parking.

I just want to go and shove a few coins in the machine.

The parking app is actually really useful. If your appointment or whatever runs over you can extend parking from your phone without stress of having to get back to your car. Once its set up all your fav car parks are saved so its very quick to pay. Also more flexibility on how long to park. I can say 45 mins etc. Most machines weren't as flexible.

Spectre8 · 17/03/2023 22:37

Sarahcoggles · 17/03/2023 22:32

Me too - and if it’s a website you rarely use, you can’t remember your password when you next use it. So you have to go through the whole “forgotten password” rigmarole

Why are you not saving the password in a password manager which auto remembers it for you? 🤔

RedRiverShore3 · 17/03/2023 22:37

I thought it was just me, I try to avoid places that use apps, fortunately our lovely shopping mall has 5 hours free parking and is also within walking distance so I never have to go to the other towns to shop and faff about with the parking apps. I hate have to do everything myself nowadays and unfortunately like PP seem to have lost the ability to write properly.

Allywill · 17/03/2023 22:40

Plus if you do it wrong it’s your fault. Check in on line with a different name than is on your passport I.e use a shortened form of your name or miss your middle name out and they can charge you for a “change of name”; on the ticket. I bought a new car 18k and needed to pay vw finance. My bank wanted me to do it online. No chance. I went into branch and got them to do it. You mess up it’s on you not me. I am not familiar with your systems. If that money goes astray you are not saying nothing to do with you.

ilovesooty · 17/03/2023 22:43

Spectre8 · 17/03/2023 22:35

The parking app is actually really useful. If your appointment or whatever runs over you can extend parking from your phone without stress of having to get back to your car. Once its set up all your fav car parks are saved so its very quick to pay. Also more flexibility on how long to park. I can say 45 mins etc. Most machines weren't as flexible.

I agree. I park in the same car park once a week in the evening. It's a fixed evening rate so I normally pay on the app before I set off to save time.

the80sweregreat · 17/03/2023 22:43

It's all just designed to get more money out of people by hoping they will mess it up

thelengthspeoplegoto · 17/03/2023 22:57

Yes, I often find myself in password hell. It's a massive pain. YADNBU

Vivario · 17/03/2023 23:00

I’m young and very tech savvy and I completely agree with you. The thing that’s been getting on my nerves lately is the constant verification. Every time you re-download an app it wants to send a code via email or text. Regularly asked to change your password out of nowhere. Entering your passcode whenever you want to do anything. Having to approve all spending in the banking app. It never ends.

Spectre8 · 17/03/2023 23:03

Vivario · 17/03/2023 23:00

I’m young and very tech savvy and I completely agree with you. The thing that’s been getting on my nerves lately is the constant verification. Every time you re-download an app it wants to send a code via email or text. Regularly asked to change your password out of nowhere. Entering your passcode whenever you want to do anything. Having to approve all spending in the banking app. It never ends.

And the moment your money is taken from a scam etc you will be blaming the banks for having lapse security.and expecting them to cover your loss. So they cant win can they.

WatermelonFlamingo · 17/03/2023 23:03

Definitely YANBU.

I can't stand it. Tech is great when it works, beyond stressful when it doesn't. I'm pretty tech-savvy, but get very frustrated with various systems. I do think it's still in its teething stages, and will get better.
I yearn for simpler days. Hopefully things will improve, because the good tech brings is fabulous and beneficial.

LINABE · 17/03/2023 23:09

OnSecondThoughts · 17/03/2023 21:27

YANBU.
And another thing.... All of a sudden, you're invited to sign into almost every website with your Google account?!? I mean, do I look completely mad? Like, google thinks "we know almost everything about you already, but with all these different accounts we can't be quite sure it's the same person, so it'd be nice for us to just REALLY get all those dots connected". On your bike.

Love this!! 😅

lljkk · 17/03/2023 23:10

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 17/03/2023 21:56

Room 101 my employees training app. Turns out that the passcode has to be changed every 12 weeks regardless of the fact that no one outside of the organisation would even want to do mandatory training on how to lift a box. There isn’t any personal info held on it - you are just user adc123. ! I point blank refuse to change it every 3 months and make hr issue a new passcode every-time they want me to watch another video on how to pick up a box.

That got me quite hysterical with giggles.

I also worked for NHS. I literally kept a list of cheatsheet clues in my outlook calendar of all the passwords for different things to log into ... maybe a dozen portals? The passwords mandatory had to change with varying frequency, each NHS system with its own weird rules about what a password could be like. So my cheatsheet was updated about once every 4 weeks on average. I think only our employee record passwords never changed, some others changed every 8 weeks. No LastPass system there. I'd like to emphasise that I worked in an admin role with zero access ever to PID.

Now I have 2 work laptops for different organisations, no LastPass system allowed there, either.

I've seen friend whizzing thru her LastPass app, but it didn't look faster process than a simple "Forgotten password?" link to my email addy.

parietal · 17/03/2023 23:11

Sign up to 1password - it is much better than LastPass which has recently had some major leaks

Use the XKCD rules to make a secure password
xkcd.com/936/

and do keep your passwords written down on a piece of paper on your desk - that is one of the securest options available.

It is a pain but getting your accounts hacked is even worse.

Now that I'm set up with all these, 99% of password stuff is fine.

parking apps are still a horrible pain in the backside

whynotwhatknot · 17/03/2023 23:22

DontMakeMeShushYou · 17/03/2023 22:01

I use LastPass as a password manager. You'll need an app on your phone but once you log in to your LastPass account you can access and save the same passwords whatever device you're using.

i have lastpass but the problem now is if you want it on more than one device yu have to pay so i dont have it on my phone just my laptop

im with you op its becoming ridiculous