A Slob Comes Clean is the only one which has worked for me. I've always been shit at this stuff. My childhood/teenage bedroom was a sea of clothes and paper about 3 feet deep and nothing magically changed when I grew up.
BUT:-
It doesn't work 100%. My house is still chaotic (as in, people would be shocked/alarmed) about 50% of the time or more. However it is much better than it used to be. It would not take days/weeks to get it presentable now, it would probably take an hour or two even on the worst days.
It is probably DH doing at least as much as me, often significantly more than me. I could probably not sustain it without him. If I didn't have at least one competent adult in the house it would probably all descend into overwhelming very quickly.
It has only worked on any level because I bought the book and basically got obsessive over it and went through the "28 day challenge" (which took me at least 3 months if you can even claim that I finished it, which arguably I never did). And I listen to basically every episode of the podcast, skipping them occasionally, most days. Always when I'm cleaning/tidying/decluttering in order to kind of cement everything together in my head. The repetition seems to be key in order to get the key concepts to embed themselves in my head as things that are cemented as true facts.
For example: I now understand the difference between what she calls "daily tasks" (or four habits) and "actual cleaning". It is, generally, the daily tasks not being done that make a house seem chaotic. If you can just manage those, even if everything else is insane, it helps. Conversely, you can spend hours on whatever plan or routine or anything but if you've neglected the daily tasks (because most cleaning routines don't bother to add them because apparently this is obvious to normal people) then it will look and feel chaotic. And you'll be exhausted and defeated and not understand why you worked so hard and it didn't help.
I also have ADHD, which I think is behind the general messiness/slobbiness. Understanding and putting strategies in place for ADHD has meant that other strategies (like this book, probably others might help too) are able to work effectively. If cleaning is something you struggle with to the point that no book ever helps, ADHD is something worth looking into.
I have to actually DO IT. There is a line in the book which made me laugh out loud because I felt so seen. She said something like: Stop searching for the magical secret that means your house will stay clean without you having to clean it. You can read this bool 100 times and your house will not get cleaner. You actually have to clean your house. Sorry. But this helps because I think on some subconscious level I was always looking for that secret, and because actually even just doing the first of the daily tasks (Dishes) makes such a hugenormous, instant difference and does not actually take that long it means that I can do that most days and if I have missed a few days I just have to get caught up on that and the rest can wait (and I don't need to reinvent the wheel or beat myself up - just start again and the starting task being easy helps hugely with this).
I had to get rid of a LOT of stuff. I am still in the process of this actually. I use Dana's method again. I am learning about why my previous efforts to declutter did not particularly seem to make any effect and this was because I did not get stuff out of the house quickly enough, meaning that it ended up reassimilating into our general stuff and/or gathering dust and taking up space. And I made frequent use of what Dana calls "Procrastination Stations" (keep pile/keep box).
I have heard KC Davis (domesticblisters on social media) is good for getting past a lot of the mental blocks and guilt spirals around cleaning which can be extremely unhelpful. Her book is "How to keep house while drowning".