Should I let me daughter go, when the mum doesn’t communicate with me?

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My daughter had a message from her friend inviting her on an Easter workshop. She’ll be gone for around 3 hours and it’s about a 45 minute drive away.

All communication is from the daughter as the Mum just won’t communicate with me. She has to be fairly pleasant when I purposely speak to her to try and break the ice but it’s very clear, she doesn’t like me.

She likes a drink and a good time, I don’t think she’s an alcoholic and I would hope she wouldn’t drink and drive but I’ve never been able to get to know her well enough to find out what she’s really like, morals etc. I am uncomfortable putting her in a car with an adult who can’t show any basic respectful communication, am I being unreasonable not letting my daughter go?

I don’t know why you would need to know this?

So the mum does something kind for your dd and you don't want to let her go because the mum is polite but doesn't want to be bosom buddies with you.you jnferstand she us doing a favour by taking your kid, not the other way round?

How old is your DD?

How old is your daughter?

No, you can't and shouldn't let your daughter go anywhere without some kind of communication with the other parent.

How old is your daughter? Generally I wouldn't be happy with a child going off with someone I don't know or I had concerns about.

Could you take your daughter and meet them there?

I mean letting us know her age would be helpful

But no, if she can't be arsed to communicate I wouldn't let your child go (assuming they're not a teenager and can make their own mind up).

Fairly crucial to know how old your daughter is ...

It's a completely different scenario if your DD is 5 or 15. My DD is 12 and now all arrangements are made between the children themselves. When she was in year 6 it was all done via the parents.

Well rule of thumb would be if she's primary school aged (or younger) then you should speak to the mum (though can't you do that when she picks your daughter up?).

Secondary school aged it's pretty normal for the children to make arrangements between themselves.

Depends completely how old the child is

I wouldn't bother if she's not giving you useful info.

How old is your child.

You are judging this lady because she likes a drink and a good time. Perhaps she sees the disdain in your face and that is what puts her off getting pally pally with you, or maybe she has enough friends and just wants to get her DD and go about her day. Let your DD go. She has a phone so I’m guessing she’s 11+.

It totally depends on age

If the daughter is making all the arrangements. I’m assuming she’s over 10/11 in which case of course you should let her go.
If she’s younger then possibly not. It would depend. I’m assuming you’ve known the child and mum throughout primary unless they are in reception. Maybe she doesn’t like you. Or maybe she doesn’t want to be mates. Or is socially awkward and struggles with conversations. You say she’s polite. Maybe she just can’t think of much else to say

Another one saying the age is crucial.

You don’t know her morals ???

Fourthed

Since the friend had a phone and can send messages, I'd say the girls are 11 years + , therefore I'd leather go.

How do you know how much she drinks if you don't really know her?

Up to a certain age perhaps, but we don't know the age here.

She likes a drink and a good time,
Having a social life now makes you unfit to take a child to an activity?
Stop being so bloody judgemental, maybe that's why she doesn't like you.

Wtf?