AIBU to expect him to cancel plans to help me with sick child

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Me and ex split approx 18 months ago. Was an amicable split and we were coparenting as friends until his new gf arrived on the scene. She did not like us being close and since then things have become very contentious. They will go out of their way to make my life difficult even at the expense of DD.

onto this weekend. DD was up all night being sick, I think we maybe managed to get one hour of sleep. I realised I had no calpol for her in the house, obviously couldn't get any in the middle of the night so planning to get some first thing today.

this morning DD is still being sick so I can't take her out with me to the shop to get some and obviously can't leave her alone. I text ex to ask if he could either come round and be with dd whilst I went to the shop or come over with come calpol.

he essentially said no, he had plans today and he could possibly pop over earliest this afternoon.

also bear in mind I never ask him for help. He sees dd for a couple hours on a Saturday, the last time I asked him for help was in October when I was really sick and he made a massive issue out of it because he had plans then aswell.

aibu I'm expecting him to cancel plans to help out when myself or dd is sick?

YANBU - of course your other DD's parent should bring her meds if she is too sick for you to take her with you to the shops, I can't believe anyone would think otherwise! I'm glad you managed to sort it though OP, and I hope your DD is feeling much better very soon.

He didn't need to cancel his plans. He could have dropped off the calpol before he went out.

OP; you have every right to expect your dds father to be their parent, you are not being “manipulative” or “guilt tripping” them by asking (and making it clear to expect ) their help caring for your shared child , where it is needed. Don’t listen to this misogynistic batshittery.