Husband and kitchen knives

[Rollonspring23]

Despite me asking him numerous times to carry kitchen knifes pointing down in the kitchen, my husband repeatedly walks around with them pointing outwards.

We had a disagreement about this at lunchtime when I moved in the kitchen and he was carrying one outwards pointing at me at waist height.

Just had a row after I turned in the kitchen and found him carrying a knife to the other side about 10 inches from my ribs. I’ve lost the plot about this, he thinks I’m being unreasonable.

AIBU to expect him to carry knives pointing downwards, I thought this was an absolute basic!

I have never carried a knife pointing down in the kitchen and I have never stabbed or inflicted injury on anyone.

I really don't think this is the kind of thing that I'd lose the plot over. I carry knives all sorts of ways based on how I pick them up and what I'm doing with them.

Why is he carrying a knife around so often? Is your drawer very far away from the worktop space you usually use to chop? Do you need to have a rearrange?

How often are you both in the kitchen so close that he is likely to stab you accidentally? I remember being taught this years ago as a child, probably in Brownies but it was incase of falls and more emphasis was put on holding it by the handle not the blade. As an adult I think its unnecessary

@Dinersaur we have a kitchen island that we use for prep. Sink / dishwasher is behind this so knives are taken out of the drawer on the island where we prep then need to be carried to the dishwasher / sink behind after being used.

You are making a huge mountain out of a molehill. If your kitchen is that small you can’t avoid eachother just don’t go in the kitchen when he’s in there.

@sweeneytoddsrazor twice today, both of us prepping different things in the kitchen at the same time.

YABVU. He's a grown adult - you can't tell him how he's allowed to hold a knife.

Good Lord OP, is he only allowed round tipped scissors too? 😂

YABU obviously

It takes quite a lot of force to stab someone. You don’t like, stab someone by turning round with a loosely held knife in your hand. Otherwise lots of people would use this as an excuse for murdering people, and get away with it.

I’m trying to picture how I carry a knife in the kitchen. I don’t think it’s pointing down though. The only time I usually walk around the kitchen with the knife is carrying it from the sink to the towel and back to the cupboard, and the knife is normally out because I’m drying it. Honestly, I wouldn’t be happy if someone came in the kitchen when I was minding my own business cooking and “lost the plot” at me because a knife was the best part of a foot away from them.

@coffeecupsandwaxmelts even though it risks injury to me?

I’ve never heard of someone being accidentally stabbed by someone walking around the kitchen with a knife. I also think you are massively underestimating how much force needs to be used for a knife to penetrate.

Like PPs I have no idea how I usually carry a knife. I can't recall ever seeing a news report where someone got stabbed accidentally in a kitchen by someone carrying a knife the 'wrong' way - and I don't think I'd notice how my husband was carrying one if hell froze over and he actually participated in cooking!

“Honestly officer, I didn’t mean to stab her, she walked past me and the knife just went in!”

Interesting responses looks like maybe I’m being unreasonable. I’ve always been taught to carry knives pointing downwards to avoid injuring anyone. I thought it was what everyone did. I find it really disconcerting turning round to find one being carried pointing outwards, but it seems I’m in the minority. I should add I only lost the plot after approaching it rationally initially and being told I was being unreasonable.

If the sink in behind the is island why is he detouring around the kitchen with a knife?

yabvu

Are you scared of him?

Just avoid him when he's carrying a knife? Step aside?

Unless he's monumentally clumsy, routinely walks around with shoelaces open, or is always lurching around drunk, you're probably not going to end up accidentally stabbed to death in the kitchen.

@timeforchampagne sink is directly behind the prep area so no detour just 180 degree turn.

Lots of things risk injury. It’s the likelihood and severity of the injury which are relevant. You described losing it at the knife being almost a foot away from you. He’s very unlikely to make contact with the knife with you anyway, assuming you both have some degree of situational awareness. Then even if the knife does make contact with you, it’s unlikely to break your skin, let alone do serious damage, as I’m assuming you aren’t sprinting around and he isn’t making rapid stabbing motions with knife as he carries it through the kitchen.

My DH carries them pointing upwards, sort of tucked between his arm and body. He says his friend whose a professional chef taught him this way. I've started doing it too, if nothing else it means you're not carrying a knife at small child face height.

Yeah we do get taught that as kids and idiot teens when we are extra clumsy and running around messing about, but we are adults now and he can risk assess himself. It’s just not a big deal and I wouldn’t let someone else control how I carry knives in my own kitchen either.

Absolutely not, just worries me when I move not realising he’s holding a knife outwards and he’s not expecting me to move.