Husband and kitchen knives

[Rollonspring23]

Despite me asking him numerous times to carry kitchen knifes pointing down in the kitchen, my husband repeatedly walks around with them pointing outwards.

We had a disagreement about this at lunchtime when I moved in the kitchen and he was carrying one outwards pointing at me at waist height.

Just had a row after I turned in the kitchen and found him carrying a knife to the other side about 10 inches from my ribs. I’ve lost the plot about this, he thinks I’m being unreasonable.

AIBU to expect him to carry knives pointing downwards, I thought this was an absolute basic!

Is the knife block/draw not next to your worktop? Whybis your dh walking around so often with knives? Could you move the knives closer yo the prep area?

@CrystalCoco absolutely, it’s disconcerting isn’t it. The questions about being scared of him 🙄 he’s lovely just not very safety conscious.

'Anyone else imagining the husband walking around the kitchen like someone in a horror movie who heard a suspicious noise and just so happened to be standing next to the knife block?'

😂yes me! I'm imagining him waving the knife around unpredictably in the dark, incase of an unknown presence lurking in the shadows.

My husband nearly accidently killed me with a kitchen knife, please tell him to be more careful.

Sorry forgot to reference @Doesthepopeshitinthewoods

I don't carry knives downwards in case one of my DC has come in and I don't notice and they try and grab it. I always hold them about waist high

just don’t go in the kitchen when he’s in there.

LOL. Ridiculous suggestion. Might as well just LTB.

Posters minimising OP's concern are really not being helpful.

Might as well ditch all knives and just smash all the food to bits with a lump hammer..

😂

Why does anyone ever need to carry a knife around at all? If someone is using a knife in the kitchen, they stay in the kitchen to do the chopping or whatever, don't they?

Oh goodness 😂😂😂

@Eightiesgirl oh goodness I’m sorry to hear this. It’s so easy for people to say it’ll never happen.

It’s just as he’s turning to walk the few steps to the dishwasher.

I tend to point knives down and hold by the handle as I was taught. I have no idea how DH holds knives and however he does it , wouldn't dream of chastising him for not doing it as I do. Likewise the DC , who are all adults too.

No more ridiculous than telling a fully grown adult that they have to hold a knife a certain way 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Rollonspring23 YANBU. I've had similar conversations with DH. After a few requests to not hold the knife out when he walks around, and him telling me he's not going to hurt me but also not going to change his behaviour, I have virtually given up. "I'm really scared of an accident" apparently isn't enough for him to take on board.

Now it's one of the following:
I carve myself (so he doesn't need to use a sharp knife)
I cook things that don't need carving
I ban the DC from the kitchen until DH has finished carving
I leave the kitchen when he loads/unloads the dishwasher for my own sanity

Anything else is too stressful.

Have you considered having knife wraps (cloth or similar) to put knives in to move them around the kitchen?

Tbh the more I think about it the more I think that holding knives so they don’t injure people is just like many other safety things like storing medicine and cleaning products out of reach, they have safety caps etc but there is a tiny chance injury could be caused. Knife safety is similar, the risk of serious injury is small but it makes sense to err on the side of caution.

@coffeecupsandwaxmelts I’m sure there are safety things that you’d strongly push for your partner to follow, it’s hardly ridiculous asking my husband not to move around the kitchen with knives pointing outwards, after all it’s me who is at risk of injury, there are some stories up thread re people being injured in this way.

Some of the replies on this thread are nuts! It’s one thing to be fairly chilled / not too bothered, I totally get that, everyone has different levels of caution and it’s good to hear a range of replies, I now understand why my husband sees it as a non issue. it’s another to call me ridiculous! Those posters however who have implied I’m controlling, asked if I’m scared of my husband or implied I’m utterly neurotic!?

I’m definitely risk adverse and safety conscious and I accept that but I just want to avoid any unnecessary injuries.

Thanks to those who have made me laugh 😂 with their imaginings of my husband 😂

I’ve always pointed my knife downwards and taught my DC to do the same.
Same as scissors.

I thought everyone did this.

@coffeecupsandwaxmelts I’m sure there are safety things that you’d strongly push for your partner to follow, it’s hardly ridiculous asking my husband not to move around the kitchen with knives pointing outwards, after all it’s me who is at risk of injury, there are some stories up thread re people being injured in this way.

I genuinely can't think of anything 🤷🏻‍♀️ he's an adult - I trust him to be sensible and safe and not to go around risking my safety
while he goes about his daily business.

I couldn't even tell how you he holds a knife in the kitchen, tbh.

Exactly, had he almost bumped into twice in a day holding a knife outwards I’m sure you’d know how he held one and likely have something to say about it. I only interfere when there is a threat to my safety. My husband is mostly responsible.

You need to practise your Morecombe and Wise routine, and chill out.

For those saying he’s an adult etc would you not say something to your DH if he left the gas stove on all day or drove you in a car with unreliable brakes?

Not rtft but if you were carrying a knife pointing down wouldn't you risk injuring his 'little guy'?

Of course you can, if you think you're going to be stabbed by him! Do you really think a chef in the kitchen wouldn't stop someone from doing this?

YANBU. It's basic kitchen safety to hold knives point down. He should be more safety conscious, if not considerate of your concerns.

Of course you can, if you think you're going to be stabbed by him! Do you really think a chef in the kitchen wouldn't stop someone from doing this?

I'm sure they would, but you're comparing two totally different situations.

A chef is an employer/manager with a load of health and safety rules to follow. He's also responsible for running a very busy, commercial kitchen equipped with commercial equipment.

A domestic kitchen is nowhere near as busy or fast-paced - and OP isn't her husbands' employer. The dynamics are totally different.

Stabbing someone requires a lot of force and effort - it's not something that happens by accident because someone is holding a knife at waist height.