‘What do you want for Mother’s Day’

[Babooshka1990]

First Mother’s Day and he’s said if expect a gift he has no idea what to get me, and I should send him a link. If I want to go anywhere I should tell him where and when.

AIBU to think it can’t be that hard to arrange a thoughtful surprise, and it’s his responsibility as the gift-giver?

Flowers, framed picture, spa voucher, or a breakfast reservation. I feel like it’s not that hard to plan/ choose something nice. I don’t really see the point if I’m making my own arrangements.

@Hooklander

setting the bar SUPER low there

@Henowner

to me, it’s about treating your mother so it could be

@WandaWonder

exactly this!

Why does there have to be a bar?
If @Hooklander is happy with ink and cheese then all good.
Mothers day gifts do not always have to cost the earth. Surely it's the thought that counts.
Personally I'd be happy with a card from my 23 yr old son nothing else just that.

I doubt it. He doesn't think it's a big deal and genuinely can't think if anything so he's asked. He's put himself in her shoes

I tell my husband, I like to get exactly what I want. Small things but I’d rather get a gift I will like/use.

A day by myself!

Tell him to Google Mothers Day ideas !

Simply saying 'I can't think of anything' is really saying 'I can't be arsed to try to think of anything' !

Say to him 'I expect you to use your initiative and intelligence to think of something nice for me for Mother's Day. If you fail to even try, you're actually sowing me that to you, I'm not worth the 'effort'.

It's up to YOU to let him know that lack of 'effort' simply isn't acceptable...

I'm sorry, I do ask people what they would like for birthday/Christmas and even mothers/fathers day. Just incase there's something they need, that they haven't mentioned before. I didn't realise this might upset people although, luckily, they've answered and I fulfilled. I get asked what I want too.
For what it's worth, I just want a bloody lie in. And guess what I won't get? A bloody lie in.

Give him a list of ideas and let him choose? Otherwise you risk getting a shit novelty gift and being disappointed. You still get a surprise this way. You’re being unreasonable and a bit high maintenance tbh,

Thirty plus years ago now exh asked me what I wanted for Mothers' Day and I said flowers (because they are one of my favourite gifts) He still sends flowers on Mothers' Day from the kids even though they are adults and have been choosing their own gifts for many years now and we are no longer together. I appreciate the thought and buy him a gift on Fathers' Day from the dog because I trust the dc to sort their own. You should give him some ideas OP and then he can choose something he knows you'd like.