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FUSoftPlay · 2023-03-09T19:29:26+00:00

Lighthearted - do you share bathwater? I tend to run a bath for the kids (1 & 3 so young) then often top it up and get in myself or my DH will. Occasionally me or DH will then get in after each other so the bath water will have bathed the whole family. DH joked with DS3 not to tell anyone as they’d think it was disgusting. So thought I’d find out if we really are totally grim. YABU - we don’t share bathwater that’s disgusting, you vermin. YANBU - we do this too.

woodhill · 10/03/2023 13:36

OCDmama · 10/03/2023 10:07

I've done heavy dirty work and been to places with very little water before. You find out what 'dirty' actually means, and it is far from the definition of most mumsnetters!

Exactly. We all take water for granted

inloveandmarried · 10/03/2023 13:42

Yes. Always. Husband first as he boil washes, I wait for it to cool a bit then jump in. A a clean bean so the water is always good.

lap90 · 10/03/2023 13:46

Can't say i have... even when i've stayed in places with no running water.

thetombliboo · 10/03/2023 13:49

Me first then DH yes as I like to burn.
I will run one bath for my kids. Toddler size, top it up after with more hot water for either my 8 or 11 year old to jump in if they want to bath.
I probably wouldn't share with the kids as I use different soap for them as also they're much dirtier than I. If anything they would be in after me. 😂

CeriB82 · 10/03/2023 18:07

I have never shared a bath with anyone, nor jumped in after someone else.

what i do in the bathroom is my time, and clean water.

OhmygodDont · 10/03/2023 18:13

I don’t get how people can compare it to pools or hot tubs. Unless you think using one means you now don’t need to wash? I wash after using any of those things I don’t expect them to clean me.

Making the choice to sit in preused dirty bath water to have a wash is totally different. If you claim you then shower after sharing said mutual use bathroom water (or pee in some peoples cases) you anit doing it to save water or energy either.

Deanandthellhounds · 10/03/2023 18:28

you're crazy, grown ups first when it's boiling hot, kids get in when it cools down.

MavisMcMinty · 10/03/2023 18:33

I said YANBU because my partner and I share the same bathwater, but strictly speaking he shares my bathwater, I don’t share his. See, I like madwoman hot water and bubbles, and the water’s his kinda temperature by the time I get out. Also, he does a hard physical job and the bath water’s actually dirty when he gets out, it would be gross to put my precious body in that.

MavisMcMinty · 10/03/2023 18:35

Oh, should have explained that we have to share bathwater because our oil-fired Aga heats the water to madwoman hot temperatures, but it takes 10-12 hours to refill the tank between baths.

HeyItsPickleRick · 10/03/2023 19:16

We’ve done this yes. And DH and I like to bathe together. We are both high earners but generally mindful of waste. I don’t see it as a big deal. We both shower daily, neither of us sweat or get grubby for work and a bathe is more for relaxation. Don’t see why it’s any more odd than sharing a pool or a hot tub or swimming in a natural body of water. If I was that scared of bacteria I’d never have had kids (I mean the sex wouldn’t have happened to start with!)

tuvamoodyson · 10/03/2023 19:40

No.

eatdrinkandbemerry · 10/03/2023 21:23

My other half often jumps in the bath after me (I shower every morning Bath every night so I'm not minging 🤣) then he moans it's still too hot 🤣

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FUSoftPlay · 10/03/2023 23:18

MavisMcMinty · 10/03/2023 18:33

I said YANBU because my partner and I share the same bathwater, but strictly speaking he shares my bathwater, I don’t share his. See, I like madwoman hot water and bubbles, and the water’s his kinda temperature by the time I get out. Also, he does a hard physical job and the bath water’s actually dirty when he gets out, it would be gross to put my precious body in that.

We have an AGA too. I’ve never tested it but guess it wouldn’t fill two baths. The kids only have couple of inches though so I can run them a bath and then have one an hour or so later.

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MavisMcMinty · 10/03/2023 23:27

Ours would probably fill two normal-sized baths, but we have a lovely big very deep bath, seems criminal not to fill it right up.

LuluLehman · 10/03/2023 23:37

LuckyThatMyBreastsAreSmallAndHumble · 10/03/2023 06:57

Yep absolutely OP. We do this. You gave birth to your kids so they have been inside your body! You presumably have sex with your husband. Bath water is fine! Also, think of the planet/ polar bears!! 💚🌎

Once they are out of your body different rules apply.

JellyBeanFactory · 10/03/2023 23:49

scrivette · 09/03/2023 19:55

When DH runs a bath I usually go in first quickly as I like it really hot and he likes it a bit cooler.

Really can't see the issue, we are not filthy dirty or covered in mud.

Exactly the same here! I have it scolding hot, I soak for half hour then he jumps in. We're not dirty or grubby, it's more a relaxing time than a cleaning activity! If we've been gardening or DIY'ing or something that makes us dirty (or the height of summer sweatiness), we'll shower instead of bathing.

Justontherightsideofnormal · 11/03/2023 10:29

Me and DH share bath water regularly. Not a cost thing more of a I'll hop in after you for a quick dip/soak.
Up until my DS was about 14 he would often ask to get in after me if I hadn't shaved/washed my hair. I never thought twice about it.

MoggyMittens23 · 11/03/2023 10:50

OCDmama · 10/03/2023 10:07

I've done heavy dirty work and been to places with very little water before. You find out what 'dirty' actually means, and it is far from the definition of most mumsnetters!

Exactly! I think they lead very sheltered lives

woodhill · 11/03/2023 13:31

Justontherightsideofnormal · 11/03/2023 10:29

Me and DH share bath water regularly. Not a cost thing more of a I'll hop in after you for a quick dip/soak.
Up until my DS was about 14 he would often ask to get in after me if I hadn't shaved/washed my hair. I never thought twice about it.

Yes, perfectly normal

We usually shower in morning so not exactly filthy

Nice treat in the evening. I also liked it when DH ran a bath and I could watch my tv programmes etc and get in afterwards to get ready for bed

UnicornRidge · 13/03/2023 14:46

Almost every family in Japan share the same tub of bath water. They do rinse themselves before jumping in.

whatkatydid2013 · 13/03/2023 14:54

We always share the bath though there is no actual need to and we do actually have a second bath so it’s just habit. Usually have a quick shower first to wash and then take turns for soaking and then kids go in together and get washed at the end when it’s cooler. Uses loads less water and it’s something we’ve always done as was drummed into us by our parents not to waste water (no idea why as we were not on a meter and in an area with no water shortages). People all have different things they are comfortable with and if you are happy I wouldn’t worry what others think.