It's well for some isn't it?

[jumperoobaby]

Apologies some of this may be tone deaf. I know not every one has disposable income

Myself, DH and baby DS went to centre parcs the other week for 3 nights and it was lovely.

But I've had a few friends/ family say things like 'oh isn't it well for ya' 'that place costs a fortune' 'ye must be loaded'

I 100% appreciate that the COL crisis is affecting a lot of people and this does include us. We don't have a bad income but not a anything fantastic either.

We have money for things like CP because we don't drink and I no longer smoke. I am not saying people can't/ shouldn't I used to spend anything from €100- €150 per week on drink/ cigs. We both quit alcohol about 3 years ago and I stopped smoking when I got pregnant and didn't take it back up. We are saving a fortune.

It just annoys me, those comments have come from people who I know drink/ smoke. What they spend their disposable income on is 100% up to them. As I said I used to spend loads on drink/ smokes and didn't really think anything of it and enjoyed my Saturday night out in the pubs. But no longer enjoy those things so choose to spend my money on other stuff now.

Not really sure what the questions is :

YABU - people are struggling and can't afford things like CP so you shouldn't be showing off that you can go there by putting 1 picture on SM

YANBU - You have the money because of how you choose to spend your disposable income

You prioritise holidays (as we do). Nothing wrong with posting as many pics as you want. We're actually going to CP in a couple of weeks and we'll have a great time as always and we will be taking photos.
If people get snarky because you can afford a holiday and they choose not too at the moment, tough. Most people have disposable income and some money for treats even if they have to budget. To some smoking and heavy drinking is a waste of money, to other's it's worth every penny.

Oh ffs. It's a turn of phrase like 'it's a hard life' when somebody is having a good time. It just means they are acknowledging you are 'a lucky duck' and are having the time of it. It does not mean they begrudge you a weekend away.

It's the poor mouth. Very annoying.

Begrudgery is with word I'm looking for.

Well done for giving up the fags and booze, but don't turn into a preachy ex smoker/drinker, please!🤐

Doesn't sound like op is that unless someone invites it by having stupid comments

God no I have no intention of being a preachy ex drinker/ smoker! As I said I used to do lots of both and you never know may drink again some day but for now it just doesn't fit with what I want. For me, more often than I'd like having 1 glass of wine would lead to pretty much the whole bottle or going out for a few with the girls lead to a 3 day hangover after way over doing it. So now I still go out, don't mention anyone else's drinking (it's none of my business), I probably do go home a bit earlier so maybe I'm not as much craic as I was but sure can't have it all.

Funny thing is I didn't actually think CP was bad value. I know it's different during school holidays. But it was cheaper than a hotel for 3 nights. I cooked dinner to 1 night, brought breakfast/ lunch/ snack food. And we mostly just went to the pool didn't have to pay for any entertainment.

I just think this "it's alright for some" mentality is astonishingly stupid and bad mannered. Some people will always be able to afford more things than others. It's life and tbh the reasons are irrelevant.

It's that "comparison is the thief of joy" thing isn't it. What on earth is gained by making someone feel shit about having the money to enjoy a holiday? There's always going to be someone wealthier or more affluent than you are and always someone poorer. It may be because they've stopped drinking and smoking, it might be something completely unrelated. If you are constantly weighing in your head who "deserves" their money and who doesn't you will drive yourself mad. And you will lose friends if you try to foist your judgement onto others.

As long as people aren't actively rubbing others' faces in it just let it go.

What on earth is gained by making someone feel shit about having the money to enjoy a holiday?

Misery loves company