It's well for some isn't it?

[jumperoobaby]

Apologies some of this may be tone deaf. I know not every one has disposable income

Myself, DH and baby DS went to centre parcs the other week for 3 nights and it was lovely.

But I've had a few friends/ family say things like 'oh isn't it well for ya' 'that place costs a fortune' 'ye must be loaded'

I 100% appreciate that the COL crisis is affecting a lot of people and this does include us. We don't have a bad income but not a anything fantastic either.

We have money for things like CP because we don't drink and I no longer smoke. I am not saying people can't/ shouldn't I used to spend anything from €100- €150 per week on drink/ cigs. We both quit alcohol about 3 years ago and I stopped smoking when I got pregnant and didn't take it back up. We are saving a fortune.

It just annoys me, those comments have come from people who I know drink/ smoke. What they spend their disposable income on is 100% up to them. As I said I used to spend loads on drink/ smokes and didn't really think anything of it and enjoyed my Saturday night out in the pubs. But no longer enjoy those things so choose to spend my money on other stuff now.

Not really sure what the questions is :

YABU - people are struggling and can't afford things like CP so you shouldn't be showing off that you can go there by putting 1 picture on SM

YANBU - You have the money because of how you choose to spend your disposable income

Another pointless post 🙄

Yup

They don't "make" you feel anything. Your reaction is your choice.

It's rude of them. Out of term time CP isnt that expensive. We got it for £300 last year.

I actually don't know anyone who is struggling right now. Not badly. Everyone's still booking their holidays (I work in travel).

You don't owe them anything

Stags and hens are banned from CP and have been for years

I know how you feel. I get constant "I wish i could afford to go on exotic holidays like you do" digs from someone who gets a takeaway and eats out (nice restaurants) at least once a week, out drinking most other nights and changes their car every year or two.

I try to explain it's a matter of priorities but they just won't see it.

To those criticising the OP: she (and I ) is well aware that there are people who can't afford to put a meal on the table or turn the heating on, through no fault of their own. But we're talking about people who do have disposable income to spare, criticising OP because she chooses to spend hers in a different way from them.

Before I even opened it I could hear that comment in my mother’s voice 😂

Yes I am Irish, and it was a weekend in Longford, good auld Ballymahon! A few of ye are right tt is begrudgery and I'll just let it go.

So true, calling anything except an impudent child "cheeky" is 🙄

I used to get this all the time from a woman I used to work with. She had twins, I had two kids aged 2 years apart. She chose to buy expensive clothing for her children - Hunter wellies, designer Spanish brands, brands like Monsoon or Boden for everyday wear. Mine were in supermarket/Next/M&S or handmedowns. She must have spent an absolute fortune on their clothes and was always showing pics of the twins in their matching outfits.

We preferred to spend less on clothes/shoes and have weeks away instead. Occasionally abroad, but usually a week's self catering in the UK. Colleague couldn't understand this as she knew we were on the same salary - you away AGAIN? Must be nice to have the money. Have you won the lottery or something?

The reason we could afford to go away was because we were not spending £100 a week on toddler clothses!

One of my SILs is like that. She'll twist up her face and almost sneer that it is alright for some people to go on fancy vacations. However, her kitchen is always full of the newest gadgets. She's got a full size closet full of makeup and well, she just likes shopping so they have extra of everything. They have a huge house and it is stuffed to the brim. I think she is a bit of a hoarder but it is all new stuff. She is quite capable of getting rid of clothes that don't fit or furniture that looks scruffy. She just buys faster than she discards.

Yes people are begrudging. My friend says yeh we work hard for it. You owe no further explanation. Thats the reply I use now too!

Some people earn more than others, it is that simple.

Some people earn the same but choose to spend their disposable income in different ways. Some like nice cars, gadgets , home improvements, others like to spend on holidays, entertainment, clothes. No judgement should be made of anyone . Not nice

Not sure why you'd brag about a mid week break to centre parcs

I must have missed where OP was bragging about it. All I saw was mentioning it to friends/family - presumably in response to the question "Have you had a good week?" or "I didn't see you around last week - were you away?" or similar.

The 'I have more money because I don't (insert scorned activity here) or because I work hard' is just stupid.

I agree with you largely. The number of 'tips' I've seen where you can 'easily' save so much each year by stopping buying things that I could never have afforded to be buying in the first place is crazy.

But telling a smoker who is questioning you that you now have more money available to spend on holidays or breaks because you no longer buy cigarettes, whereas they obviously still do, makes perfect sense.

One of my SILs is like that. She'll twist up her face and almost sneer that it is alright for some people to go on fancy vacations. However, her kitchen is always full of the newest gadgets. She's got a full size closet full of makeup and well, she just likes shopping so they have extra of everything. They have a huge house and it is stuffed to the brim. I think she is a bit of a hoarder but it is all new stuff. She is quite capable of getting rid of clothes that don't fit or furniture that looks scruffy. She just buys faster than she discards.

Every time she says that, offer to help her to find the money for nice holidays by going through her budget and bank statements with her, to see 'if' there are any areas where she might be able to make savings. Should shut her up before long!

Totally agree, I took 6 months off and went on holiday (mostly cheapish countries) when I was on my late twenties. I had all these people much, much wealthier than me making comments about "did I win the lottery" ... no, I saved up for it and budgeted which you could do too. It was annoying to say the least

Term time, CP is cheaper than most Travel Lodge or Premier Inns…

We pay £16/night per person. Not that you need to justify yourself to anyone

I spend a lot on cigarettes, but it's my choice.
You have every right to do what you want with your money.

Personally I think you are reading too much into it. Center Parcs is really expensive (esp. in school holidays) so I think people just like to joke about it. I don't think it's anything to do with cost of living. If you feel the need you could just say what you said here 'we've given up smoking and drinking so have a bit more to spare now'. But you don't need to. I'd just say something silly back 'yeah, we remortgaged the house' 'yeah, I sold a kidney'....

'You appear to have more money for luxuries than some of your contemparies.'

@ilovesooty and? why is it okay for others to make remakes such as 'you must be loaded!'?

I don't go to people 'no holiday this year, things must be tough for you eh?'

OP I get you. My husband will be having a normal chat with the family, them asking us what we've been up to, with the whole family then starting to proceed with 'ohhh, how the other half live eh?'
It's f annoying. It equivalent to fat/skinny shaming.

Is this your family members who are treating you like this? Or your friends?

I just don't recognise this at all. I'm 50, and I have never had any unpleasant comments about me making changes to my house, or going on a break.

It is annoying. I am also from Ireland, work full time, am 50, and acquaintances were surprised when I bought a new car. They know I 'work in an office '. They also know I don't go out socialising, keep up with fashion. They could have the same if they weren't so keen to work part time get nails done etc.

Years ago people serving in a shop commented that the magazine I bought was 'very dear' at 5 pounds. How much were they spending on drinks and nights out!!

But no one can ‘make’ you feel anything — you’re choosing to feel guilty about your holiday. Why?