To feel really upset after 12 month check?

[Babyimyours]

For background, my sister has ASD and is non verbal. In her 20s and will never live independently. I was worried about disability before conceiving. We had genetic counselling (recommended by MIL and husband two months before our wedding but that’s another story). We had a preterm but mostly healthy baby boy who is very socially engaged and loves books and nursery rhymes.

We just had the 12 month check but did the 10 month questionnaire because of said prematurity. He did well on some things but she said that she wants to review his communication in 3 months. I feel so, so upset. If anything communication was the thing I felt relaxed about (he isn’t pulling himself up, crawling or cruising yet though is a big boy. She’s not worried about this.)

I didn’t tick the box for him saying mama or dada or babbling. The thing is, he first said mummy at six months. He has since said it sporadically as well as other words such as Daddy, Wow, Yes, No, Hi etc. He says these sporadically but in context. Other people have commented on how advanced he seems communication and eye contact wise.

I did explain this. I left feeling crushed. Probably disproportionately so because of my family history. I don’t think my husband understands why I’m so upset. He didn’t comfort me or give me a hug, just told me I was being negative. The health visitor is emailing us a list of games to play with him. It is hard not to feel judged.

AIBU to be panicking now? I wish we hadn’t gone. I feel really teary and sad.

Happy birthday to your son OP! Don't let this spoil your day, nobody can say he has a 50:50 likelihood of autism based on an internet post without seeing him.

As you can see from this thread there's a huge variety of ages that children start speaking, my DD is 2 next month and your son says more than her! It sounds like he is babbling if he's saying mumumum instead of mamama it's just not exactly as it's written on the questionnaire.

My DD often scores low on the assessments then a few weeks later starts doing all the stuff I ticked no for previously

I hope he has a lovely birthday

Don't worry. My preterm DS was very late talking properly. He did all the things you have said and even in his first class at school his teacher commented how small his vocabulary was. Then, suddenly, he was chattering away with a huge vocabulary. Now his job relies on his good vocabulary.
Don't start worrying yet and, certainly, go to future appointments.