She climbed up to get the Weetabix

[Bingoisthebestnotbluey]

Dd is 4,5 and very headstrong. She had Weetabix for breakfast-3, which was excessive to me. Later on she asked for more Weetabix as a snack, I don’t want her to have more as she has stomach issues with constipation etc & tummy aches. I got her a snack of strawberries & yoghurt and said there were tangerines & apples too. She threw a huge fit screaming and shouting that she wanted to have Weetabix and trying to knock them out of the cupboard with the sweeping brush. I took them out and put them up really high and she was shouting again. When she’d calmed down, she ate the strawberries and yoghurt and said she just wanted Weetabix because she likes it and that I should let her have what she wants 🙄I explained again why she couldn’t have more Weetabix and we’re only having them for breakfast. She accepted it and it was over (I thought)
Just making dinner before and she said she was hungry, I got her a banana & tangerine and nipped to the loo. When I came out, she’d put her wooden step up to the cupboards, got the Weetabix out and was in the process of putting them in her bowl! Aibu to have lost it?

She sounds resourceful. I probably would have been proud inwardly...

Hmm I'm with you OP.

It's not the weetabix per se. It's the you've said no and she's done it anyway. That's the bit that would annoy me. I would have also told my child off for that

Sure, don't let her have the wheetabix, but losing it and telling her 4 year old that she can't have her pocket money just seems a bit extreme.

Ok, some points have been missed 😂

The Dr says a small amount of Weetabix. Could help, but not too much, I’m not sure, but I’m following her advice, Dd had already had 3.

This was a snack later on, so after lunch etc, not immediately after breakfast. She tends to have fruit or yoghurt for snacks or cheese, crackers etc.

It was a combination of not wanting her to have Weetabix (her tummy issues are awful for her and create behaviour problems etc as she has trapped wind and tummy aches)
But also, she is going through a stage where she’s demanding what she wants and saying things like ‘I can have whatever I want’ or ‘I can do whatever I want’ 🙄
so I need to rein it in.

Her wooden step wasn’t on the table top 😳it’s on the floor, she was stepping on it, stretching up and trying to knock the Weetabix box down with her play sweeping brush 🙈

She started getting £2 every Friday night/Sat morning as she loves to get a small toy-slime, cheap teddy etc from the local shop. She definitely understands what it means and won’t have forgotten by the weekend (I do feel a bit mean about this tbh 😬)

She is a bright, resourceful and funny child ….but, she’s bloody strong and getting a bit too much with it at the moment, she shouted to me that ‘You have to be nice to your poor kid!’ 🙈😂

What?

You tell your 3 year old 'no' and he makes himself toast and peanut butter whilst totally ignoring you?

Jesus wept.

@Mariposista That’s it, I’m pretty laid back generally but this time I had to stick to it

Ok but you said

Come on now, let her have the wheetabix. It's really not a big deal, I don't know how you found the energy to be angry.

I do not have children.

That said, my first word was a nasally drawl "snnnn", which eventually became "snnnnea" and then my mum realised I was saying "cereal". I therefore get where your daughter is coming from. Solidarity ✊

I haven't read all the answer despite being a SpeedReader, but drawing from no parental expertise, I wonder whether your daughter might be craving texture. When she eats her Weetabix does she wait until they get really soggy or does she like them when they still have their lovely cardboard-y quality? If the latter, yoghurt and soft fruits may not give her the same pleasure in terms of mouth feel. Just a thought!

For all those thinking weetabix is great for constipation; there are two types of fibre, soluble and insoluble. Weetabix is insoluble fibre so OPs GP is correct in that too much can make constipation worse as it just adds bulk.

I know, and? 😂
I thought the convo was moving on?
Did you want me to just repeat my first message again?

No, I was just confused and had to check back that it was in fact you! 😂

@Tekkentime

this!

I would have been impressed with her resourcefulness. Its weetabix, not crack.
But then my 4.5 year old just poured "potions" (read water) into all his and his sisters shoes for a "speramint" and i didnt lose it. Made him help me clean up and asked what he waa helping to learn from his experiment. So we likely have different behaviour thresholds. But I think you were harsh.

@EdithGrantham That’s exactly it! Thank you 🙏 I’d forgotten the explanation but yes Dr says now and again is fine, but given she’d already had 3 😳(daddy was doing breakfast) more would not be good.

Give her 2 for breakfast. One for a snack if she wants later on ?

@Doesthepopeshitinthewoods Exactly! She’s been quite good in this respect until now and I’m pretty laid back, but I’ve noticed she’s becoming a bit of a bugger and trying to override me…I’m not having v it. Even though it’s bloody hard for me as I’m a softie, but I specifically said no on this occasion

Taking away the pocket money of a child that does not yet have the neurological capability to a) exercise impulse control or b) understand the concept of an unrelated punishment, isn't actually going to achieve much.

Although you have taught her she needs to get better at hiding things from you.

She's old enough to know that no means no, especially as you had explained to her that weetabix are only for breakfast etc

She's pushing boundaries and you definitely needed to stick to no more

@Coffeeandnaps What would you have done, out of interest?

@Pubesofsoberness Yes, you’re right

3 weetabix - crikey. That’s alot.

Don’t buy them anymore…. Problem solved.

She needs to realise no means no.

She's 4 and she gets pocket money? 🙄

What does she spend it on?

Wheatabix is good for constipation. She should have more

That’s not what I said. I didn’t say I allow him too: he tries. He can make it on his own and attempts to in the times I’ve mentioned. That doesn’t mean I allow him in those circumstances.

I think you’re overreacting it’s not that naughty, it’s just a typical thing to navigate with parenting. I was posting in support but clearly you don’t need it. Ironic that you’re judging me for having the exact same issue - those in glass houses.

You obviously aren't a Dr